Likes me, but only ready to hangout, not date! Should I still hangout with her?

[astroman]

Got this girls numbers, texted for about a date, then took her out on a small date and kissed her on the cheek at the end. She said she had a great time, and loves a guy that make her laugh. I asked to see her again, and she said she had recently gotten out of a relationship and isn't ready to date anyone and have it go somewhere. She then went on to say, "but id love to hangout with you"

So, my question is...what the heck is the difference between dating and hanging out to her?

I assume she likes me, but just isn't ready to jump back into another dating scene?

Should I still hangout with her, being friendly, flirt with her, and maybe hold her hand if were watching a movie?

[emmabee11]

She just sounds like she's really scared of getting hurt again, I know what it's like to get hurt and try to make my way back to being comfortable with letting someone in again, I have told guys this before that I just want to hang out because I just want to be around you without any expectations of what is going to happen, I don't want it to go fast, I don't want to expect anything because there is just no way I can feel anything if a guy is there the whole time sniffing around expecting me to date them already, it's just really not letting me come out of myself or make me feel comfortable nor does it really show that a guy can respect me. Put a screeching stop to those wheels of yours and just chill out with her as friends for a while, don't make any more moves just yet or you will just push her away, the last thing you should do is lay on any pressure right at the start even with any girls, be there for her and show her your a nice guy and let her come to you in her own time, just see how it goes, good luck!.

[SparklingFirefly]

It's not fair, but sometimes a girl will flirt with a guy when she's fresh out of a relationship. And she'll do it to kind of take her mind off the guy she broke up with. Either way I think she just sounds confused. She's probably having a hard time moving on from her ex, and is maybe even unsure of if she's ready to let go of that relationship. She seems confused and hurt and probably doesn't want you to have to pay for that. Best thing to do is to stay friends if you really like her, but be cautious. And don't put in more work than she does. Things need to be equal effort. That's how you'll know how serious she is. Just don't let her string you along. Good luck with everything!

[RebelOfNowhere]

I'd just respect her wishes for the time being..hang out and get to know her but don't make any moves. Doing that after she told you she wasn't ready will push her away..maybe after a few times hanging out you could ask her where she's at and if shed be comfortable with you asking her for a date. From what you said she seems honest about that sort of thing..

About the difference between a date and a hanging out situation...it's honestly just about the context. A date might be more special..like dinner and a movie instead of just the movie where it would feel like if you were just going with one of your friends.

[CarinaCath]

Oh gosh! I dislike girls / guys who do that. Why start flirting and texting and even going out on a date when you are not ready to date anyone!? It is so annoying.

I guess the difference is that dating usually ends up you two being a couple but "hanging out" doesn't. Hanging out may end in friend zone. I do have male friends with who I love to hang out but I'd never date them.

She also may like you very much and hold you close, so as soon as she feels better and is ready to start dating again she has you.

Maybe you should ask her if you should wait for her or should you keep on dating?

[astroman]

ask her to wait for her, or keep on dating?

Do you mean date other people?

[CarinaCath]

I would ask. Yeah I mean date others, since if she is not into you then what's the point waiting for someone who is not into you?

Lots of luck!

[Alli39]

If you really like her and are ok committing time to something that isn't necessarily going to end up as a relationship then yeah, go for it. She's probably still working through her emotions from her last relationship.

Hanging out basically without dating would pretty much just mean don't flirt, limit physical contact, and just generally act like a friend. (Minor flirting and physical contact might be ok, which just make sure you ask her what she's comfortable and avoid anything especially sexual.) She knows you're into her, so if she decides she's ready and is sure you're what she wants then she'll let you know. Just be aware that it make take her a while before she's ready to have someone become such an important part in her life again, and if you're going to resent the time it takes or an outcome where you don't end up dating then don't bother.

[pervertedjester]

I would skip it. You run the risk of becoming an Emotional Booty Call. Just there to help her rummage through her emotional baggage until she casually meets someone else that she can move on with. Phrase it as nicely as you want to her but yeah don't get caught up in it.

[Anonymous]

Hanging out = getting the benefits of your time and attention without feeling the need to reciprocate any of it.

Dating = getting the benefits of your time and attention while feeling the need to reciprocate.

The correct answer to her request = No thanks.

[Celeste96]

Your assumptions are correct! And I'm so sorry you are going through this, you really shouldn't have to. It's not fair.

If you really like her, then stick with it. But if not, don't waste your time. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

If you think she is fun and makes a good friend then yes hang out with her.

If you are expecting anything more than friendship then don't.

From what you say above I think she doesn't see you as more than a friend.

[WhitneySnow]

Sure but be prepared to just be friends. She might be into the flirty holding her hand thing or she might not.

[JamesRandiDebates]

If "hanging out" includes BJs, go for it.