Why do some men hate the idea of having a female boss?

[Anonymous]

I used to work for a pretty diverse company, but when I became manager, some of the guys in my division out right did not even try to hide their dislike of me because I was a woman in that position. They would ignore my instructions, they would try to talk down to me, they would act like I was singling them out if ever I actually asked them to just do their basic jobs. It was just plain annoying. I didn't just show up and get the job, I worked very hard for years to get to that position and it was like, this is the 21st century, grow up! To be fair, there were a lot of male employees that had zero issues with me and who worked very well with me and my gender wasn't even a question.

Even so, why do some men just hate even the idea of having a female boss?

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Because 8 out of 10 female "bosses" should NOT be in their position. And I am saying that AS a woman. Who has been THE acting boss for a company when the owner was undergoing chemo therapy and had to have other women in managerial positions removed from their roles & ultimately fired as they were essentially harassing staff.

Unless brought up a specific way - with good role respectful & mature models - or have specific life experiences - such as military - most women are NOT meant to be leaders.

I was brought up with good respectful & mature role models, both my parents treat others exactly how they want to be regardless of others' status in life, and I served in the military. I can lead a company and did lead a company to success for 3 years.

But the average woman in leadership does NOT have that background. Are NOT meant to be leaders. It is WHY 97% of ALL major companies DO NOT have female leaders.

They can not deal with the pressure, they can not deal with the responsibilities, and unlike men they are very often petty, vindictive and all around immature for AGES whereas a bad male boss will get back at an employee once women do it over & over.

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As for your question

Look at yourself first.

Like many women in leadership roles you very, very obviously have an "I am woman, hear me roar" attitude problem. That much is obvious by your commentary.

You think because you worked hard you are entitled to your role. NO you are NOT entitled to your role. You received your role ONLY because the company was unable to find someone better. If they HAD found someone better you would NOT have your job.

This applies to ALL people in leadership roles.

However MOST men acknowledge that they are NOT entitled to their position, that they earned their position by fortune or stupid dumb luck, and why they WORK WITH their employees instead of parading around barking orders and expecting to be followed.

And exact reason why BAD male bosses are almost ALWAYS identified as having small dick symdrome. They parade thinking they are entitled to bark orders & be followed.

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Bluntly if you were a man with your attitude those SAME male employees would still be acting as they do because you DO NOT deserve & you have NOT EARNED their respect.

You waltz around expecting to be respected and NOBODY respects that sort of boss.

As for your other employees they are what everyone calls SHEEP.

They do the minimum requirements of the job & get paid. That is as far as they care. If you came into the office dressed as a stripper & put on a show they WOULD NOT care.

[Luopio27]

You must be on the FBI most wanted list, I mean the Feminist Burrey of Investigations.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@Luopio27 Hahah

I am 4th generation traditional feminist. My great-grandmother went from dirt poor uneducated Irishwoman to self educated multiple rental property owner on her own hook having never remarried after her husband died in WWI.

I look at today's "feminists" and laugh at the joke they are compared to what feminism was about.

[RangerBlue22]

@SakuraBlossoms87 excellent response.

Most men care about one thing and one thing only: getting the job effectively done and being compensated fairly for it. Sure we like having camaraderie with our colleagues and having a welcoming work environment. But in general we don’t take things as personally as women. Socializing is and gossiping is not a top priority for us.

With that said I’ve worked in some very good companies where the gender split was 50/50. I’ve had some very good female colleagues.

But I have twice worked in female dominated companies and I will never do it again. There was a lot of reverse sexism crap going on which would be featured article in the Huffington Post if the roles were reversed.

[Luopio27]

Todays feminism is a joke. What you described in your answer is more like building a world of her own dreams through hard work and great skills, not degrading men and demanding shit like a queen bitch born into royalty.

[Summeroflove]

A lot of people including women feel you. Because they NEED more women and feminist women act like they’re being discriminated against if they’re not promoted.

Even if they don’t have the experience or qualification needed.

Some places also seem to have a problem with…. Sleeping their way to the top. Which is sad for the women who work their ass off and don’t get far.

