Have you been an outsider in school?

[curiousnorway]

I'm wondering if you've been an outsider or not as popular in school. I'm not necessary meaning bullying, but just not getting so much attention or privilege like the popular ones and the members of the gang. Outsider can be that person who didn't get the opportunity to join it or choose to not do it.

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I've been an outsider often although I'm outgoing and talkative. Popular people prefer their group members to be a pack of "wolves" or "sheep", not someone who stands out and is in depended since they often thinks outside of the box. How people don't like too boring people they don't like too much of the opposite either. They prefer it on an ordinary level. I was standing too much out and was the "crazy one" in ordinary school and I was still standing out when I went to a special school. ..

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at the special school it was the opposite. They were too special for me and they focused too much on their diagnoses instead of creating a better school environment for the class. They also had extraordinary behavior.

[LaFemmeFatale]

When I was very young there were some girls groups that wanted me to be their member but I didn't like them, they bullied others, smoked and had new boyfriends every other day. I refused being with them cause I wasn't like them and I had my own mind and hated being with some silly girls. I was friends with one of these girls but once she told the guy I liked, I liked him so I said fuck her and left the group.

After that I was kinda outsider till I created my own gang haha. The one with really cool and great girls, I loved them so much. They were loyal, strong-minded and cool. Our gang was opposed to the gang I was member of earlier.
At that time I was really popular at school. Everyone knew my name and imitated my style. Don't really know why :D Just I had that attitude I guess.

Me and my girls stayed together till we finished the school.
Two of them are law students like m right now, , one of them is a popular singer and has a great talent, I am sure I will see her in alla Scala one day.
Sadly we rarely meet each other nowadays.

[JustJules]

It was odd for me back in school. I liked to be myself and I was a nerd but that's not a bad thing I was happy. I feel like I was popular but not so much for looks but because I was nice to people and I would listen to a person who had problems and just needed a friend. I would still go off by myself at times and keep in mind I went to a smaller school and we all knew each other to an extent. I was picked on sometimes but the people who did that would also still say hi to me in the hallway sometimes. It was a typical small school setting. When I got to college I did spend most of my time alone in the library. I had a few friends but we all had classes at different times. So it was an interesting experience.

[CubsterShura]

Boy. I totally relate. I'm also outgoing and talkative but I'm non-existent in school, except that now I'm the class monitor so in my absence the students have to do all the work I used to do (rub the board, call the teacher, besically be the maid of the classroom).

But yes. I feel like an outcast. In my childhood I was bullied. Even now I'm not really bullied but avoided. No one likes me. But I never harmed them in fact I'm too nice.

My life is miserable. I wonder if there's anything wrong with my personality.

[pingiluv]

Outsider in school in a way I was, high school I talked to everyone but I was super geeky but a bad girl if that makes sense? Like I would go take the weekly test after ditching everyday except Friday and get an 80% or higher in the class even though I never showed up lol.

I'm more of an outcast in work place because I don't gossip or hang out after work... I just am an introvert and prefer to not go out with coworkers lol.

[Datnotit1]

wouldn't you be suspended if you don't show up that much... in high school

[pingiluv]

Surprisingly enough my high school years no, I was part of this "smart kid academy" and the teachers would scold me but nope, my parents were always working so I would always pick up the phone when the school called. I eventually dropped out 2 months before I was about to graduate. I developed bad angry anxiety so I dropped out

[Datnotit1]

if you're from the US it makes no sense because there are rules for attendance and you get suspended... may be other country it's possible to skip like that.

[pingiluv]

lol I graduate back in 2002 so keep up with the regulations, now it's way more strict than when I went to high school. Not trying to be mean but why would I lie to you about it? Makes no sense a stranger would lie to you about ditching schools. All we would get was a call and I would go home and erase the message before my parents got home usually after 7-8 pm

[Datnotit1]

no, I wasn't just lying but curious honestly. Because school in US nowadays is like prison. You can't get many days off or else you have to repeat. No matter how good your grades are. I know it's more flexible in other countries... because I have lived in other country.

[Datnotit1]

not everyone on gag is from US, you know...

[curiousnorway]

Norway also have a strict system where you can't get many days off. If you're away from math lesson for more than 10% you don't get a grade in that subject. Same applies to the other subjects.

[BlueCoyote]

Yes, I have always been an outsider. No bullying though, just an outsider. During my elementary and junior high days I kinda suffered from this but later it was also somewhat self-chosen. I think I also enjoyed the fact of staying kind of under everyone's radar.

The reason why I was an outsider mostly had to do with my personality. Due to the disability I was born with and the type of life it gave me (which wasn't always easy), I have always been a very mature person. For example I always thought a lot about my future career - partially because I was forced to (already in elementary school, I had to start planning what I want to do later, what types of high school I need to attend etc.). I think at times I was too serious to care about being a child or a teenager. My parents and teachers loved me for this but among people my age (including my siblings) I was considered very uncool and kinda boring.

