How can I stop men from assuming my appearance means I’m high-maintenance?

[Bianca_Italy]

It’s not just me being paranoid, men have told me what they think of me multiple times.
They always jump to conclusions before getting to know me. For example: I’m tall, so they assume a guy has to be as tall as an NBA player to approach me. They think I look 'high-maintenance,' so they assume I'm after money. I'm outgoing and confident, so they assume I want a life full of adrenaline.

In reality, I'm just a simple girl who loves a quiet life, and my looks are deceiving, let's just say my personality and my appearance don't match at all.

What makes me mad is that they are certain I'm less 'convenient' than a girl who might be short, or out of shape, or less pretty, but then, in reality, it’s exactly that less conspicuous girl who actually wants the tall, rich guy who takes her to expensive restaurants, etcetera.

I repeat: it’s not just me being paranoid. I’m complaining about a problem because there have been multiple incidents that confirmed it for me.

[Finchie40]

People in general are always going to assume something , no matter how you dress or present yourself , so just ignore them and let them assume what they want to assume about you , because it doesn’t mean shit , Assumptions mean shit until you actually know the truth. So ask yourself this question? Do you want to be with a guy that assumes the worst case scenarios’ about. you or a guy that accepts you for you the way that you are? Don’t change who you are as a person to appease someone else. If someone can’t accept you for you then they are not the right person for
You whatsoever

[msc545]

You are essentially paying for the sins of your sisters, so to speak. Many women actually do the things that you've been wrongfully accused of so it's not surprising that men would make assumptions about you based solely on your appearance. Your profile picture is that of a very attractive woman wearing professionally done makeup. I think the assumptions probably follow from that, if nothing else. Maybe try dressing down a bit, wearing a bit less makeup, particularly lipstick, and smiling a bit more. I know smiling is not easy when you don't feel well, but give it a try anyway. You may have different results.

[capriVib]

You can't control what men think of you. Maybe try lowering your standards a little. And if that doesn't work, show up to your next date in pajamas with a Mcdonald's coupon and offer to split the bill. That should convince them you're low maintenance.

[FrodoVader007]

It's likely just intimidation.
In my opinion, making such a judgement off your height or body shape seems silly 🤷‍♂️
I've met a lot of high maintenance women who were unattractive to me, and some really sweet women who appeared scary at first.

[NathanDavis]

aren't you the same person that keeps posting about how "no men is ever good for me" lol

[queenofcardio]

People will assume , you learn to ignore it or not bother you

[DryGermanGuy]

Less makeup
Fewer expensive jewelry
No designer handbag

[Paige2006]

Just don't pay any attention to guys that think that

[rocksongwriter]

May I ask how tall you are?

[MrChinaski]

Men are cowards. I'd date you.

[Anonymous]

Marry men of your calibre and caste.

[DryGermanGuy]

There are no castes in Italy.

[Lovemove]

I don't know the exact solution to this.