Is it wrong to try to show off your beauty while looking for a job?

Question

Do you show off your beauty while looking for a job?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So let me be honest I have been on both sides of this issue, as a handsome man, and as a hiring authority.

Now if you think I am a handsome man or not is debatable, but for argument's sake let's just say I think I am handsome enough to impress more than the average women. When I interview, I always try to present a professional appearance, but yeah, I make sure I have a clean hair curt and groomed appearance... and if that makes me look more attractive as person or employee so be it.

Now as a hiring authority... I always look for people that presented a professional appearance. If you are an attractive person, pretty woman or handsome man, that is not something you can hide... but if you feel you need to amp that up... then yes it was a negative to me. Yes, I have hired all types of people, thin and fat, cute and ugly, of all races and creed. Came down to qualifications and professionalism.

With that said, I am a man. If I felt a woman was trying to use her physical features to gain favor... I passed every time. Be it a low cropped top with cleavage, a short skirt with gorgeous legs with high heels, flirty nature... whatever it was I disqualified her. Of course, being a heterosexual man, it's hard for me to say when came to men... but I sat on panels with women who I think felt the same way about men and even more so about women who they perceived were doing it. Woman can be even harsher judges of other women, who use their sexuality to gain favor. Especially professional type women... for me it makes me feel uncomfortable when this happens, but to these professional women who sit on these hiring panels... fucking hate it.

Honestly for me as man, I did not want some women showing off her very nice cleavage or gorgeous legs at work. Sure, on a human level as a man I liked it, and I noticed that I liked it... but in an office environment I don't need it or want it. I never engaged or indulged in that kind of thing. To me it was unprofessional, and somewhat distracting... and if I got the feel that this was type of person who would use that type of manipulation to gain favor... it was a HARD NO!!!

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

I don't know.
Is it wrong? - No, there's no rules against it.
Is it unfair to those without beauty? - Yeah, but that's life.

Besides, if you're an attractive woman you'll gain favor or advantage by many straight men regardless if they are flirting or not because we are generally weak on that spot.

When is it right? - When applying for jobs where your beauty makes a difference. Like sales, jobs that require face-to-face communication or ones where beauty or fitness are important.

Otherwise..
Question to yourself would be wether you want to play to your natural advantages or if you want to be equal and earn the position?
Regardless how you get the job, you shouldn't play to those advantages while on the job or others will dislike you for it.
But like said, sometimes even if you cover it up, straight men will offer their aid or have a hard time saying 'no', simply because they are men and lack either self-dicipline or self-awareness.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think it’s okay to show off your beauty because it won’t drastically increase your chances of getting hired if you don’t have the skills and experience they need from you. Physical and social attractiveness is similar to social skills, it makes people want to be around you, but nobody wants a model who can’t fulfill their duties at work. I know ugly people who can barely speak English that make more money than STEM professors because they have technical ability and experience. On dating sites, there rejection rate would be 99%, but they are smart and get hired faster than apples fall from trees.

menina · Accepted Answer

Yes I think it is. Unless the job you're applying to requires using your beauty. Otherwise you're there to work not to "seduce" your boss or your coworkers.

I don't show off my beauty while I'm looking for a job. However, once I went to an interview and the man who was interviewing me said he enjoyed meeting me and that I was humble and pretty. It was so awkward! 😬

snowboarder720 · Answer

I don’t find it wrong. Women can wear what they want because they like it.
What bothers me is when some women use their beauty to their advantage and get what they want because they purposely show off their ass by wearing yoga pants or show off their cleavage by wearing a revealing low cut V neck shirt.
Meanwhile some women are protesting against sexualizing women at work, school, and other public areas.

It really doesn’t make sense to have women who love to purposefully show off their bodies to gain an advantage over others and then turn around and say “stop sexualizing me”. It’s unfair to the super strong hormones that men have. It’s a total double standard.

FieldOfVision · Answer

I think it is important to look good when looking for a job in order to appear professional; however, it shouldn't be the main focus. Jobs look for proactively hard-working people with skill sets that will benefit their business. If you are hired just for your appearance, there is something wrong with that (unless you want to be a model).

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think it would be very difficult to hide your beauty during an interview. I've known women who look phenomenal in sweats and a ballcap with no makeup. So, if they make even the least bit of effort and dress to look presentable for an interview, they would still shine. Even though gold and silver tarnish, they're still gold and silver.

SamIam96 · Answer

Is it wrong? No.

Is it smart? Probably not. Unless you're looking for a job where beauty is important, you're better off showing off the skills related to the job. Showing off anything else is a distraction and will reduce your chances of actually getting the job.

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

Do whatever helps you get a job. If they're biased toward beautiful people, then take advantage of it, sure.

I do more the opposite. I dress super boring for job interviews. I've never gotten a call back when I actually tried to look nice.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Ethically? No, not really. Beauty does give certain expectations of you to others and you are more likely to be considered if you stand out. However, there’s also the question of if you get the job, would it be your skills that got it or your looks? The answers to which you’ll probably never know but will definitely make you feel insecure for it

annabananna · Answer

I do try to look my best in a job interview. I used to have a boss that would tell me to throw away resumes from girls that are unattractive. It’s messed up for sure but I think people do judge based off of appearance. I don’t go looking like a super model but I try to look presented and put together.

