As I know, this is a kind of a challenge that is mentioned in the book "Getting to I Do." So, what do you know about Dr Pat Allen 8 week rule? What does it refer to?
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Just more subjective bullshit by a whack "dating doctor" looking to sell her latest warez.
Just been through some of her meanderings, and most of it is just easy answers and common sense. She tries to insert some jargon to make herself something different from the average dating/family coaches out there.0
I guess it's 8 weeks till sexy time. Which in my opinion wouldn't give me a melt down, provided we are being physically affectionate with one another.0
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I haven't read this book. But I totally agree with waiting , maybe even more like 12 weeks. For serious relationship only , that is. Definitely need to see if you have that mentally connection, before moving to the real fun part, the sex! Then you can see if you have both mental and physical connections.0
I might have it confused for something else, but it might be a time period before sleeping with your new boyfriend/girlfriend or itfriend. I guess just to see if they really are committed to you or just wanna fuck.0
I would assume a game plan on how to get married.0
Who is Pat Allen.10
Never heard of that.0
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Never heard of it10
OK this is what I know about it - Do Not Assume That It Will Work.
( In her book, Getting to ‘I DO,’ Dr. Patricia Allen explains the most important information every woman needs to know about men and relationships. She begins by warning women against having sex with a man before a commitment has been formalized. Why? Because the chemical Oxytocin is released in a woman’s brain making her bond to a man.
Unfortunately, men don’t bond in this way. “It can take up to TWO YEARS to break this kind of addiction (Oxytocin bonding), so I strongly suggest that for physical, mental, and emotional well-being, you be very careful whom you ‘let in’ to your body, and under what conditions,” she wrote. “If you haven’t negotiated a commitment before you make love, you’re probably not going to afterward. Left-lobe-oriented masculine men do not bond through sex. They bond through the commitments they make and keep.”
If you find yourself in a break-up (whether you’ve had sex or not) you have to keep your distance for 8 weeks. Here’s why, according to Dr. Patricia Allen, and how it works:
“It takes approximately 8 weeks for a man to process a decision.
1 to 4 weeks: He can function, at least superficially, dating, working, and living.—His left-lobed logic says, ‘Who needs her? I’ll decide how things go between us. No woman controls me!’
If he’s in love and didn’t know it, he will call and ask to be “friends”—DON’T DO IT! It will rekindle your oxytocin bonding.
Don’t listen to his voicemail messages.
Change your outgoing voicemail recording—Have someone else record your message in his or her voice so he can’t get a voice fix off you and stay away longer.
(Change your social media photos to something that isn’t you. I used coffee mugs and writing utensils during my 8-week period.)
Don’t taste, touch, smell, see or hear him—You will lose that tension-building separation anxiety.
Don’t call him for any reason.
6 to 8 weeks: If you don’t call he will realize what he’s feeling and will call to tell you he’s in love with you and wants a commitment.
If he doesn’t call by 8 weeks, IT’S OVER!
Start duty dating. Dress up, get out, read self-help books and get on with your life as a single woman.
If it was a long-term relationship, it might take as long as two years to get over him. Don’t sit around. A new love will take you away from him.” )
Where she says “It takes approximately 8 weeks for a man to process a decision.
1 to 4 weeks: He can function, at least superficially, dating, working, and living.—His left-lobed logic says, ‘Who needs her? I’ll decide how things go between us. No woman controls me!’"
She could not be more wrong,
If an Man decides that he is finished with a Women due to rejection or cheating the decision is instantaneous from Loving to Cold in the snap of the fingers and when that happens the relationship is done - finished, no matter what Dr. Patricia Allen says, she is a woman and will never truly know a man's mind.
Very interesting concept.
I do agree, though, if the break up happened due to cheating or something unforgivable, then the other person is dead to me (and most people probably feel the same).