Why do men only approach men when I look sloppy, not when I’m well put together?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

It's because you will be seen as "more attainable" or "less intimidating" when you aren't all dressed up. Many women dress well and are all made up nicely, but that often comes across as "upscale" and "high maintenance" and a LOT of men will assume that such women are only going to be interested in "high value" men - men who are relatively wealthy, who dress fashionably, and who have fairly high status. And even if that is far from the truth, most guys will look at the woman and think "she's out of my league - even if I could get a date, there's no way I could keep this woman long-term", and so they don't bother to try.

But when the same woman dresses down, average men see her has much more attainable and sustainable, and so they're far more likely to approach her.

[JackSmy]

COVID, work from home, and not wearing make-up, and 'office clothes'?
I actually prefer women that don't hide behind makeup, and fake anything!
I prefer the natural person, and how she really looks!! Honestly!!
So what, maybe a little soft curvy bits, here and there!! I like the 'cuddly' kind, and that is NOT 'sloppy' at all!! :)

[Lowiu]

Maybe they think you're out of their league if you take care

[Sam_The_Savage]

You still alive?

[Lowiu]

@Sam_The_Savage Yes why shouldn't I be?

[john23232323]

@lowiu Or maybe we just don't like the overdressed look? It looks like she's boring and takes herself too seriously like that

[exitseven]

Think of this as the perfect time to find a guy who is not just interested in superficial looks.

[simpleguy34]

we like natural low maintenance. there is a fone line between doing up and going overboard. all done up is intimidating for some men and appear out of league unapproachable

[OnTheLevel]

Because you are less intimidating then

[Nick245]

Maybe you have natural beauty 🤠

[In_Trance]

Maybe your perception is off