Is it petty and narcissistic to screw over your job by leaving for a new job, when they’ve been overworking you?

[Anonymous]

if I left, it would really screw them over right now because we’re short staffed...

Yes

No

[LesterJester]

Not at all. It goes both ways, where you put in the effort and do your best for a job and pay, and they should, well, pay you of course, but also ensure the environment you work in is a good environment that makes you want to stay. They should also show that you have progression and not stuck in one place for the rest of your time there.

If not, then anyone would get burnt out and start to question exactly why they're even there.

There are many employers all around the world who will try and maximise the output of their employees while dealing with as little expense as possible, because that means more profit for them. If they can push you to do the work of two people while only paying for one employee, then most will push that as far as they can.

Even if you start to show you're at your breaking point, they'll toss you a bone and maybe some help to ease things for you, only for it all to go back to the way it was in a few weeks, just to string you along.

I've gone through plenty myself. It's not petty and narcissistic to leave for another job, because it all boils down to us working for a pay so we can continue to live our lives.

One should not live solely just to work. We work merely so we can live. I put all my effort into any job I do, but at the end of the day, I want to live my life. I want to go places, see people, relax, explore, go on vacations and so on. In order to do that, I need money, so I need to work.

If I end up busting my ass day in and day out, with no raise for 2 or 3 years, then start working extra hours to get more shit done for the job more often, you have to ask yourself exactly what the Fk are you doing it for?

Nobody has to work anywhere they don't want to. If a company or boss can fire an employee for doing a shit job, then an employee can quit a job and go for a better one if the company they work for is shit. It goes both ways.

My life, my family and my personal time off is my own and my primary focus. Although I bust my ass off at work and try and do the best I can, my job is secondary to my life, my health and my family.

If my job begins to affect any of those things in a negative manner, then I don't need that fk'n job.

If you quit and go to another job and they're left having to figure out how to get everything done without you because they overworked you and burnt you out... Who's fault is that?

[MrNameless]

It's not. I mean, ideally you want to leave in the best way possible and help them out as much as you can.. because its good to have a reference for future jobs, and future employers will be contacting your previous jobs. You really have to think about your professional reputation.

But you have every right to leave your job, and justified if you don't like it/don't see a future there and are over worked and under appreciated. And just think that you can be replaced anyway.

But just do your best to leave the right way, and don't feel bad about it. They will adapt with you leaving (likely decrease the workload until they find someone else and train them). Send them two weeks notice and help ease the transition.

[MrNameless]

Be open with your management if you feel overworked. They might not know how you feel.. Keep that line of communication open. Good managers will understand. If its really bad or you found a better job, then leave.

[Pistolpete90]

You are not a bad person for doing what's best for you, don't think for a second that they wouldn't fire you immediately if it suited their interests.
Work to live, don't live to work.

[girlwithsomeqs]

Business isn't personal. Do whatever the hell you want. They wouldn't keep you around if they didn't need you. So don't stick around if you don't need them.

[AdithyaR]

Nope not at all, if they're overworking you, it's not good for you.
My mother worked as a teacher and they constantly overworked her to the point she was so stressed that she'd be constantly tired and developed chronic neck pain. She left the school even though they were short of staff for English teachers cause her health was more important.
The same goes for you, your health and wellbeing is more important and you should cater to that.

[BeMuse]

Seems short sighted to me. From my perspective it’s an opportunity to negotiate a raise. If they want me to take on more responsibility, then I expect more money for my time. Obviously the burden is being shifted to me, because I am dependable and competent. Thus I’m worth more than the people around me. That gives me leverage. Running away from responsibility is the pussy move.

[Lynx122]

Nobody gets paid more by getting a raise nowadays, they've already got you under contract and they don't want to pay you more. If you negotiate well you can get a 15% increase in salary when you switch jobs. You'll never get that if you ask for a raise. So it's the smart decision to leave.

[BeMuse]

@Lynx122 It all depends on what you do and what you are worth, but if you’re thinking of jumping ship anyway to a job at another company there is no harm and taking the risk to claim a larger piece of the pie. That’s all part of the equation. When you make demands for more pay, you have to be willing to walk away or else there is no weight behind your words.

[HikerDude]

Maybe. It really depends on how they've mistreated you. I got mistreated by one hospital I worked for, and I no longer answer their work requests. In some cases, this has even forced them to go out of area to find staff, but that's their problem. The only way to teach some of these people to treat employees better is by walking away from them.

[SystemOfTheMachine]

If they are overworking you, then they are the bad guys in this situation. You need to worry about your rights as a worker, because you're more important than your employer. Don't let them take advantage of you.

[Lynx122]

You can get a big pay increase if you switch jobs so you should try and negotiate well before you leave :)

[douride2]

Always do what is best for yourself. Most companies & bosses do what is best for them selves or the company. Why should an employee be any different then the employer?

[GAGSucksBalls1]

Only if you do it in a bad way. If you just put your two weeks in and leave on good terms, then no, it's fine but, if you quit on the spot and ignore them, then yeah, that's not cool

[Pete671]

Yes it is, crack on and use the experience to develop a stronger work ethic, but dump them as soon as you get a chance lol,,,

[Shuri]

Only if it's a career. I'm a teacher, and I would never do that, but if I were a cashier... bitch, fuck you. I'm out.

[apimpnamedslickback]

The whole reason behind working is to maintain your benefit. Your employers are not your friends and they never will be, so do whatever is best for you.

[CapitalismFailed]

Fuck them, they can get someone else. Or do it themselves, who cares?

[bend-u-ovr]

Of course it is but do they have it coming dam right they do

[Miyasee_]

Sure if you don’t need their reference.

[Tomtom9090]

How does narcissism play any role in this?

[Anonymous]

No lmao. They deserve it