[Summeroflove]

SakuraBlossoms87…. RIGHT…. People on this website have called me sexist. I think women should have a right to vote as well as have the SAME opportunities as men. Not special ones.

I don’t get the hate for men either. Like:.. if you don’t want to marry fine. You do you. But. Many women WANT to marry….

[Summeroflove]

But no. Many don’t want equality. They want special treatment. They want to cry sexism and get things they never earned.

Feminists. Not the average woman

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@Summeroflove Oh god that drives me nuts.

I work in medical. The number of women who bitch they don't get paid the same as male doctors & nurses is pathetic to be blunt.

A very good friend of mine is a medical doctor. He has 3 further specialities - diabetes, addiction & mental health - training. He's PAID for that extra education & expertise.

Just as how in my industry in medical when I have FIVE certificates / diplomas I am paid more than men in the same job / role because I am MORE experienced than they are.

[Summeroflove]

EXACTLY!!! It is PATHETIC and the fact they want to act as if they represent all women is a embarrassment to women who aren’t like them.

We want affirmative hires and hire people who aren’t qualified just to get some diversity stats. Then they don’t want to do any work but bitch and complain.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. I’m sorry if you have doctors who have worked for decades, have higher degrees, more degrees, more certification, more experience, etc etc. They’re getting paid more.

I also can’t stand women who want to show off how they can do the job as good or better then you…. Like if you can do the job better then me. All power to you. I don’t care.

[ilovelamp]

You can't see it, but i'm standing up and clapping right now.

[RangerBlue22]

@SakuraBlossoms87 I know you have been heralded with many supportive comments (and rightfully so) but you hit a very key societal issue with the following comment you made:

“ And exact reason why BAD male bosses are almost ALWAYS identified as having small dick symdrome. They parade thinking they are entitled to bark orders & be followed.”

Extremely true. If a man misbehaves and acts like a douchebag he will quickly be identified. He will either be called out on it and/or avoided and eventually abandoned. He might be a true asshole but he will never be able to get away with built in cushion that he is “being discriminated against”. Especially if he doesn’t qualify for being “intersectional”.

Since men know they can’t fall back on any cop out “discrimination” excuse we either shape up or ship out hence that’s why usually make better leaders. We don’t have a mental crutch so we are forced to change ourselves for the better. If we don’t nobody will ever feel sorry for us.

Anyway we need more women like you speaking up. These entitled woke women won’t listen to guys criticizing them but when another women speaks up it they finally listen to what the NEED to hear vs. what they want to hear.

Anyway I wouldn’t mind having you as my boss if it came down down it. You “get it”. Men respect women who actually get it. Men do notice women who legitimately work hard and don’t use the “look at me I’m a woman” bs.

Also much respect to you for serving. It seems like you picked up the right values given your upbringing and time in the military.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@RangerBlue22 Thank you. I got the issue about bad male bosses because when I was younger & not as experienced as am, I worked for 2. Charming (sarcasm) individuals.

As for what you brought up about woke women.

I've lived in a few other countries - including the Middle East - due to dad's job growing up. And to be extremely blunt the west is becoming very weak & self destructive.

Instead of curding degenerate behavior and ideology the west supports it under a ruse of equality. Equality doesn't exist. It is impossible for equality in the literal meaning of the word to exist.

The world is grey not black & white. People who spout about equality are talking about the black & white world of science labs and text books.

In the real world when you give someone more rights, you take away rights from someone else.

That's obvious in these woke women. They bitch & harp they are women & entitled to things. Entitled to jobs, etc. By default men suffer, minorities suffer, etc. under the ruse that all these women want is equality.

And this entitled mentality is corruptive. A few years ago some lunatic woman went into a bubble tea shop & started ranting it wasn't black owned. Good. Because bubble tea is an Asian invention not black.
That is what I mean by minorities suffer - uneducated woke entitled women causing problems.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@RangerBlue22 Sorry had to break it up, too long

Ultimately

Unfortunately in today's society women such as myself are few and far between in western society and I don't just mean "getting it" about how the business industry works. But "getting' how life works.

