What would you think if a guy brings you a beautiful orchid for your first date?

[Dantemustdie]

Just say it's our first date and I bring you a beautiful orchid

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Thanks for all the answers, I think my culture is a lot different from yours, over here we don't ask out strangers so if I was to give an orchid to a girl I'd know her from some time beforehand. I asked this because I just think it's good manners to respect the lady, I just like being old fashioned. I feel as if the old ways are being lost into modern customs and beliefs, I personally don't think something as simple as an orchid can label me as trying too hard or having. A hidden agenda.

[InquisitiveMale]

DO NOT BUY HER GIFTS!

You're a guy and it's your instinct to want to provide for and help women. They're the princess locked in the tower and they're waiting for you to save them. But no. Logically it's a nice gesture but when have you ever known women to be logical? It's completely counter-intuitive but any guy whose good with women will tell you the same thing; gifts are a bad idea.

It screams "I'm insecure and I'm seeking your approval. Can I please buy a moment of your precious time?" I've wasted so much money on dead end dates it's unthinkable. All that money spent on first, second, and third dates, only to have her disappear into thin air, my wallet a little lighter.

Most guys can relate to the ideology that; the more you give a women, the more she wants, the less she gives. I'm not saying all women are like that but some are. It's not that they want to be that way but they need to in order to screen through all the retards and perverts. You need to find ways of standing apart from the pack and then cutting through all the bullsh*t and mind games.

You'll find women will generally respond better to you, if you make them earn your time and respect, and not give it away freely. Are you a nice guy? Then you only need to bring yourself to the first date and hope that in itself isn't to much; leave the flowers at home.

[Anonymous]

On a first date? I get the idea... but if I had a female friend that told me she was going on a first date with a guy and after the date she told me that he bough her a beautiful orchid; my first response to that would be . . . "Okay, so . . . what's the catch?"

[Opinion Owner]

bought*

[mccollins]

I feel as though that's something that you should do for like the third or fourth date. It's sweet but I would feel like you were trying too hard. A first date is a trial period for both of you, she has to impress you just as much as you have to impress her. If you buy her stuff on the first date subconsciously she will know that she already has you kind of whipped. If you hold of then you prolong the challenge and she will feel a need to try to prove herself..which is what you want in the beginning.

On the first date just show up on time, look nice, be yourself, open doors but you don't have to lavish her with presents.

[mccollins]

But I will say it also depends on the girl. I crave the chase so for me it would just be too much. Plus I'm not really the type who would be impressed by what you can buy me. I would be more into who you are

[xTeacup]

I would think it's beyond adorable. [:

I'd probably wonder if he normally did this on first dates though.

I guess it would depend on how well I knew the person too, and what their personality is like.

Like, if he was known to be a player, I wouldn't look too much into.

The gesture is sweet still. I don't know any girl who would be offended by an orchid..

However, the flower can't speak for you..You have to prove you're as sweet as your gesture was. :]

[LittleWing]

I'd think.. 'HE'S A KEEPER!'

Girls ADORE feeling like they're super loved. And this girl.. Well, she'll feel like she's the queen of the world. <3

[RubyRedRox]

I would be impressed since I like nature and flowers and I would find the gesture really sweet but I would also think:

1) Wow he went through all that trouble for me, he must like me yay! :]

2) Ha this player has game, I wonder what his price for this Orchid is going to be.

[queenofpeen]

It comes across as too sappy for my taste haha, but that's just me. I like it when first dates are more like casually hanging out, not like, "let me buy everything and shower you in romance and woo you with my charms."

I certainly wouldn't completely write a guy off for giving me a flower on the first date, but it would just make me uncomfortable and I wouldn't know how to react.

[heartmedic]

i agree, I love flowers more than anything, but for a first date, it's overkill, and I would feel a little uncomfortable

[Angelyn]

on a first date?

It would be different, but still really sweet.

[kady4e]

Don't keep it in front of you, or it'll get smashed by my tight hug :P

[lilly17]

i think its sweet. I'm sure some of the girls saying its overkill are also complaining to there friends that there are no good guys out there. its really cute

[vishna]

Spit in the nasty dogs face, how dare he?! >:(

Uh no, that would be a wonderfully nice, spontaneous, and romantic thing to do.

