Why do woman choose careers over everything?

[mrshooiser]

So I was looking at what men and woman want to do first in life and a lot of woman put their careers first and men put having a family first. Besides being obsessed with money and being a boss or whatever one day what does choosing a career get you besides no life, constant take out and an empty house.

[MrOracle]

That's easy: Feminism.

Now, Feminism didn't start in the 1960s - it's been around since the 1890s, which is around the time that Marxism was becoming a spreading idea and around the time that single women in major cities first had factory work available to them (mostly textile work, but also food processing).

But Feminism was still a pretty niche thing until after WWII. A few things fell into place at the same time as WWII ended:

1. Women in major cities had been brought into factories to replace the younger men who'd been sent off to war. Now, the factories were still being ran by men - older men who were too old for military service, and who had had decades of experience in the factory. These men trained and supervised the women and ran the factory and did the harder jobs. Still, this was the first time that large numbers of women were doing "traditionally male" jobs outside the home. When the war ended, the women were let go so that the men returning from the war could have the jobs. Some women were resentful (many others were happy not to have to do such work anymore), and felt that they should be able to keep those jobs - and this is understandable.

2. At the end of the war, the USSR was devastated, having lost more than 20 million people, and had large parts of the country bombed. Being communist, they had limited hard currency and a small GDP. This limited their options for spreading communism - which was of supreme importance to them - so they focused on SUBVERSION as their primary strategy to push communism in allied nations (the US, Canada, western Europe, and Australia/New Zealand). Subversion is when you use manipulation tactics to change what people believe, by subtly discouraging some ideas while promoting others. One of these subversive plans was to get avowed Marxists into colleges as teachers/professors and administrators, which they quietly did in the late 1940s and 1950s. By the early 60s, they had many Marxists in place - BUT, the greater society was strongly anti-Marxist, so they needed to find ways to spread Marxist ideas "under cover". This led to Marxists taking over the social movements of the day - Feminism and Black Rights. The purpose was to destroy western society from within, because even back in 1890, Karl Marx recognized that people would not adopt Marxism/Communism if they were already in a functioning capitalist society - Marxism couldn't compete. The people would only accept Marxism if their current society was completely destroyed, and Marxism offered as the solution that could be built from scratch.

3. During WWII, the federal government grew tremendously, and the bureaucrats did not want to lose their power and status after the war. In fact, they came to understand that their power and status derived in large part from the amount of taxpayer money they had control over. Thus, many in government were motivated to grow the "income" of the federal government so they could get control over more of it, and one way to do that was to grow the tax base. Having women work outside the home meant more people making taxable wages, and thus increasing government money. And this was also supported by industrialists, who understood that vastly increasing the labor force would dilute wages - basic supply-and-demand.

4. In the US, the late 40s and especially the 1950s were boom years as the US helped rebuild much of the rest of the world. This allowed, for the first time, middle class parents to send their kids to college in large numbers.

This confluence of events created an environment that allowed Feminism to explode in the 1960s. Marxist teachers and administrators were already in place in colleges - some using the cover of Feminism to train women to prioritize careers over families in an effort to destroy what Marxists determined to be the strongest pillar of western society: the nuclear family.

[MrOracle]

This was originally just sold as "the freedom of women to CHOOSE", but it wasn't long before women were taught that going to college and prioritizing a career was their only path to success and freedom. Every year, Feminism pushed a bigger wedge between men and women - encouraging divorce, encouraging women not to marry, encouraging promiscuity, and equating being a mother - especially a stay-at-home mother - with slavery.

All this was an effort to destroy the nuclear family, because they recognized that a family supported each other when one family member ran into problems and needed help, which meant that western society tended to be robust and able to withstand lots of problems. Western society had to be completely destroyed - down to the last metaphorical brick - before people would vote for Marxism and their own enslavement as a "solution." And that couldn't happen as long as the nuclear family was strong and resilient, so it had to be destroyed.

The Marxist take-over of the Black Power/Black Rights movement had similar goals, as did the later take-over of the environmentalist/"green" movement - to undermine western society to prepare the people to vote in Marxism. And, look, we now have an openly Marxist mayor in NYC and a bunch in government in Maine - and plenty of not-as-open leaders in Minnesota, Washington, Oregon, and California. None of that is accidental or organic. It's all Marxism playing the long game, and for keeps.

