I love girls that are independent because they have it together and are fun to be around. But I realized today that when in a relationship I really need a girl who is a little more clingy. A little more willing to devote a lot of time for me. And, oddly enough, a girl who expects me to show up to and support her in her endeavors and gets mad if I don't. A girl who I can do things for and would want to spend a ton of time with me and has tons of PDA. Are there are drawbacks to this? I have even dated girls like this, but after dating a girl who is totally independent I realize that its not the kind of relationship I want.
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You need a balance. "independent women" are too extreme and claim they "don't need a man" but don't realize they want one but can't admit it.
Clingy girlfriends... they can be clingy! I mean clingy as in the sense where you have something important to take care of and they're yelling at you for not dropping what you're doing to see them. I took a girl's number once and spotted her clinginess right away when she flipped out on me for not hanging out with her the very next day.
People just want to feel wanted. Nobody wants to be taken for granted and now with girls worrying about being clingy they distance themselves so much to the point where they never get into a relationship anymore.1