You are young. I use to think like you. your expectations are sky high for looks,
I am 100% your expectation will lower as you get older and you will know that personally is way more important than looks. I am not saying looks will not be a factor at all. But you will see that personally will become more and more important.
and dont be mad or dis pointed guys that not your type go after you. Would you rather NO GUYS go after you?
To be honest, this may hurt but you maybe not as pretty as you think. That maybe why the better looking guys are not hitting on you.
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Why don't you go approach "attractive" men then?
Completely agree with @albundyfan...
If you don't make a move on the supposed 'hot guys' you see checking you out, and you keep refusing the 'not so hot, but brave enough to approach a girl guys' you might be looking at a very lonely future.
I often find that being 'shy' is more of an excuse for cowardliness than a real feeling...
well considering he smoke, i also hate guys who smoke. but calling them unattractive like that makes you look like the worst person here. my neighbor also once hit on me but i still try to make them feel like they're attractive anyway.
be a better person to get an attractive person to hit on you. i mean your personality as well, dear.
Because they find you attractive but you find them unattractive. It sounds like you're just being really picky and you expect a hot prince charming to whip you up, but that's not how the world works. You get what you want, don't wait for it.
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Most men aren't the combination of athletic, tall, with hair, non smokers. Plus I imagine those guys are more likely to be already seeing someone or even use to being pursued. The other guys want women too and there's probably just more men you aren't attracted to available.
Shit, you sound amazing to me. I from what you've said, I ought to qualify haha (5'11, no smoke/drink, in shape, I have my hair, and just joined the military). My take is that I would love to have a girl come up to me and ask me out. I'm what is considered an outgoing introvert, so to others, I seem really outgoing, but I'm really shy, and I think a lot of guys are as well, that could very well be why they don't approach you. Where are the girls like you around me?
Same thing the attractive men are thinking, why do unattractive women approach them but the attractive women they see just look at them and not approach.
Every time an unattractive guy hits on me, it lowers my self esteem. Every Time a hot guy hits on me it boosts my self esteem. Every time a hot guy rejects me it lowers my self esteem. Its a very odd trilogy
It's life. It's like posting your resume, hoping for a good job.
The crappy sales jobs will contact you. In your case, the guys you find attractive probably have enough girls going up and initiating to them they don't need to bother, or they see your lack of approach as disinterest.
Ugly guys--and ugly gals--do more approaching, because they need the numbers.Maybe you aren't as attractive as you think or those attractive guys checking you out have someone they are dating. Looking, but not touching is what they are doing.
You want something then it usually pays to go get it instead of waiting for it to come to you.
Just because they are unnattractive to you doesn't mean they aren't nice guys give them a chance
unattractive men may feel that if they dont approach, they will get nowhere. The above average guys just kinda step outside their doors and usually get female attention, so maybe they dont feel the need to try as hard.
OK, if you want something look for it don´t wait on a miracle. Your expectations are shallow but my advice for you would be: do the first move, make a sacrifice: set a part your shyness and go after what you want.
attractive men want to be the star of the realtionship and they are often conditioned to wait it out and see who has the most to offer him.
Why don't you try approaching the men you find attractive? Have you done this? What happened when you did?
Probably because you're ugly too. Attractive guys don't want you.
Would you reject a guy because of his race? just asking.
Hi! Wanna date? lol. Have you thought of going out more?
if u think ur attractive put a pic of urself up il judge
I hope unattractive guys keep approaching you.
You can approach them first :)
Shallowness overload!!!
*brain explodes*You sound like a total bitch.
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