How do you get over a frustrating few days at work?

[Anonymous]

Like my job idea and the job itself is easy. But there’s so many suck up’s and snitches there that it gets unbearable. But I fortunately have a couple friends that don’t participate in all that. The other day it just reached a peak and it’s not even like I’m doing anything or my friends are it’s things like “you were seen talking to so and so” like because it’s the slowest day of the week. But how do you get over bad days or few days?

[ManOnFire]

Your job sounds like the corporate world. If so, I can relate to the environment. It's full of busybodies and people always watching and listening just waiting to tell everybody about something. Also the guys nowadays gossip more than the females, and they're two-faced with their own little fraternity groups.

But rest easy knowing this unfortunate fact: you can do everything right at work and people will still find a reason to say you did something even when you really didn't. So what if you were seen talking to so and so? That was your business and you don't need to explain it unless the other person complained about you talking to them, and the only person you need to explain to is the manager if they bring it to your attention.

Best thing to do is not let it be known to people that the toxic environment is getting to you, because that's what they want. Always keep a cheerful attitude and keep coming in on time, chat with the ones you like, and show good job performance. This irritates people who hate you or gossip about you, because they want to see you frustrated and worried about all the drama. Don't give it to them.

[Asker]

Thank you! And That’s exactly what’s going on. Like I talk to 2 people by choice and anyone else that talks to me comes to me to talk. Then someone there that hates life sees it and runs to the supervisor and I’m in the office. But me and the supervisor are cool and he likes my work attitude and work ethic but is getting tired of hearing it. Like I’m not going in and be a silent person like I’m going to talk and do stuff. But there are so many 2 faced people but luckily I trust like no one. This one guy tried to get close and be friends but he used to hangout with a group of snitches until their “leader” quit. So he’s not trusted. Luckily no one I’ve talked to has complained about me. They tell me talking to me makes work fun and time flies. I want to quit but I already have a job that pays decent for my current living situation. And if I quit and the next job gets like this I can’t keep quitting jobs. This will only build me. Plus I’ve been in worse and luckily this is only in work gossip I’ve seen out of work gossip and a-holes

[ManOnFire]

Your environment is completely identical to mine. I know exactly the types you're dealing with. And I hate to say it, but the men are the WORST ones. Like I said, they gossip more than the women do nowadays, and they try to stir up shit in the hopes that they can drag you down or try to get you in trouble. And if it's a FEMALE they see you talking to, they will definitely try to make trouble for you. Because they're jealous that they aren't the ones who can be cool with her. So they'll stir up rumors about you to make you look bad in the workplace, as if you're doing something inappropriate, and that can be very damaging for your image and job. They know this and that's what they want to happen. Men tend to create most of the drama in these situations. Women are only problematic if they're seriously LOOKING for a reason to complain about you.

You're doing the right thing though. Keep showing them that they won't break you.

[Avicenna]

Don't dwell on it- move on and realize that things won't always be like that.

[Anonymous]

I keep as much to myself as I can, and leave work problems at the door when I clock out. Although there are a few women I’m cordial with, I don’t have work friends. To me it’s better, that way I can avoid any drama or gossip. Just do my hours for the money then go home to my real life with people who actually matter.

[jahaims]

If that is what you call a bad day you have it made lol

[Iron_Man]

Take a road trip for a couple days or more