My gosh, no, no, no! You are so afraid of appearing needy that you give up your healthy sense of entitlement. Yes you heard me right, you are entitled to want to feel connected!!! We all need to feel valued, needed, care for, and respected. You are so afraid of losing him that you can't even communicate your needs in a relationship to him? This isn't healthy, if he cannot or is unwilling to give you what you need to be happy in a relationship for whatever reason, you need to dump him and find someone who is willing. Don't settle for something who blow you the hot and cold. You ought to be cherished. Just because you feel strongly about him doesn't mean he is invested in you, you need to value yourself. Tell him nicely, communicate to him what your needs are!
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You thought that getting intimate would rush things in other departments of your relationship? That was your first mistake, intimacy and physical things usually rushes the relationship in the wrong way. It usually slows down any form or emotion, including talking regularly to get to know each other more. I think you should talk to him though. He could be busy or doesn't feel like that's what you want. But if you want to talk to him on a regular basis then you're qualified for that since you have been dating for awhile. Just talk to him. Communication is key.
May he just not ready for anything serious. R you dating too ? Meaning dinners and spending time publicly?
If you're 30-35 and this guy is 30-40 then I'm going to say he's not the social media d-bag generation and he can enjoy his alone time and probably focuses on work.
Personally when I'm at work or busy, leave me the hell alone. I will talk to you when I can, but give me some space.
every guy is afraid of the "don't call too much, you'll seem clingy" conundrum. And if he's seen Swingers, he's doing pretty much exactly what they recommended.
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Texting is the worst thing for relationships, so are hours on end on the phone. Personally, I like talking to a girl every few days on the phone, and maybe a text here and there. Other then that, save it for the dates and enjoy real interaction.
he might not want to scare you or even know that you would like to talk to him more - Have you told him or dropped hints? It might just be the way he was raised. I always was in a rush to get off the phone due to the fact that both of my parents ran a different business out of the house and I grew up saying what had to be said and hanging up. It annoyed my wife when we were first dating.
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