[Naydyonov]

All my life.
in Kindergarten I had no friends really and the teacher would steal my stuff occasionally so would other classmates.
My first elementary school was better, I had 1 friend friend in grade, by grade 2 I had 3 friends, interestingly I met 2 of them after they chased me down and beat the shit out of me.
By grade 3 it got better and I started talking to 2 girls, and had more guy friends.
Then in March of grade 3 I left to my other school. Now I had a few guys to hang out with, but in general the school was weird. Everyone were cheats.

From grade 3-8 I had 2 friends and that's it.

In high school I had 3 friends and a few semi friends for a semester.

Now I only really talk to 2 of my friends occasionally. I briefly met with the one friend I had in grade 1-3, who I hadn't seen in 8.5 year, that was 4 months ago.

Yee

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I didn't really notice a blatant popular group in my high school. There were people who were part of certain groups or organizations on campus that you would see more because of their involvement, but I don't associate that with them being the "popular" kids. I wasn't an outsider nor very popular kid. I wish I could've done better in high school though 😅. Much better. I'm doing fantastic now, but I wasted my high school years. I was also more quiet back then

[Alessus]

In my upper secondary school, most students didn't belong to the "popular kids" or the "gang" category, but I wouldn't consider them to be "outsiders" either. They were just normal students, had their own social circles and interests. But to answer your question, no I wasn't one of the popular guys, though I did hang out with them aswell on occasion, because a good childhood friend of mine was one of the most popular guys in the school.

[tartaarsaus]

Yeah, I'm kind of an outsider. Right now this is mainly because I don't waste myself by drinking 2 times a week. In other times, I just prefer to kick back, put on my headphones and just work on school or anything else I'm doing so that also means avoiding socialising.

[KingOfMaise]

I see myself as a very talented rapper/singer and could easy make a hit but being the the outsider and seeing how people saw me it made me feel that I'd never wanted to be in the public eye cause then I'd probably get a lot of hate and criticism because I'm different

[KingOfMaise]

never really wanted close friends either for the same reason

[KingOfMaise]

graduating school is the best thing that's happened to me cause most people I met in school I had nothing in common with and I was forced to see them every day but the people I've met out of school (most of them if not all are 3+ years older than me) aren't too critical of my weirdness

[KingOfMaise]

my point is never be bothered by how people precieve you in school cause when you graduate you probably will never see them again

[WhiteDuck]

Why do Americans make a big deal out of this shit? In movies, in series, there's always this kid with this type of stupid problem.(I assume you're American )

I wasn't popular and I didn't had problems with that.

[curiousnorway]

I'm Norwegian and therefor my username is "Curiousnorway" (Curious Norway). It's not only an American problem. It's an issue in every countries and also here in Norway.

[WhiteDuck]

yeah, I realise the problem with my comment. I think saying"first world societies" is more suitable than "American society".

[Radical11]

I was shy in school and didn't speak that much. So much so, in my yearbook, they would say I'm kind. Not happy, not athletic, not a joker. All they could say is that I was there. Didn't change until I went to college.

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was in school, I was in the group of intellectually gifted students and I was also in the group of gifted musicians, so I had two groups to which I belonged. I was not outgoing and I was never very popular but I was definitely not an outsider.

[wankiam]

been an outsider all my life but the more i look in, the happier i become about that. never been a sheep

[BubbleBurster]

Yea. I used to be invisible because I was very quiet and reserved. The first thing people would say to me whenever they see me was "are you okay" lol.

[Thia18]

I get that too

[booshlinux]

Yes I have, and it was my strength. I didn't follow trends and I played by my own rules. And the vaginas around me picked up on that.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Yeah I was weird but then all of the sudden I started talking more and people from all different groups wanted to be friends with me lol.

[deraz24]

Probably bc I didn't talk much bc why lol, in school I had a select amount of people I socialized with bc I liked it that way. That's not a bad thing

[Powderkitty]

We are all outcasts at some point... you know what's worst? When you think everyone is there for you but in reality you have none.

[TacosRAwesome]

I was the shy girl who was best friends with the weird girl, so the regular girls kinda avoided us. So I was a bit of an outsider.

[alice55]

In middle school mostly during my second years yes.

[blondfrog]

I have always been the story of my life. I was the guy even in high school who sat at the lunch table all by himself.

[clampfan101]

I remember having a few friends in school, but still very much an outsider.

[jansoka]

I was Not the one with the Most Friends but i Had my girlfriend and also several other friends

[DizzyAster]

I was always an outcast. It was cool, since I found other outcasts.

[jaydtre]

I mean I was a loner, but playing sports made me popular in a way.