There are so many women in the west who parade around expecting respect when, as an example of something else that bothers me, they are dressed cheaply, dressed overly revealing and thus don't even respect themselves so WHY should anyone respect them?

A lot of these overly exposed women say well that's how they attract men. Ok.

By that logic how can decent respectable women who don't dress overly revealingly - like myself, my usual getup is ankle length skirts & blouses or dress pants, etc. - attract men, date & end up getting married if they don't dress like prostitutes?

[RangerBlue22]

@SakuraBlossoms87 well we got two major problems:

1) idiot woke men who enable this crap. Also men are more instinctive/impulsive when in comes to sex. We will take it when we really shouldn’t. Leftist women themselves are “proudly” just as promiscuous as men. But it’s not got for either side.

2) woke western women are getting what they say they want and are ironically miserable about it. However they continue to double down on “patriarchy” bs arguments and refuse to admit they are victim of their own stupid selfish decisions.

3) men are getting disillusion and jaded. We are giving up on women, relationships and marriage. Statistically the amount of single men in western culture is skyrocketing. This is BAD. But honestly many guys don’t know what the hell to do.

Anyway depression rates are up. Suicide attempts are up. Women are staying lifelong childless in the name of “freedom” or some other conceited garbage.

An analogy is like letting an adolescent do whatever the hell they want. Let them eat crap, play video games, act promiscuous, not study, etc. Most adolescents don’t know how to handle that freedom and will go down the route of self destruction. But they usually blame someone else for their own problems THEY created.

Woke western women are very similar to adolescents when it comes to taking responsibility for their decisions. They make bad decisions when they are put in positions of power yet they always blame someone else when things go wrong.

This isn’t all women of course. But again men don’t know what the hell to do.

My only hope is things will get so bad that it might actually be a huge wake up call that modern feminism destroys happiness, families and ultimately society as we know it.

[RangerBlue22]

*3 major problems

[RangerBlue22]

@grega239 i just wonder how much further this crap has to go. These women she is talking about ultimately make themselves miserable in exchange for their short sightedness. But at what point will they realize they are responsible for their own problems?

The sad part is there really is a minority of common sense and effective female leaders out there. I would be happy to have @SakuraBlossoms87 as leader. I would respect her and take orders from her. Reason being she is able to think “big picture” when it comes to accomplishing a mission vs “I’m a woman hear me roar” bs.

But women like her are rare.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@RangerBlue22 Thank you. I've had former colleagues ask me to come back haha to the company but I've moved on.

But you pointed on a big topic. Common sense.

Common sense seems to severely lack in today's women. Not just in business but in life. I could point out dressing cheaply expecting to land themselves a good man, getting involved with abusers either mentally or physically, or gang members / addicts / dealers, etc. but such things are partially the fault of their upbringing too and not "knowing" any better. Mind you that's in ways an excuse if 10 friends don't have the same relations then there's something wrong with what the 11th is doing.

Anyway another lack of common sense is going to bars or clubs alone, parking far away from stores later at night & walking in dark parking lots alone, or even going walking at the wee or later hours.

All of these situations require common sense that today's women by majority seem to lack.

[RangerBlue22]

@SakuraBlossoms87 the problem is when modern women stupid decisions they (generally) don’t get held accountable the same way men do in society.

For example if women want to date abusive assholes then be my guest. Sure there are plenty of red flags. Sure the writing is on the wall. But seriously go ahead if that’s what “your heart wants”.

But when he screws you over (and he will) then quit looking for f’ing shoulders to cry on. You knew what you were getting into. However society keeps giving these women safety nets, shoulders to cry on, etc.

Men on the other hand have to learn some very hard lessons and no one feels sorry for us. Nobody is going to come “save” is. So this forces us to make better decisions and to be more responsible with future decisions. It’s the school of hard knocks.

If women want all the male privileges then they have to accept the male responsibilities as well. But too many women struggle with the latter part. In the end it makes them miserable.

