How much do you hate funerals?

Question

I hate them. Currently writing the opening scene to my new story where the main character hates funerals as much as I do.

She doesn't go to church and she feels the priest staring daggers at her for not going.

dudeinohio · Accepted Answer

I dont like funerals either and I don't like organized religion. Yes I am spiritual and a man of faith; but i have had issues with church politics before and am not attending church.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

I hate them enough that I won't go to them unless I absolutely have to.

Cinematic Lily · Accepted Answer

I get you. Funerals drain me too, mostly because they feel so performative and stiff instead of truly intimate 🥀

Your opening is relatable: a non‑religious main character surrounded by ritual she doesn’t believe in, feeling judged by the priest. You can lean into the sensory details: the smell of incense, itchy black clothes, forced small talk, all amplifying her discomfort and resentment.

ohsheeT · Answer

I dont like them whether it's one of my family members that have died or somebody else's you have to be there and watch everybody feel the emotions that they feel the loss that they feel

The love the person that they're going to miss and whether you believe in life after death or you believe just in death it's something that we all have to deal with and it really sucks cuz you have to look at it it's like what is the main lesson that we are all brought here for what are we all supposed to learn before we pass away and we only have so much time to understand and to learn this

My mom just passed away and I had moved her into my home so I could take care of her I didn't want her going to a Care Center where she would not really get to care she was living with my sister but she wanted to move away from my sister's house for whatever reasons so I had to move her in with me and in that four years we got to know each other even better and there was some great moments but I believe that there is life after death and so when she passed I mean I was right with her when she was passing when she died and I knew what was happening and it broke my heart but there's things in life that you have to understand you have to acknowledge and you have to accept no matter the pain of missing somebody it's going to happen to all of us so

The thing that made it easier for me was I got to take care of her for four years And The last four years of her life I Memorable happy laughable And Peace To let her be herself and relax Whatever you know And I got to be a part of that and so it was a great moment For me and when she passed I knew that she passed Happy Because she told me Before she passed Which she felt of me and Just her life in general And that just made everything easier For me anyway I don't know about anybody else But yeah I don't like I'll put it that way

Beckybooboo · Answer

I've been to three in my lifetime. My good friend's father's funeral, my grandpa's funeral and a cousin's funeral. I cried through all three of them and hated being there but it was a sense of closure and it was amazing to see the outpouring of love and sympathy toward the one's that were lost. I also reconnected with friends and relatives that came to pay their last respects. I absolutely hate why I'm there but can appreciate why I go. I know I didn't actually answer your question but I tried lol

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't say that I hate them. They are sad but also cathartic. What I hate is the fact that a loved or friend is no longer in my life.

I attended funerals for my grand parents, an uncle, my parents, and several friends.
Some funerals provide the final punctuation on the life of the person. The person is treated with the highest honor and respect as they are bade a final farewell. Their funeral becomes a cherished memory.

I don't like religious services. But memorials can cool when people share memories and even funny stories about the deceased. They can be a bittersweet celebration of life.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

I've been to more than I care to count, which is the by-product of being the youngest in an extended family in which there are something like 8 aunts and uncles.
Depends on the nature of the funeral. Oh I'll go regardless as it's really for the family, and if it's close to you all the people kind of hijack the thought train so to speak. I REALLY dislike the smell of the usual funeareal flower sprays.
The best ones though are the ones in which the life is celebrated and most people are sharing the good times and funny stories etc... Those are actually a little uplifting.

FreyaRed · Answer

Funerals aren't fun parties but paying last respect to the person who died. Thinking in terms I like something so I do that while I don't like something so I don't do that is a little bit off in this situation and can be considered vanity, hedonism or what ever.

Bricealan · Answer

Unfortunately dying is an inevitable part of living. I'm not looking forward to my funeral, frankly because there will not be one. I am being cremated and buried at sea, off of a yacht off of the California coast

Funerals are something I hate also, so I'm in agreement with you.

LC75LC71 · Answer

Sad would be a better term. Back in 2015 I delivered flowers and the #1 client was funeral homes with a close 2nd to guys wanting to get their girl back. Anyway there was a day where I had to deliver a rosary and arrangement for a stillborn baby. They were tiny sized.

sage2021 · Answer

I decided years ago that I wasn't going to attend any more funerals.. I want to remember them like the last time that I saw them alive and well.

Kvass · Answer

So much. The waste of flowers, having to hear how amazing the person was even when they were terrible. I'm just counting the minutes until I can leave.

RavVid · Answer

I don't though I'd rather the person had not died. I do think it is good to remember what that person was to you.

Shiprex · Answer

I wish there was no such thing. The movie Soilent Green was kinda like this where it was celebrated once you reach a certain age you went away (to become food for everyone else lol) but the whole celebration is something I think is positive.

Quiet_Man · Answer

I tried to not go to my brother's. I don't want to attend any because they're not done esoterically enough, what they do in modern churches is not exactly how the dead want to interact with us.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't hate funerals. It's important to share the family's grief when a loved on dies.

DonaldDarko · Answer

I hate that people die. Even a piece of shit like George Floyd deserved better than to have mobs of political actors fake crying at his coffin.

Massageman · Answer

Not my favorite event of the day, but I have had to attend three in the last 9 months or so, two for my cousin and then his wife, and more recently for the husband of a friend of ours.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

Completely. They're awkward as hell and people cry at them.

Staximus · Answer

You know you’re getting old when you’re going to more funerals than weddings. 3 of my friends have drank themselves to death in the last year and a half

Anonymous · Answer

I hate it so much that funeral could be really cruel for sensitive people.. I have only attended only one funeral in my whole life and it dug my heart out

exitseven · Answer

Funerals are no fun unless it is somebody that I despised.

FrodoSkywalker007 · Answer

I have seen too many and they are always uncomfortable

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

I don't. I have been to a couple hundred or so. and no priest would do that.

Jeff51 · Answer

I dislike them but our fate is we will be in 1 someday

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I don't particularly like them perse, but I don't dislike them either. I'd rather go to a funeral than a wedding any day of the week! 😂

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are depressing.

Anonymous · Answer

Love funerals. So easy to pick up chicks there.

jazzy34 · Answer

They’re definitely a sad occasion.

MrChinaski · Answer

I don't even plan on attending my own.

_Jenny_ · Answer

@simslover92  very depressing

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Does anyone enjoy funerals? I don't.

Jackblue · Answer

I prefer them to weddings.

MariaEve · Answer

I am neutral about them.

lessthansane · Answer

They are creepy and bizzare I hate them

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I never want to go to another one

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