I just hope I had some history with him for such an intimate gift.

[hanskis]

to be honest I'd think that the guy was trying too hard.

[knowmeyourself]

I would wonder when the real him will rise and shine! =P

[rocksongwriter]

What do you mean?

[knowmeyourself]

It is sweet for sure but I will have doubts about his sweet gesture i.e. trying to win me to play me or is genuinely being nice.

[Dantemustdie]

can't a fella be a gentleman ha ha :D

[Kain6th]

Orchid = sex so you are right to be suspicious. :-P

[knowmeyourself]

Not that, Kain =D

@ QA: It is sweet for sure =)

[blondie2013]

I think it would be very sweet, and I'd be flattered.

[Anonymous]

I would think he cared about me. Then I would consider practicing baby making with him lol.

[brunettebelle]

That waould be very sweet but I would reLly love a rose from the guy taking me on a date.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. This is really unlikely to help your cause, honestly. Maybe for a later date (once you'd at least kissed for instance) but not the first one.

[HuG-nInJa]

I would be like AWWWWWW, it just shows he thought about you :) Now if a guy would bring me milk on a first date I would be setting a date haha

[MorganTey]

It is sweet in principle. But not in reality

[Standingpretty]

YES! great idea :) 5 stars

[Loools]

I'd think the guy was really sweet.

[magnoliacrush]

I would think that this guy has potential

[slipslender]

i'd be so flattered... orchids are beautiful :)

[curiouschica]

I'd think it was sweet and stupidly smile...=)

[justjumpit4]

i'd loooooove that :)

[Anonymous]

I'd be pleased orchids are beautiful!

[Anonymous]

sweet, but overkill for the first date

[Kain6th]

So you would not want a 2nd date if a guy did this for you?

[Opinion Owner]

i didn't say that. but it would seem like he's trying way too hard imo. the first date should be casual and low key because it's a chance to know that person

[Kain6th]

lol way to take a nice gesture and make it sound bad.

Is there any way we can please you women?

[Dantemustdie]

I'm just old fashioned, modern girls might not like it as much lol

[Opinion Owner]

it is a nice gesture, but you're coming on too strong and therefore would make it awkward. and plus, where would I put it assuming we're meeting somewhere

[Kain6th]

Impossible to please

[Opinion Owner]

lol no, not impossible. bring it on the second date by all means. but not the first!

[rockingpianoman]

agree on the overkill ;-)

[Kain6th]

All right let me ask you. Why is it awkward? Why is it too strong?

[Opinion Owner]

because it's the very first date! this is the date where you talk. you don't do gifts

[Kain6th]

Why don't you do gifts?

[Kain6th]

And you're going to say that a first date is about getting to know each others personalities, well what if this is part of his personality? He likes giving people things

[Opinion Owner]

but it's too much

[Kain6th]

Why is it too much? lol there's no logic to it at all.

[Opinion Owner]

there is logic lol. think about it this way...who do you give gifts to? people you care about. people you love. not a stranger you just met

[Kain6th]

Ahhh... there it is. you assume it's someone you hardly know. I assume it's someone you would know. So what if you knew the guy a little bit and he did this. would that still be too much?

[kheserthorpe]

I think the rest of them are not really imagining how things are, they are imagining some guy they are really really into bringing them a flower and how they'd feel happy about it. If she's already head over heels for you, you could do anything.

Odds are you are still trying to win her over, and most girls would find it _odd_ ... like you're a little desperate, and go on one date a year. When you're single, date multiple women till one outshines the rest.

[Opinion Owner]

I've never dated a guy that I've known or that I was friends with. The guys I've dated are usually virtual strangers. But I suppose if it was a friend or something I already knew that I wanted to be with, I would like the flower :)

but not from a stranger! lol

[Dantemustdie]

I don't think its awkward tbh, I think it'd be awkward if I wasn't fully comfortable in giving one to a girl in the first place. And it's just a single flower, it's not like I went out and got her a whole bunch with a card and chocolates lol

[Opinion Owner]

but a single flower is a lot more personal than a dozen

[Anonymous]

i'd think he must be compensating for something.

[FierceMegan]

It's adorable. :)

[evo220]

no. no

[TiddlyDeeBaby]

mega nawwwwness :)