Why do men treat women so horribly?

[the90swerethebest]

OK OK so not every woman is stereotypically beautiful (blonde, slim, tallish) but even those girls keep getting treated like crap. Why do men do this?

[cmknoll3]

I'm sure you don't mean all men, but the ones that do treat women so horribly do so because they have been raised, intentionally or not, to see women as lesser people. Part of it is learned from the way our society and government treat women as a whole and the other part of it is learned from their family and friends. But many boys grow up learning, again, intentionally or not, that girls are weaker, dumber, etc. and altogether inferior to boys. Women are by no means innocent in these things either, though. Some fathers AND mothers teach their children to follow strict gender roles and teach their sons to treat women in patriarchal ways. Male AND female news pundits shame women for having a casual sex life and blame victims of physical and sexual abuse/rape for "asking for it" with the way they acted or dressed. Men and women both push the patriarchy in our society. That same patriarchy is also what leads men to fear "feminine" jobs, hobbies or clothing. It's not fair to men or women, but it puts a lot more pressure on women and tends to have higher risks for them as well (domestic abuse, rape, etc.). It's a problem with society that needs to be changed as a whole. The only way to do that, though, is with public awareness of the problem, a desire to change the status quo and time. Often generations of time. But things do slowly change if their is a need for it.

[sam13952]

why do girls go for these type of guys in the first place? and keep going back?.. there are other guys that girls really deserve but its like they are to blind to see them

[misuzi]

So who's fault is it?

[toulouse]

Shame., people only treat other people horribly, when they are trying to avoid deep seated shame towards themselves. being cruel,. believing other people are sh*t. temporarily alleviates negative feelings about yourself, or at least gives you the illusion, those feelings are about someone else. but you have to keep upping the amount.

why do guys who say they hate how clingy girls r, have to jump from one relationship to the next. they can't stand themselves& they can't stand being alone. & they can't stand either thought. so they blame it on women they are with or dumping. or how this need for space, is never actually alone time. its getting drunk, getting high, gambling, playing games, or hanging out with someone you're not with. total escapism, but not at all independence.

they get off free, for a while. but you're conscience has ways of catching up to u. often through alcoholism.

most people project to some extent..people who treat others horribly, have a severe case of projective identification. they don't necessarily react off the present either. you can project anything from any time in life, onto any new situation.

its a cycle that doesn't end, unless you are able to take a good long critical look at yourself. people who attack others, don't have to time, to look seriously at themselves.. and, that's the goal.

[JackieJohnson]

Because women think they're tough when they date a bad boy

They think they're popular when they date a Don Juan

They think they're beautiful when they date a model

They think they're wealthy when they date a rich guy

The first end up talking to her husband in the visiting room

The second come home to find her boyfriend banging another girl

The third discover that cocaine is more important than she is

The fourth get used to see escorts walking down the hall

[DanteSparda]

this should be the best answer ..!

[LiddowCupiid]

You know I think that same thing. I had a boyfriend who didn't show his true colors until about three months in and I tried on my part but we both agreed to end it, I was happy as hell. He tried to come back later but I was way past him. Women try to work it out in vain and put up with it. I wasn't gonna do that. If women let their men treat them that way they will continue to do it.

[jmr2191]

I think that's an extremely unfair and grossly inaccurate accusation. If you don't take into account biopsychosocial factors and instead adhere to societal distortions, it can sound accurate. However, clinical studies have determined that this is the exception and not the rule. Take a look at a lot of the answers from males on this site alone and you may begin to reconsider your generalization.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

For the most part guys don't really care about girls unless it's that one or 2 special women over the course of a lifetime that they fall in love with. if he's not in love with you, expect him to treat you like sh*t. this is why I maintain a distance in most relationships and don't get all emotional because more than likely he's gonna treat you like sh*t. or if he's not that bad of a guy he won't treat you like sh*t, but he'll be less invested in your feelings. it is what it is.

[shyone05]

What does them being beautiful has to do with how a man chooses to treat them. If a man thinks a girl is not beautiful in his eyes when he would have wished for her to be, why would he want to go with her in the first place to treat her like crap after? Sorry, but I think in order to get the answer you need you will have to make this question a little more specific than it is at this time.

[anthony87]

guys dont, you just see it that way.. its a matter of your perspective, not what's actually happenning.

allow me to elaborate, you think if YOU were in that guys shoes, you would treat that women like a princess etc, so you see him as a jerk because he doesn't.. that does NOT actually make him a jerk, its just your own jealousy

[DebiPie]

What the h*ll does a woman's looks have to do with her being treated well?

I think you just answered your 2nd question...Why do men do this? Because you're idiots!

[crookthings]

I was just about to say something similar, haha. Like, it's probably because they think a woman's appearance has anything to do with how well she should be treated...

[DebiPie]

Double team! :D

[vmajj92]

Uhm why do you let them? And not every guy likes blondes. I know guys that only like brunettes and brown eyes

If a girl is a slut, then she'll get disrespected. It's not right, but it was probably taught or it's nature to them

To the other girls, have confidence and just leave

[HifsMit]

They get treated like crap because they go to crap men. Good men see that and thus, the negative view of those types is born. Probably the case with most of the women-bashers here...they grow out of it sooner or later.

[nadiya]

You know, women treat men horribly too. I think the better question here is why don't we all treat each other better?

[xxyz123]

i think a lot of these men are insecure and have a need to control something so they take it out on women

[XNicholex3]

Why don't we all treat each other, as we would like to be treated?

I wish we all could lose our egos.

[myspacemybroke]

Cuz they're just broads. Not some kind of goddess that needs to be put on a pedestal or treated different from anyone else. Who gives a sh*t?

[misschanandlerbong]

ooh yeah, poor us little damsels in distress, always so harmed by the harsh, cruel behavior of men. Please.

[SilentEarth]

They don't know what it really means to be a man. The world fears true masculinity and mocks heroic virtue.

[MalloryJay]

Usually it's about sex stuff. Like if the girl says no. Or... they're just jerks. There are plenty of nice guys.

[misuzi]

Not every women is stereotypically beautiful but apparently all men are stereotypically abusive.

Glad we got that cleared up

[hayleybrooks]

here's what I say:

if we don't expect you to look like Calvin Kline models why expect us to look like Victoria secret angles, just saying

[StewieG]

Totally agree

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

not all men do this , but the ones that do are bitter because they can't get laid.

[briven]

cause girls think they're tough when they date a bad boy...sad though

[ashtonm]

Your question is extremely ambiguous. In what context are you asking this?

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Most likely the signs were there but she chosen to ignore them.

[bluedolphingirl]

my answer is immaturity they don't realize high maintenance men won't stay around...women can be the same way. once they mature they realize what they need and want is so much deeper than a trophy.

[Stunned_Mullet]

Google "narcissism"

[ayagi]

its explain everything.. :))