Did your dad go to college or university? Did his parents pay for it, where did he go? If he went away to school and didn't stick close to home, then you may have to remind him of this.
I know dad's try to be protective and all, and trust me, we do have your best interests in mind, but we shouldn't try to keep you close, for our sake. You have to start making life decisions and those decisions mold the person you become. Moreover, we should never treat a daughter any different than if we had boy in these situations, either. So if you have a brother who is allowed to go out of state, that sends a bad message.
Regardless, if you do talk to him about it and try to convince him to let you go to Texas, let him know you appreciate all he is doing and that he cares enough about you to be concerned. Some young adults don't get this type of opportunity and it is a privilege not a right, so he is doing you a huge favor. Some of the things you may want to remind him is he should be proud his daughter is brave enough to be that far away from home. Not a lot of young adults your age could do that. He obviously raised a confident woman.
I always go back to put yourself in their shoes. Believe me, It is tough to let your kids grow up. You may very well experience the same thing some day, so go easy on him and keep your cool when you're trying to rationalize going. If you yell and scream, and carry on like a child rather than an adult, then you'll only further convince him your not mature enough to be on your own and that far away from home.
Anyway, that is my two cents worth. Good luck, and remember, it is a good thing he worries/cares.
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Welcome to the club, my friend. I had this exact same situation, just substitute Florida for Washington. Thinking my only option was to take what dad offered, I went to Florida State for a semester. I was miserable and left before Thanksgiving of my first year.
So, you can take you parent's money and go to school in Washington, or you can move to Houston, get a job, grants/scholarships/student loans and call your dad's bluff. It might not be a bluff.
There's pros and cons to both courses of action. Not gonna lie, it was hard. But everything I have in life right now has to do with my sweat and my wife backing me up, not because my parents sent me to college.
Here's the thing: a "free" college education from your parents might be worth putting up with Washington. This isn't trying to make it on Broadway -- there's no substitute for that. I'm not dismissing Houston but my point is that although it's a want of yours, and I hear you when you say high school 2.0, think long and hard before jettisoning the safety net of paid for college and home for a few years.
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Have you visited both schools? What do you plan to study? It's sad to say, but we are in a student debt crisis and your degree of choice may largely define your quality of living after school if you decide to take out loans to pay for school yourself. Unless you get a full-ride scholarship (unlikely for 99% of people), you need to know how much you can expect to earn after you graduate.
I chose my university (in-state) based on cost AND diversity and I'm grateful for that choice. I largely paid for it myself, but even with an in-state engineering degree it took me several years to pay the loans. Now I'm in my thirties and still can't buy a house. My friends who earn less are even worse off and still paying their loans. Debt has stunted our lives in many ways.
An offer to pay for your tuition is no small thing. That is a cost that could follow you for decades otherwise. Perhaps there are other schools in-state you could consider? You can also compare the degree programs at both schools (graduation rates, overall quality, typical earnings after graduation). You can also supplement your studies by studying abroad. This could be a good way to stay in-state and still experience the diversity the world has to offer.
Good luck
I know a guy who teaches at the university of Texas and he is a fraud, he will randomly assign you a grade based on how skinny and rich you are and won’t change your grade because he thinks he can get away it. Texas might not be the dream school you think it is, even my uncle was scammed by a racist professor who refused to grade him fairly which is why he works as a Chinese medical herbalist and acupuncturist and not an American MD, while living in America. He was a medical professor in China, but the racists did not bless him with an American MD.
you could pull a trick a relative did... go to Washington and fail every class due to the social distractions.
The solution thus being, go to Texas. problem solved.
How about find out what his issues are and address them?
beat him at arm wrestling?
Student loans are a huge hassle and you should be extremely grateful that your dad is offering to pay for your college. You're in a very privileged position and you should take advantage of that.
By all means debate the merits with your dad, but if it comes down to it, you should just bite the bullet and go to WSU and save yourself the tens of thousands of dollars of debt.You either go along w his plan or make your own which means being an adult, paying for it some how. Be a strong, independent women as the saying goes these days. It’s a shitty situation but not the worst. You always have options, even if someone puts a gun to your head there’s always choices. Besides how much better would it make you feel in the end if you could achieve this on your own?
what degree are you looking for in texas that washington doesn't offer?
Get a loan for the difference of state rate and out off state rate?
You do what you want, are you willing to work to pay your college? Or are you not motivated to do it?
Unless you want to pay your own way, you stay in Washington.
Figure out another way to pay for it if this is what you're gonna do
Pay for your own college.
You either go in state or pay for your own way.
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