Relationships

Are You A Victim of Control?

You're in a new relationship, it's brand new. Your new partner seems so caring and is hooked on you like you wouldn't believe. It's wonderful;beautiful. But wait! Before you take it too far and you make a bad decision by saying "Yes!" to his proposal if it happens, here are warning signs that you are or about to be in a "controlling" relationship.

I made this terrible decision back in May of 2016. I stepped out of a five year relationship due to personal reasons and got into contact with a guy I had knew from two years ago who instantly agreed to be mine and offered that I come and stay with him. I was all excited for a new experience. Well, it goes to say that not all of us make the right decisions in life, and we need to learn and grow. As you must know he proposed four months in and two months later after a suicide attempt, I ran and I never looked back.

Here are the warning signs that I should of paid attention to. Word of the wise never move in with someone that early. And the signs are as follows :

If you have sex right off the bat

This is capable of pulling that control trigger. If you meet someone ane they want a relationship with you, hold your sexual urges back! That's dangerous. You are letting them know, that you are simply "too easy", and are capable of being taken advantage of.

The Look of The Hunt

Are You A Victim of Control?

This has to be one of the biggest indicators that you already blew it and they have every ounce of control of you possible.

It simply is the "wolf hunting its prey" look. Have you ever watched Animal Planet? Yeah, make sure you pay attention, here. It's a "you are screwed and I own you look" that isn't hard to miss. The earliest you will probably ever see that look is two to three months in the relationship, when they know they have earned your trust. Imagine, instead of sharp teeth like a wolf they have the sly smile and of course "the look."

They Are "Messy"

Flat out messy, they never have anything organized, eat out of cans,leave dirty dishes and clothes everywhere. Then they'll expect you to be the one to always clean and not partake in any chores because they are "obligated" to themselves. Be weary, as this can also be the sign of a manipulator.

They Won't Let You Leave

Sure, they will tell you that you don't have to stay, that you can go anytime you please, but you're "weak" remember? You'll feel bad if you do leave, so you stay anyway. When that happens, run! Run and do it like, yesterday.

Are there any further indicators?

Yes! Plenty.

They earn the trust of others, your family members easily or option B, they can hate your family. If you hate a family member , they'll seem to enjoy them simply because they are trying to find ways to destroy you or so they can look better in every situation. Also signs of a manipulator.

The truth is, you are not obligated to stay and bow down to them . Not like that. So don't become a victim, as soon as they have power you literally are screwed, and your life well on its way to tragedy.

Are You A Victim of Control?
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