Is my boyfriend cheating on me overseas?

[Papogal]

My boyfriend is currently overseas visiting his old housemates. He went with a friend. His first week there he and his mate travelled in one of the main cities before going to the city their friends now live in. Second week of the trip they went to the city there friends live. There is currently a festival going on there that has the name of the city in the title. My boyfriend was going to this festival. 3 days into being in his friends city he makes an insta post of them going on a hike. As I was commenting I noticed another girl commented. She said "aren't you adventurous". My boyfriend and I both have friends of the other gender and usually I wouldn't think twice about this. However, I had never heard him mention this particular girl before so I became curious and checked her profile. She had posted a photo of her 3 days prior going to this same festival and he had liked it. I'm assuming she works at the local bar they had been going to as she already followed his friends that live in this city. I guess he met her there and they started following each other on insta. Something I found weird though was that she didn't start following the other friend that is travelling with my boyfriend. She hadn't posted for months before this. Is this weird? Was her comment flirty? Is it normal to comment something like that on a guys post when you've only known him 3 days? Should I be worried?

Cheating

Sounds Like They Are Flirting

I'm Overthinking It

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1 mo

I would love just initial, first thing that comes to mind responses. Like whats everyones gut saying?

[Calyptomaniac]

You come across as a little paranoid unless something has gone on previously that made you lack trust in him. If he hasn't given you any reason not to trust him, then I think you should but ask about it if you like.

[andreasderjuengere]

There's nothing a hot shower and perhaps some medication can't fix.

No need to be worried.

[Papogal]

hahaha are you saying i'm being a little crazy? (not a trick question by the way)

[andreasderjuengere]

ok :) ... not a trick answer- just my practical 'old-fox-philosophy':
What happens overseas is totally out of your own control. Things happen sometimes. But rarely out of bad intentions.
See it like the festival itself: it's one exceptional thing to enjoy. He's not going overseas or to festivals twice a week, does he.
What matters more is that he will return and that whatever happened will not take away affection towards yourself.
''Cheating'' - is over rated. It's brainwash from the 'establishment' - initially invented to prevent sexuality getting out of control. By no means a relationship is about ''owning'', ''possessing'' or ''ruling'' the other person.

[Papogal]

Thank you for responding :). He and I have decided we are in an exclusive relationship, however, I understand where you are coming from. By your logic, do you think he and this girl have been romantic or are flirting or just friendly?

[andreasderjuengere]

By my logic... I don't see proof that ''something happened''.
It is one option, though.
Some social media activity only says little.

[Papogal]

thank you

[Iron_Man]

Ask him for the truth the next time you talk to him

[Papogal]

What do you think?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know your boyfriend I can’t decide what’s going on, but if there’s smoke there is fire

[Anonymous]

A random IG follow and comment means very little in my opinion

[Jeff51]

I've heard stories when people go elsewhere where. Ask him.

[Papogal]

what is your gut feeling?

[Jeff51]

Well. Definitely not good but you dont truly know tho. Need some proof.

[exitseven]

does not sound too suspicious.

[jahaims]

Why date someone you don't trust? Ignorant af

[MasterKS]

cheating is on.