When does a stalking conviction become irrelevant?

[ForevrLonely29]

I have a misdemeanor stalking and harassment conviction stemming from 2016. I also had a healthcare license surrender/revocation as a result. I would like to potentially explore other career options 9 years after my conviction. The tech industry has been destroyed, so maybe I can look into healthcare again?

[Anonymous]

Never, especially when you stalked a minor. Hopefully no one is dumb enough to ever hire you again. You’re never ending legal liability and no one wants a clown they’re just going to fire in a month anyway. Go apply at McDonald’s. I’m not even sure they should hire you.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't to what I know

It's one of those things like murder even changing your name and moving outta state will eventually catch up and result in being moved time and again

[AI Opinion]

Navigating career options with a past conviction can be challenging, but it's not impossible. In general, the relevance of a conviction may diminish over time, particularly if you've demonstrated rehabilitation and made positive changes. For healthcare, re-entering may require addressing the specifics of your license situation. Consult a career advisor or legal professional about steps for re-licensing or exploring new fields like technology where skills may outweigh past issues. Continuous personal development and networking can also be key in opening doors. Each industry may have different requirements, so thorough research and professional advice are crucial.

[Dongie]

I don't know. Did you have to do classes?

[ForevrLonely29]

Classes? What do you mean?

[Dongie]

To educate you on stalking. Like defensive driving or dwi classes.

[ForevrLonely29]

No I didn't have any classes. I was ordered a psych evaluation, but there was no clear definitive way it had to be done and all I did was see a therapist. This nation is fucked when it comes to mental health.

[Dongie]

Oh, yep. Fucked is the world. I would say you can go back to the medical world.

[In_Trance]

Its always going to be relevant to an employer

[Agape93]

Never

[ForevrLonely29]

Never say never

[Agape93]

I already did. It will always be relevant to an employer, it marks you as inherently risky as an employee. They may overlook it, but it will still factor in hiring you and retaining you. You are a liability

[ForevrLonely29]

Most employer background checks only go back 7 years. I know because I passed a couple. It is just something that lingers, especially when explaining why I had a healthcare license revoked.

[Agape93]

That's because that's what they deem necessary but we can see anything not sealed. I do these for a living, dipshit.

[ForevrLonely29]

What is with the hostility?

[Agape93]

I don't like you.

[ForevrLonely29]

Aww, but why? I am happily engaged, church going, and trying to make things right in life. I am working on a massive web project, and have made hundreds of commits to my repos this past month. I am determined. I have even been trying to work with legislators to improve emergency services in Tennessee.

[Agape93]

I don't like people who fucked minors, and people who act like they're hot shit but don't do shit.

I don't care what pet projects you do, or how you claim to work with legislators. I routinely try and press certain policies here but that's not work. That's basic engagement.

You act tough when it comes to migrants but you literally got scared because you saw a dude praying in a parking lot. Ffs dude. Even if you weren't a stalker or a diddler, your entitlement, laziness and delusion of grandeur alone with irritate me

[ForevrLonely29]

So you are hating on a man on the Autistic Spectrum? Damn, shows your character. But no, what occurred in the past is the past and I am trying to put that all behind me.

[ForevrLonely29]

Soon you will be addressing me as Officer

[Agape93]

I'm hating a man who fucked a minor and stalked her. I don't give a fuck if you're autistic, that doesn't give you a shield against criticism.

Nope.

@ez_bri_zy_v2

[Agape93]

@Ez-Bri-Z_v2

[ForevrLonely29]

Again, I am getting tired of reiterating this. She was of age of consent in the state she resided and we were only 4 years apart in age. The stalking conviction that is about was 10 years ago stemmed from me attempting to make amends and win her heart. Her daddy didn't like it and had me arrested. But the sexual encounter in and of itself was not illegal. It is of the past. It is done. But you will soon be addressing me with respect as Officer.

[Agape93]

Doesn't matter. She can be legally of age and still legally a minor, and she was. I agree with the dad

No I won't, a job title doesn't entitle you to anything from me, much less respect. Fucking chomo, still acting entitled to certain things from women. Imagine that.

[ForevrLonely29]

This is where you blow this WAY out of proportion, in addition to all these other feminist freaks on here. Of course, why does your opinion even matter? I am sure there is an overwhelming amount of people that disagree with you on this. It would ABSOLUTELY be a problem if I was chasing after young girls at my age now. Back then, however, I was a young man myself trying to find his footing in life. I can look back in hindsight with regrets, but I also know I was developing as a young man.

[Agape93]

You were a grown adult, screwing and stalking a minor. Hell Nathandavis and I both remember you on here just a few years ago, still pining for minor girls because they never knew a man's touch or had a relationship before. That's you as a person. I'm just surprised her dad didn't just shoot you when you came around, stalking his child.

[ForevrLonely29]

Most 16/17 girls have lost their virginity. The average age of virginity loss is about 17. So what is different here? We were both young at the time. Why the fuck do I feel the need to bring up the PAST to you? I have a fiance now and I am happily engaged and I do not dare to even flirt with another woman.