[RavVid]

I'm glad you said some. One of the best I've had was female. But gender does affect style.

There are some problems. Some female managers who have children tend to treat you as a well meaning but somewhat misguided child. No male animal past puberty wants to be mom'ed. Goes for dogs and cats too. I had another good female manager but had to consciously forgive her mom style.

On the weekend a gay guy was complaining to me extensively that his female manager was a manipulative bitch. And I've known women to complain bitterly about female managers. I have an impression that female managers can be far more rule based than males.

Another issue is that guys cut deals in the work place - you build working relations. As an example there was a guy in another company that I needed to work closely with. The way my company was doing business was making his job hard, so I said I will try to fix it and semi did. I was a mate after that and got a lot of discretionary effort out of him. We cut a deal.

It is much harder to cut I'll help you with X if you help me with Y deals with females - most often not honored in my experience. I think that it is that male and female hierarchies just operate differently. As a manger you need to be aware of those gender differences in how males and females work.

As an example there was a vacancy in my team and a guy and a gal seemed to be interested. I wanted the keenest who would work hardest. The guy did everything right. He lobbied for the role in the same I would have. The girl didn't. I too belatedly realized that the reason she failed to express interest in the way I expected was because... well... because she was a girl. She was expressing interest in a different form to that I would have.

The thing is it can be it is so intuitive to our own gender that we don't pick up how the other gender goes about things. My brother in law says to my sister 'tell me what you want done or tell me how you want me to do it - not both'.

I'm just suggesting these might be factors in your experience and might be factors to think about. I don't know anything about your work places dynamics so I have to be generic. Maybe your workplace is more operational than mine. I certainly have known guys who have done very little work - struggled to deliver 4 hrs - and were surprised by their redundancy. Maybe they prefer to discuss sports than work in which case they are asking for it.

For myself I like a boss to focus on the objectives and hear me out on the yeah... buts whilst I work out how to achieve the objectives most efficiently.

My thoughts for whatever they are worth. Mostly trying expand your viewpoint.

[RavVid]

Thanks for the MHO. Hope I did help.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's not that women aren't capable of being good leaders, it's that men have been working in leadership roles for thousands of years and woman largely started about 80 years ago... So there's a lot of social, maturity, leadership and practical aspects which need to be learned because they go directly against the perspectives most women are encouraged/taught/conditioned to have.

I believe it's less of a biological problem and more of a growing pain for humanity as a species as we become more civilized.

There's plenty of people saying why women don't belong in leadership roles and some of them are valid concerns but I want to talk about why I believe in having women in the workplace doing important jobs.

Like how about how differently woman think from men. That right there is a strength. Companies look for diversity because having different life perspectives aids in problem identifying and solving.

Women are naturally more anylitical than men. If you want to say "men are more logical, so it doesn't matter" I would say what better match then to put the analyst with the "problem solver"

Women are also typically better in my experience at completeness. In the industry I work in, we have a saying that you can find a guy who can do 90% of the job by themself easily but that last 10% is the most important part. If you put me in a room with a man and a woman and asked me which one feels more uncomfortable seeing an unfinished product that could maybe be passed off as done, my money is on the woman. Which is major points for a management position if you ask me.

They also I think will be superior in getting employees to stay with companies as their empathy is usually much higher than in men. I think back to all my other jobs and even if I didn't like how they went about solving the problem, women always are willing to admit when someone is not doing their job. (sometimes a little too quick but other people probably talked about that)

Everyone man, woman or other has a place in this world and at the end it's up to them to develop themselves to be as useful as possible.

That said, when I see a woman in a management role, experience has taught me to tread very cautiously 😂

[ShellyB]

A female boss can be great or terrible or in between same as a male boss but if I had my choice of two bosses and all I knew was one was male and the other was female, I would pick the male boss every time and, I am female. JMO!

[ArrowheadSW]

I am fine with it. Just like anyone, as long as they know what they are doing. In one case, my bosses boss was a woman. I had to go over my bosses head because he was making a decision that would screw things up at the workplace. She had to call him and get it straight. Later he thanked me because he realized that the business decision he was going to make would have ruined us.