Orion76 · Answer

Of course not but make sure you look professional, for a woman there are so many signals you could be unknowingly sending even the color of nail polish or lipstick can give the right or wrong impression about you for example If you pick the wrong shade of red you could come a cross as flirty instead of professional so if not sure avoid it all together because first impression is everything and is very difficult to change.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yes but I make sure to mention all my certifications and qualifications way more tho

But working in sales or as a waitress like I don't know 5-6 years ago, beauty was definitely helpful to get the job lol

SphynxUK · Answer

In what way?
I can’t help what I look like, but I’ve never dressed in a way that was inappropriate for a job interview. I also always tie my hair back or up and keep any makeup minimal.
I want the job based on my experience, not my looks.

catiecatie · Answer

As a woman in a male dominated field yes it is. Don’t pull that card no one cares, but if it was for a desk job or anything other than a male dominated field then it would be okay, but nothing over the top.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it depends on the job and that there’s a difference between being pretty and using sex appeal. I try to show my best, but one of my best qualities are my boobs. For an interview for an office job I try to make sure I look good but I don’t show a lot of cleavage. When I was interviewing as a waitress in a bar I wore a really short skirt and a low cut top.

4ngelic · Answer

it's not wrong, you'll get hired more easily. why not use everything you got. i've never looked for a job or anything but if i did i would make sure i look really good

jshm2 · Answer

If it's a modelling job, then knock yourself out.  But in most cases they are more interested in what skills you have to offer. Not what assets your mother and father gave you.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

To an extent you should. Dont come in looking half naked but dress appropriate for the job, put on some makeup and you'll have a good chance of getting the job.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Last time I went for a job interview I made sure it was a woman doing the interviewing. When she asked me " Why should we hire you?" I stood up and whipped out my Johnson.  I was hired on the spot.

lightbulb27 · Answer

It's one of those advantages women have and they might as well use it.  I never accentuated my beauty:)

Anonymous · Answer

what exactly does that mean? like dress up nice, shower, smell nice, put makeup on, do your hair and nails? if so, then yeah you should be putting your best foot forward when looking for a job...

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is fine to a certain extent, but I wouldn't go overboard.

RavVid · Answer

I don't think you should flirt during the interview and you should wear clothing that is acceptable office wear. Plunging cleavage would be a bit off.

exitseven · Answer

No, in this economy you need every advantage you can use especially if you are a woman with only average talent.

Haha456 · Answer

Good looking folks are more likely to get jobs

suzzieQ · Answer

You should always put your best foot forward when making first impressions, especially in professional setting.  Dress for success by dressing for the job you want.

DesiUwU · Answer

what if you're just naturally pretty? that's not showing off, you can't help the way you look

Hallix26 · Answer

Unless we're talking about modelling: Just don't complain later if you find out you were hired solely for looks and not competence. Don't complain further if the job turns out harder than anticipated because of aforementioned reason.

thegreenyogi · Answer

Personally in my opinion it all depends on how you go about showing your beauty...

Luffy1990 · Answer

If you go too far with showing too much the employer will deem it unprofessional (only the way she dresses for the interview)

RockyHammock · Answer

As long as it's within professional standards. It's pretty messed up of you purposely judge a candidate based on appearance alone

itsalyssaagain · Answer

It’s not wrong and I’ve done it before. It is what it is.

Anonymous · Answer

It definitely depends on what you mean by showing off your beauty. It's always best to keep it classy or you risk being judged negatively.

2ndCenturyWarlord · Answer

Being presentable is part of being professional, and you're more likely to land the job.

es20490446e · Answer

My option would be to dress as you would normally do while working.

Anonymous · Answer

I was best for a job but I also used my looks to get it.

Anonymous · Answer

Not if you're interviewing for a job with Hooters or Twin Peaks. Otherwise, it will hurt you more than it will help.

OddBeMe · Answer

Use whatever assets you got. Just be respectful in the workplace.

TrillXHippy · Answer

People get hired because of how they look? That’s crazy

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

Only if it's not for modeling That's what you're SUPPOSED to do, for modeling

PatriceONeal · Answer

It's unnecessary since women get hired 18x more than men do based on their gender.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

If a place hires a person based on their appearance instead of his/her qualifications/skills, it’s not a very good place to work.

Anonymous · Answer

no no no. Women don't like men noticing things like that. Unless they're hot, rich, or potentially hiring them I guess.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nah, If ya got it flaunt it.

Guy13 · Answer

As long as it is not interpreted as slutty.

Blackcupcake · Answer

what do you mean show off your beauty

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No that isn't on my mind.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Dressing like a whore is inappropriate.

Dnice1 · Answer

I do try to look good for job interviews

Fryday_Knight · Answer

No. I've used charm to seduce the interviewers lol

boobliker · Answer

all is good to get the job that what is needed

driven159 · Answer

you use what you can to get a job

Minahh · Answer

I feel if it's in moderation it's okay

Anonymous · Answer

It probably depends on the job.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Of course, it's gonna make'm wanna wire you more.

jimmy2 · Answer

No worries

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