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I don't know why but something I’ve struggled with a large portion of my life is confidence and I fucking hate it so much. On one hand I think I am confident in predictable situations I know how to navigate on the other hand that isn’t life or how it works.
I just don’t understand why I’m so timid and shy when it comes to certain things even trying the whole fake it till you make it my confidence is so low that midway through fake it my confidence drops or people see right through me.
I also know that I am very harsh on my self to a point where I question if I actually hate myself, i Know I’m not where I want to be never have been but I am in a better position now then I have been for a long time if not my entire life.
Crazy how my job is what is teaching me this my job requires me to speak on the phone of all things and you would think this is easy yet I’m so afraid. But I’ve come to realize it’s not that I’m afraid to speak on the phone I’m afraid of how my coworkers around me will perceive me. Especially when like 95% of the staff are woman and some very attractive.
I don’t wanna appear as a timid loser yet that’s all of shown and it makes things hard on the phone speaking with customers especially being at a new job not knowing everything yet I get flustered and panic. It’s incredibly frustrating I know I’m taking a step in the right direction because I know what I signed up for and I’ve been trying to put myself in more uncomfortable situations to grow as a person.
So why do I still feel like a failure half the time.
I just don’t understand why I’m so timid and shy when it comes to certain things even trying the whole fake it till you make it my confidence is so low that midway through fake it my confidence drops or people see right through me.
I also know that I am very harsh on my self to a point where I question if I actually hate myself, i Know I’m not where I want to be never have been but I am in a better position now then I have been for a long time if not my entire life.
Crazy how my job is what is teaching me this my job requires me to speak on the phone of all things and you would think this is easy yet I’m so afraid. But I’ve come to realize it’s not that I’m afraid to speak on the phone I’m afraid of how my coworkers around me will perceive me. Especially when like 95% of the staff are woman and some very attractive.
I don’t wanna appear as a timid loser yet that’s all of shown and it makes things hard on the phone speaking with customers especially being at a new job not knowing everything yet I get flustered and panic. It’s incredibly frustrating I know I’m taking a step in the right direction because I know what I signed up for and I’ve been trying to put myself in more uncomfortable situations to grow as a person.
So why do I still feel like a failure half the time.
AI Opinion
AskBuilding confidence gradually can be more effective than faking it. Start by acknowledging small achievements and setting realistic goals. Mindfulness and self-reflection can help you understand the root of your insecurities. Practice positive self-talk to counteract harsh self-criticism. In unfamiliar situations, preparation can boost confidence. When speaking, slow down, and breathe. Remember, others may perceive you more positively than you think. Embrace discomfort as a learning tool, and focus on progress rather than perfection. Over time, this consistent effort can lead to genuine confidence and personal growth, moving past the fear of others' perceptions.