[Agape93]

The difference is you were legally an adult, she was legally a child still, and you stalked her when she didn't want to be with you. That's not normal. Shit it was like pulling teeth to get you to just say that what you did was wrong.

[ForevrLonely29]

Do you really think most 17 year old girls lose their virginity to a guy that is exactly 17 too? You are delusional. The average age of virginity loss is 17. I guarantee the other partner for most of these girls were at least 18.

[Agape93]

Nope but they don't usually lose it to grown men. Most grown ass 20 year old men aren't going after 16 year old children.

Will 17 and 18 year olds hook up? Sure. But 16 and 20? No. You can't even accept what you did isn't normal.

[ForevrLonely29]

It was a little stretch, but barely. She was like 2 months away from being 17, about to enter her senior year of high school. I was a college age kid at the time. It is nothing wildly unusual. Ask most of your peer's grandparents and they would say that was completely normal during their time. There is debate too about the what ages Romeo and Juliet were, but it is a common assumption they were about 3-4 years apart in age. Modern neofeminism wants to make people believe this is predatory.

[Agape93]

Dude, they were also minors way back in the day, and back in my grandparents time it was normal for dad's to marry women in their early to mid teens while they are in their fucking 30s. Shit my grandma met my grandad when his pedo ass as like 28. So referring to generations and times where pedophiles are accepted norms isn't exactly a great argument.

[Agape93]

Even now, you still don't acknowledge fucking and stalking a kid isn't normal.

[ForevrLonely29]

I have had many tell me their grandparents were between 5 to 10 years age difference when they met. Many of them are happily married into their old ages. I cannot say I didn't make a mistake, but I can look back with confidence and agree I was YOUNG. It was the PAST, and as the years go by, I have developed more into a man. You may have had me admit I made mistakes, but you will NEVER change my stance that I wasn't a horrible person because of it, because I wasn't.

[Agape93]

You stalked a minor dude. You made her scared enough to get her from her dad to keep you away from her.

[ForevrLonely29]

I discovered some years later that she was actually slutty posting bra pictures online. She claimed to be a virgin at the time, but there is speculation she could have been lying. She was manipulative, and she even admitted herself she manipulated her parents at times. She is not innocent. She made a conscience decision to meet me.

[Agape93]

So? You still fucked her and stalked her. That's on you, and you seem to think stalking a minor doesn't make you a bad person. I'm a shitty person and even I wouldn't do that. You have no idea the damage it can cause someone to be sexualized as a minor. Shit, you don't even care, because a minor was dumb enough to fuck you.

[Agape93]

I hope if you ever have kids, you never touch them and I hope you never let a grown ass man do to them, what you did to her.

[ForevrLonely29]

Again you are a delusional feminist extremist. Nothing is a definitive black and white, there is gray sometimes. If my daughter was entering her senior year of high school, and a respectable young man of college age wanted to date her, I wouldn't completely rule it out. Again, it is not a black and white situation, it is a case-by-case basis.

[Agape93]

Nah some things are very black and white. Like stalking.

So how would you react if that respectable man, proceeded to stalk her?

[ForevrLonely29]

If he was "lovestruck" with no intention of causing harm, I would have a cordial discussion with him to move on and warn him this cannot continue. The father lied to me after I shook his hand and agreed to leave her alone. I returned to the hotel I was staying to find cops swarming me. It was a dick move.

[Agape93]

I sincerely hope you never have a daughter then. What she'd need, is a dad who will immediately go to her defense, not assess if HE thinks the guys dangerous and having a cordial chat. That's how we get raped and killed. A lot of guys who stalk ex partners, don't actually back off. They escalate until shit happens. I've seen it. I've experienced it.

[ForevrLonely29]

Again, I would protect my daughter, but also acknowledge a young immature man who is "lovestruck" and attempt to de-escalate it first. I didn't even get to see her that day. I was met by her dad at the front door as I attempted to deliver a cookie cake in a pizza box with a message on it asking her to prom. See. I never went to prom in high school, and wanted the honors of being able to take her. It was a stupid idea, but I lived and learned.

[Agape93]

That's not what she'd need. That girls dad did exactly what was needed. Get you away from her and have the cops deal with you.

[ForevrLonely29]

You are sad and pathetic. Not all men are the same. It seems you have fallen for that neofeminist idea that a man who shows persistence is a threat. I am done with this conversation. I can confidently say that my attempts were not malicious and I was pursuing love. It doesn't matter now, and I shouldn't be compelled to share my past with you. I have a fiance now and that is all behind me.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Oh wow, he went back to denying it again huh? I mean it's too late for that. We've all seen him confess to it. Bruh, just own up to the fact you raped a minor that you probably groomed in your search for " a girl who has never had a romantic relationship or even thoughts of it before". Also what kind of sick person then turns around and blames their victim for being "slutty" in photos? That's sick.

Also sorry for the delay @Agape93 I was playing the new Civ 7 game that just came out yesterday. Barely picked up my phone lmao

[Agape93]

Your fine, love. I just wanted someone else to see this so I could try and keep calm in dealing with this chomo.