He has blocked me twice?

[Anonymous]

There is a guy that I've known since grade 8 and now here we are in our 30 and trying to become a couple. He gets upset with me if I don't call or text him but every few days. Hell send me a text that says he can't do this anymode, that I'm clearly not intetested since I rarely call him. And so next thing I know, he ends up blocking me from getting I'm touch with him! He did this once and then unblocked me. And now he's done it again except who knows if he will unblock me now. I have a friend who says she understands why he wod do that. But I just think its dumb.

[aguizzot]

This is actually common. This guy may or may not really like you. In my experiences, if this can help you at all, the guy and the girl are interested in the chase. It is always fun to be that "new couple" or "close to dating" phase but in reality when we like someone and have to be away from them, we change our behavioral patterns. This is more of your problem for not seeing why he is doing this and his problem for changing his normal behavior. Without you, he probably doesn't call other people out of the normal schedule, probably has a good beer outside work without stress and has a simple life. When a woman he likes is involved and he invests his time in to it, the smallest change that he doesn't like can make it seem like it is your fault.

Try this, tell him not to message you for 5 days; no calls, no texts and if you don't end up acting the same way he does by being all curious at first, pissed off, blocking him and then trying to forgive yourself by unblocking him then he isn't the guy for you.

If you do end up freaking out about not having him contact you for 5 days then you are probably going to be in a world of crazy. He might be out with another woman, he might be lying to you about something.. etc... when time is separated from us, it can beg a thousand questions. Even if you trust the person, it doesn't matter. I have seen what happens to even the best of couples when communication and physical presence is diminished for 4 or 5 days.

it is normal trust me.

[Reynier]

He's insecure, but you're not taking the relationship as seriously as he is. It takes effort, from both sides. If you really like each other putting in that effort should be easy.

[Anonymous]

Amongst the Apple is wrong.. I don't think he's insecure.. I think he's annoyed. He wants to talk to you when he wants to also, not just when its convenient for you. That's probably how he feels. And he gets angry and block you cause of your behavior...but then he'll realize he'll miss you and just maybe you don't mean to do it, but you continue to do it, and the cycle goes over again.

He wants to disappear, but what would happen if you needed him..so he unblock u.

Yeah it dumb, until that one day he's gone forreal cause uve taken him for granted.

Good luck

[Tryintoflirt]

Forget him. It's obviously not working out. Why force it. You two clearly don't understand each other. Let it go.

[martyfellow]

It's pretty sad when you condition your relationship on how you communicate in cyberspace, no?

Tell him to get a life, and if he is desperate to hear from you, to come and actually SEE you!

[AmongTheApples]

Yeah, I understand why that he'd do it too; he's insecure. You don't want to be with someone that insecure. He's likely to be very possessive.

[deWho]

He is a drama queen. Do not waste your time.