Having wanted to post this long ago, I’m now prompted to with the drop of her two new singles “Look At Her Now” and “Lose You to Love Me,” both of which I’ve listened to already and don’t even need to say how much I love them. I have been a big male fan of Selena for many years in a way that is not the same for other celebrity worshipers, and I’ll tell you why.
Why do I love the Gomez?...
Oddly enough, I have been very curious and intrigued with Selena Gomez for years, since wayyyyyyyyy back in the late 2000s when she was doing the Disney show The Wizards of Waverly Place, that I never even watched because I didn’t have cable and I didn’t watch Disney kids programs. For some strange reason I had always been very intrigued by this young girl with Mexican looks and a mane of beautiful dark hair. And it was never out of any sexual, romantic attraction, as oddly enough I have never been able to feel that way about her even now that she is an adult. I see her more as someone who could be a sister or a friend, or a kind of agape love soulmate from another world. All I know is that I’ve always found her to be curious and that she was often in my thoughts back then in her youth, and I don’t know why.
This interest in the Gomez has been one very difficult for me to explain. It’s as if there is some kind of energy about her that I connect with or something. Even back then in the late 2000s, she was actually a part of the inspiration for some of my old paintings of fantasy theme parks and fantasy towns that I would locate in southern California, where I’ve always wanted to go. She has always seemed to be something different to me. Of course, she is still a human and still a celebrity and like all celebrities has done things that are not perfect and things that I of course don’t agree with or approve of, like her dating Justin Bieber in the past. Yet I still like her.
She stands her ground with her musical style...
I have followed most of Selena’s music, namely since her album Stars Dance, which although may have some corny tracks and some that were too adult for her at the time, were ones that I still like, like “Come and Get It.” I even still enjoy her funny Waverly Place single “Tell Me Something I Don’t Know.” But I haven't really been into her old collaborations with The Scene. Her last album Revival was my favorite, with dark chocolate tracks on it that seemed to glow with my sensual personality, especially “Body Heat,” and although “Revival” is not a sexual song, it’s the music and rhythm of it that ignites my sexuality, as if I step into an ancient crystal pyramid full of exotic energy that takes over me.
One of the things I love about Selena as a singer is that her voice is hers. It’s original. And her voice has a normal melody that she does not try to change. Unlike all the other female pop artists nowadays, who want to sing with annoying overdone R&B vocals that they think sound great and are supposed to imitate black women’s voices - who don’t even really sound like that - when they really just sound like European and American white girls and Latinas working overtime to sound like black women. This irritates the hell out of me. But Selena has maintained her normal voice and hasn’t succumbed to trying to change with the industry, and I hope she never does.
I also like the poetry of her lyrics. It reminds me of me and my own poetry. I feel like I understand where she’s coming from even if other people might think her songs are just okay. And even if I think some of her songs are just okay, I understand what she’s trying to say.
Back in the late 2000s, along with Selena, I also developed a curiosity with Demi Lovato, which later did turn into a crush I had on her, especially after I had the pleasure of speaking to her a few times through email after somebody leaked her personal email address online. I have talked about this in more detail on other sites, but I’m not gonna do that here. I later found out that she and Selena were friends. Way back then I thought highly of Demi and her concern with wanting to go against bullying in schools, and was under the impression that she would go on to grow up into being one of the few decent young starlets in Hollywood, while for a time I lost faith in Selena because of her relationship with Bieber.
The opposite happened. Demi got older and started taking on more of a sensual, badass image, acting not-so-great and saying things she shouldn’t have, subscribing to the bipolar diagnosis to explain her behavior, going down dark paths, creating drama with Selena, and turning into a bully herself by coming out against 21 Savage and deleting her Twitter account because of the backlash. While Selena was the one to keep up a decent image. Even if she was with Bieber and maybe did some dumb things, the thing about Selena is that she has never felt like she needed to look darker, act darker, be bad as she wanna be, shave one side of her head, subscribe to bisexuality, delve into hard drugs, have several boyfriends, or even jump into a marriage with anybody.
Selena has kept her voice and pretty much kept her image. Her lyrics have of course become more sensual, but sexual development is a normal part of growing up. There are people who dislike Selena simply because they feel that her image is too clean, princess-ish, or like a diva and are the ones who support all the bitchy, trashy, grimy girls, but Selena has not given in and she maintains many more fans and followers on Instagram than pop and hip hop’s biggest female artists like Rihanna, Cardi B, and Beyonce. Selena is in 2019 the 4th highest icon on Instagram with 158 million followers, even higher than Taylor Swift who is 11th.
She's seen some rough times…
Every now and then I check up on some of my favorite icons and singers on Wikipedia to see if any new information is up, and back in 2008 when I read about her, there was of course very little since her career and profile was still basically new, and when I looked her up again a few years later there still wasn’t much more going on, then recently I found more of a fleshed out article on Wikipedia that surprised me.
When she was a kid Selena and her mom were actually struggling - and not the kind of whiny stuff that priveleged kids want to complain about, but the real deal that was even similar to my own hardships growing up. She and her mom actually had to use change they would hunt for just to keep gas in their car, and were food shopping at the dollar store cuz they couldn’t afford the grocery store. And her mom even had to work three jobs. She dealt with the separation of her parents and the ups and downs of life. And she overcame her battle with lupus in recent years that I remembered hearing about. She has definitely seen some things that I don’t think most Hollywood kids have really experienced.
She stands her ground with her faith...
Selena also surprisingly makes claim to the Christian faith as a celebrity and attends the Hillsong church, and although I do know there are celebs who also claim it, what makes it so surprising with her is that she is actually open about her faith and relationship with God, giving credit to him and not being ashamed of Christ or hiding your belief, which is exactly in the Bible, nor is she doing it as a publicity move or socially political statement. And she isn’t a Republican Christian either. What she is doing is not something common with Hollywooders, as the entertainment industry is full of anti-Jesus vibes, messages, and lifestyles. She is courageously open about it and I’m sure she’s aware of what the rest of Hollywood thinks.
But let me be real here. Even if you don’t agree with all her spiritual perspectives or testaments of faith, or think her being a celebrity and a Christian at the same time don’t work or even go against each other, or feel that her Hillsong church is just another shady megachurch, the point is that I do think Selena does have some kind of care about God and does mean to be an upright person in faith. Like all of us, she is not a spotless angel and she will continue to grow in her faith and learn more truth if she is as serious about it as she says she is.
Maybe one day I’ll get to meet her…
There aren’t a lot of celebrities I really care about and wouldn’t ever really want to meet. I’ve already met a few no-big-deal icons in real life, and I’ve chatted with a few big name stars online before. However, Selena is one I think I would be interested in meeting some day. I feel like we may possibly have some things in common. She has a temperament that is somewhat similar to my own, especially in how she responded to fans talking about Hailey Baldwin - Bieber’s now-wife - throwing shade at Selena in her controversial Instagram post with a song from Summer Walker called “I Will Kill You.”
She is a celebrity and of course she has her flaws and things that I don't like or agree with - her past relationship with Bieber, her friendship with Taylor Swift, and her sometimes overglamorous dress and makeup styles. I always feel like even if we may be very different in lifestyles or mindsets that there is still something somewhere in the waves that we might connect on that would be the core thing of the situation. There is some kind of energy there I can't explain. For some reason she has always radiated many bright colors to me that I would like to see up close for myself. Maybe some day that will happen.