[zeitgeist057]

um, it's called misogyny?

Another way to look at it, is that there are men (and women) who are more traditional in their perspectives. They enjoy the genders having specific roles and don't enjoy when the roles are reversed, crossed, mismatched, or otherwise "out of alignment". They see men as being dominant, strong, logical, aggressive, etc. And women are supposed to be docile, emotional, adoring, sweet, kind, etc.

The problem is that at this point, people who subscribe to these ideas don't see people for who they are, they see them as 2 dimensional profiles (are you a man or a woman?) and all the associated characteristics that go along with it. If a person doesn't mesh with those roles, they are seen as UN-ladylike or UN-gentleman-like (not a "real man"), and it makes them uncomfortable and they blame the person who isn't conforming to the cookie cutter profile they want to impose on everyone.

It's a simple minded perspective for simple minded folk, who can't be bothered to step outside the box and do some critical thinking or have emotional intelligence. When I say simple minded I don't mean dumb, I mean basic. It's not necessarily a bad thing, everyone has their limitations and things they want to focus their time and energy on. It's not that they are dumb, it's a different form of intelligence to be able to have that kind of depth. There are plenty of smart engineer, scientist, and doctor types or whatever who hold this kind of perspective.

Sorry you had that experience, but the thing is we can take any experience like this and learn from it. Grow and maybe push those people who have issues with you out, and keep the ones who don't have an issue with you. They can do some learning and growing, too.

[Anonymous]

Most men don’t care if they have a female boss. However I have met women who overcompensate by acting “tough” and demanding when they get in positions of power. They assume that off the bat guys won’t respect them just because their women.

Sometimes there are men and women who are just bad employees period. They wouldn’t be any more respectful to male bosses. Yes there are still dbag guys who get insecure by being managed by women. However they are small and shrinking minority of men.

Also I have personally experienced and observed reverse sexism with female bosses. I remember a female director once said during a product demonstration that “we choose Joey’s picture as a model account director since he’s the best looking guy on the team”. Word for word she said and people laughed at the time.

But afterwards I left thinking what if a male director showed a picture of a female account director and said “we choose Stephanie’s picture as a model account director because she’s the best looking woman on the team”. If that happened all hell would of broken loose. But the female director got away with it because sexism against men is considered “okay” and comical in our society.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I don't go by "male" versus "female" bosses, I go by "good" versus "shitty" bosses. Most problems female bosses have with male subordinates are likely not all that different from problems male bosses have with their workers. When you get promoted upwards the interpersonal dynamics with people you've known for some time can all change overnight. It's your responsibility to navigate those shifting dynamics in a mature and productive way. I don't know the particulars of your workplace, but imho most problems should be able to be resolved purely at the interpersonal level without needing to pull the 'gender card'. Maybe the corporate world has some ingrained sexism that I'm not privy to though. I've mostly worked in hospitality and have probably had more female direct superiors than male. The competent ones seem perfectly able to both give and earn respect in equal measure. Competence is what matters. Be a manager worthy of respect, and who gives respect where it's due, and focus on what you can control rather than fussing over whether you're being treated differently because you have a vagina instead of a penis. Nothing lies that way but misery. "Service is service" as they say in hospitality, focus on the work and make yourself formidable, strive to be a calibre of manager that even the most flagrantly sexist colleague can't help but admit "yeah, she's a good'n". You're management, the burden to prove yourself an effective leader is on you, respect is earned, not given freely. This doesn't excuse actual sexism within the company, and any gender discrimination should be handled through the appropriate channels. But most problems you have are likely just people problems, not mysogony problems. You're a manager now, so learning to deal with people problems is the bread and butter of your work. Get used to it, because it will only get harder if you buck against it rather than embrace it.