[Finchie40]

Because to have a happy content relationship with someone, it’s best to be financially secure, so you are t bringing financial struggles into a relationship that can cause a relationship not to happen. Money shouldn’t be a reason you get into a relationship with someone period , because if That is the case that relationship won’t survive whatsoever. Me personally doesn’t date users and mooches

[AI Opinion]

Choosing a career first can offer women independence, self-fulfillment, and personal growth. It provides opportunities to contribute to society, achieve personal goals, and attain financial stability. Many women find satisfaction in their careers and see it as an integral part of their identity. Balancing career and personal life is challenging for both men and women. Priorities reflect individual values, goals, and circumstances. Personal fulfillment comes from making choices that align with one's aspirations, whether it's focusing on a career, family, or both. Each individual's path is unique, contributing to a diverse and dynamic society.

[MrChinaski]

Okay. This is entirely supposition. I don't recall reading any relevant research. But ignorance isn't going to stop me.

Suppose you intend to bear and raise a couple of children and take time out or part-time work. Not a necessary model for women but still a common one. So your choice out of college is:

1. Bear children early. In early years of a career, most staff are expendable. You are a commodity. There's 10 other knowledgeable people that can do your work. Your employer may be reluctant to be generous in accommodating your needs. You have a bunch of knowledge out of uni that depreciates with absence from the work force. If your employer lets you go, you will often only secure less good jobs on less helpful promotion trajectories if you want to return. Referees in support may have only worked with you for a couple of years and their references are impressionistic. You have limited networks and reputation outside your old employer. Often you end up starting your career again from scratch but everything is even harder to juggle than the first time through.

2. Bear children later. Yes, you forgo higher wages while on leave. But you are an asset, your value is known more widely, your references are stronger, and your career has come to depend more on people management, networking, assessing wide scops of information to make hard decisions, presenting an image to inspire staff, pastoral care, conflict resolution... etc... skills that don't decay as quickly as university-acquired knowledge.

Just a hunch.

[Simslover92]

If I had been smarter in college, I would have chose settling down with the guy I should have been with then instead of later on in my life. We would have probably been married with kids by now, but instead I chose to play around with the bad boy instead of being serious with the nerdy guy, went to grad school after college and went straight into the workforce afterwards.

I do deeply regret it because here I am almost 35 and still single, childless and sad.

I will always encourage young women now to not make the same mistake I made. Find your husband in college and marry him soon after graduating.

[sawno]

I get attacked when I advice girls to prioritize dating in their 20's, because they know better and find their careers much more important. While forgetting that there isn't a time limit on the career part.
I hope you will find your true love, you always come across like a sweet girl.

[Simslover92]

Thank you. And I'm sorry you get attacked for that. It's sad that they don't take your advice because the reality is as you say there isn't a time limit on the career part like there is on finding a husband and having children.

[DishLady]

I love the logical fallacies on this platform… Sigh…

“Women” don’t collectively or uniformly “choose careers over everything”. Just because a woman has professional or academic interests doesn’t mean that she’s not interested in having a family or raising children. Much better to have a professional interest than to go galavanting with different guys every night or to mess around with married guys…. I don't know why folks are so adamantly bent on putting professional women in a negative light.

Matt7:3-5/Lk6:41-46 — Check the log in your own eye before you critique the splinter in your neighbor’s eye.

[BadApple69]

This is feminism. It teaches women that they don’t need men, men just hold them down. Feminism does push for a lonely life for women and men alike.
The reality…. Women need men and men need women. In most cases married people will tell you that their spouse IS also their best friend.

[Kabluie]

Because everyone has goals, and it's possible settling down or even getting pregnant can get in the way of said goals. I work with many people who didn't want to do anything different until they became an executive or higher up, and at that point you can take all the time you want off for maternity before coming back

[AliceGregory]

I don't think women are more inclined to feel that way than men BUT a growing percentage of people who feel that way are women.

It's the degree of commercialism in our society. It makes us value stuff more than the people in our lives.

[SofaKingsMart]

If the expectation was men staying home and sacrificing their career advancement to have a family, many more world prioritize career and over family.
I promise you

[beenherebefore]

They don't want to depend on anyone I guess.

[StephanieChick111]

I don't know. I choose family first. My friends do also.

[FunkyMonkee]

Which woman?

[FunkyMonkee]

The same reasons a men would choose career.