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Let go of your inner control freak!

I am a total control freak and just learning how to loosen the reins and enjoy spontaneity. It took a rather embarrassing moment for me to realize that you can't always maintain the picture perfect image you wish to achieve. Sometimes things happen and you have to roll with the punches or you'll spend your whole life chasing an unrealistic standard.

And guess what? Guys don't want a Barbie doll who looks, talks and acts like she's flawless. Guys want someone who has dreams, goals, insecurities, vulnerabilities and little quirks that make her special and unique. Your inner control freak is waiting on the sidelines so she can say, "See? I knew you weren't good enough." Perfection is not meant for humans and it is not the true definition of beauty. There are so many ways for people to be beautiful and that begins with genuine conversations and true human connections. Those feel-good moments that make you realize just how similar we all are. The basic human needs are: acceptance, love, and a sense of belonging. This is not something that can be achieved if we are all wearing our social masks and claiming to be something we're not.

Although I am just starting to accept my flaws and how real they are, this has been such a liberating and lifelong journey to reach this point. It is truly mentally and physically exhausting to always carry the weight of the world on your shoulders and expect to be "presentable" every single second of every single day. Your refusal to lower your guard is not just a protective shield against the world but also a way of hiding from yourself.

Give people the chance to love the real you because in all honesty, she is probably a lot more approachable and less intimidating than the image you project to the world. And so what if your image is shattered? Maybe at the day's end when you take off your makeup, slip out of your high heels and climb into bed in your most natural state, you'll know that your final thoughts and what you think about at night are what truly define you. The pretenses are stripped away and you are forced to confront the person who lives inside of you when all the distractions of everyday life are no longer at play.

I wanted to give a quick thank you to the person who inspired me to explore this side of myself and loosen the reins (just a little bit). He shall remain nameless but I so appreciate how honest, genuine and encouraging he was. This has truly been a beautiful yet terrifying journey but I wouldn't trade it for the world <3

From stressed to carefree
From stressed to carefree
Freedom at its finest!
Freedom at its finest!
Let go of your inner control freak!
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