[Sabretooth]

they are often overbearing. women are not meant to be leaders. they are more emotionally driven and not logically driven. that puts them in a supportive role. to lead, one must be logically driven--or, you create hostile environment. look at the feminist movement. I've noticed they they are hostile and erratic and have destroyed their families... and, themselves. I'm not trying to be a misogynist and I'm very much attracted to strong women and encourage to take the reins when necessary. a few few articles to bolster my case: https://www.scirp.org/journal/paperinformation.aspx?paperid=86849 https://www.mercer.us/our-thinking/career/women-in-leadership-sometimes-were-our-own-worst-enemies.html and resonates with me: https://www.thetrumpet.com/2384-how-feminism-harms-families it makes me think about my aunt who is career oriented but makes very little time for family... and it's gotten worse. she's now married and has a daughter with a man who also works... last I heard... she hasn't toned it down... you KNOW that this will have a negative affect.

[Boomchakalaca]

I take criminal justice, a discussion popped up if there should be diversity in police departments, as in, race, gender. The rules will definitely shift if there were predominantly women working in police departments. I think id be scared of this were to happen.

[Sabretooth]

@Boomchakalaca that would seem as the first article suggested.

[Sabretooth]

a sex game that puts you in the mind of a person with a female boss: Ren'Py Your Place [v0.04] [ColeWallace92] . that game hits on the issue perfectly.

[jongreat46]

Because whether they will admit it or not, they are chauvinist and misgonyists. They feel that as a man that they deserve being promoted over a woman, I remember I watched the series self made which was about madame cj walker and her husband and even the association for color people president felt that all men needed to be successful and rich first before they even considered allowing women to be richer and more successful than them and nothing bruises a man's ego like not bring to do the things his daddy did. Oh yes misgonyistslove their mothers but they idolized their daddies for owning their mother and they think that one day they will be able to do what their daddy did and now they are not able too, it makes them mad because now they have to compete on an even play8ng field and no woman will marry them out of desperation and this makes them angry and resentful because if they can't get a woman then they have to face the painful truth that they are misgonyistic Incel assholes.

[bamesjond0069]

Most women bosses are shitty asf. Also they usually insist on female style of communication and doing things. Like idgaf if Brenda felt I was rude. I say "pass me the stapler" "this needed to be done today and its not i need you to do it right now" idgaf if she's sensitive or on her period I make a damn normal request and I expect a normal response. And I got no patience for anything else. If you're not fucking me idgaf about your sensitive feelings. I'm direct it's work that's how you do shit. The end. But women bosses want to make you act like a bitch and do nonsense shit.

Every single one I've ever had did have an emotional public blow up at least once. I've never had a man boss do that. Once I thought one might and he left and came back... so he knew how to handle himself when he couldn't handle himself just fine. The women? No. Crying screaming. And everyone looks the other way. Seriously fire that bitch. I won't listen to a woman who cries and screams in an office no way no how. Yet I've never had a woman boss not do this.

Also petty office politics shit gossip etc.

It's not that they are women. I just don't respect someone as a leader who can't even be in control of themselves and do the right things and they expect me to be ok being in control of me? No thanks.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I have worked with two girls as the group heads in engineering 3nd and 4th semester (second year). Amazing leaders. I would prefer to work under a female boss. Actually gender does not matter that much as long as he/she knows what he/she is doing. Direction.

But since I have quite an amazing experience with female leads, I have a feeling that would be a peaceful experience, even memorable as well. There are many things I can learn from bosses, in general. Even those things I don't know I don't know.

Please don't let those people get in your head. Some problem will always be there anywhere, I have noticed. I mean, who am I, a fresher, to say this to you, a really experienced and accomplished woman. But I sort of get what you mean.

Some people just hate other people for no reason. And it is just the way it is, I think. At least I could not do anything about it in the 3rd year, the previous year.

[lightbulb27]

I've had quite a few male and female bosses and colleages.

A bad male boss sucks but a bad female boss sucks worse because they will emotionally torture a person. It's the way women are and communicate... keeping in mind, that is a generality. Women can be excellent or horrible. I've seen women bosses be the most cruel.

Male bosses that were direct, clear, confident were the best. I had excellent women bosses as well, but takes one bad one to spoil the pot.

I also had the most respect for female execs, that were not my bosses... because they fought for their people and went to their corporate deaths fighting.

[razelove]

Because of DEI policies that will keep a guy in the same spot for years with a degree in the relevant job, then promote a woman or minority without a relevant degree or experience over them for the "equity".

At a certain point of that pervading many industries, when anyone who isn't your race or gender gets promoted you blame those policies either way. Like if a woman, or someone trans, black, whatever gets promoted over me without overwhelming qualifications, I'm going to think it's because of DEI.

Likewise, because of DEI, anyone in those categories will assume the opposite if a white guy gets promoted over their head without overwhelming qualificatons. It's created a lose/lose where it's easier for employers to just not promote people, which I'm sure most are fine with unless a job absolutely needs to be staffed.

[TalynMere]

My female bosses have been the best bosses I've ever had. Noone has been more focused on actually doing good work and not getting bogged down in the bullshit that comes with office work. They have been extremely supportive of personal growth and giving people room to contribute as themselves.

Obviously that's not all exclusive to women, just my experience, but most of my male bosses always get caught up in interpersonal crap and distract from the important stuff, defend their egos through their shitty ideas, and then inevitably get fired.

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know. Some people just don’t like their boss in general. If someone is being disrespectful you might just have to do what you gotta do.



As long as you treat your employees with respect you don’t deserve to be treated like that. You’re just trying to do your job

[midnightmoon05]

I have worked for both. I prefer male.

my current female boss tortures everyone just because she knows she can use her power. My supervisor is fighting for us to tell her what she does is just making us do paper w9rk… my supervisor is also a female… but much more reasonable.

[Asker]

It sucks when people have these experiences, because good management has nothing to do with whether you are male or female, which is part of the annoyance of people having a bad experience with an individual or individuals of one sex, because it tends to become, "well, all my female bosses have been horrible, therefore all female bosses are bad." No, the bosses you've had at this one or several experiences have been bad. I'm not saying this is how you feel, but I've had these conversations about dating, working, education---and it's like, bad people are bad people, but its not everyone everywhere all the time.

[jshm2]

It's little to do with you being a woman, and more to do with competence and team morale.

But there will always be people who don't like you, and you don't like. it seems you're not a very good manager if you don't understand these basic facts.

[Adam1978]

You usually don't need to tell a guy to do his job. Sounds like you are micro managing or made a really bad hire. So you are the issue not the men, you can't lead if you don't know how people work. So if you don't understand men, don't try to be in charge over them.

[abc3643]

You deserve a good, long answer to this insightful question and I just do not have the time at the moment to give it the answer it deserves.

If you don't mind having a conversation with me over time via PM, I can probably answer it for you. Just PM me and let me know it is about this question.

[BeMuse]

You just sound incompetent. The only thing you could think about was your vagina. You didn't consider your lack of leadership skills, lack of ability, lack of communication, etc. Nope just your vagina. If that's the only thing you can think about when you're trying to manage people, then you are absolutely incompetent.

[BeMuse]

You as a manager have to solve problems and manage people. Your vagina isn't a creative solution to those problems. Your vagina may have landed you the position as you "worked" long and hard phallus shaped objects, but you have to come up with a little more creative solutions in order to get the rest of the organization to run efficiently and become productive.

[Pyrofox]

Its cause I think a lot of female bosses don't grasp at all how to treat their male underlings with respect and often are prone to favor other female co workers. And the more important issue which is a lot of women don't grasp how not to come off like they are hitting on guys. Which ends up making tension when every guy in the office feels like their just one step away from having a night stand with the boss.

[HighValue]

How do you know it was because you are a woman?

In my experience from what I have seen IRL, that is not the reason. It is when someone they worked with gets promoted and they don't, they become resentful, even when it is a man that gets promoted. That is what I have seen.

[AviatorTom]

I've had a female boss, actually two of them... no problem.

It can be difficult to have a female boss though, since men will never understand women, how their brains work, what's important to them. Compare that to a male boss, who thinks a lot like the main does, it's easier to have a male boss.

So, I don't think some men "hate" a female boss, they just have problems dealing with it.