The struggles of being a single mom (Page 2)

[PhiOmega]

Lots of respect for all the good single mothers,

But 2 things as for y i wouldn't date 1...

1, Usually, the types of guys they've chosen, the ex or baby daddy who left her in that situation... it reflects on the type of person she is i'm like "she dated him? No, no, no"

2, i love kids, but a lot of times they won't let u discipline, and that's part of being n ACTUAL parent, it's how u teach, train, n connect with ur children

[myTake Owner]

Oh most definitely! It takes a lot out of any man or woman coming into a single parents life. This message (though I didn't write it quite the way intended) was written mainly for the people whom think single parents are a burden, all the same, and come into their lives thinking they will come before the children. I have had two men come into my life thinking I was going to send my babies off with their father every three days or so and for a couple weeks at a time so I could spend time with him. Which is just pathetic to me.

[Mareep]

I think the baggage point people make is just showing personal prejudice. I, for one, don't like the prospect of dating someone with a little yappy dog. Especially since they live longer than a better, larger dog. But that's really MY hang-up, not their baggage.

[Bluemax]

If your daughter found herself in the same situation as you did when you had your four year old, that is to say the father of your daughter's unborn child doesn't want that child, what advice would you offer your daughter?

What advice would you offer your daughter's baby's father?

[myTake Owner]

I would like to think that I will raise my children better than that. However, not one parent is perfect. So I am really not sure what I would ever say if the situation arose.

[Bluemax]

May I ask what your own parents said?

[myTake Owner]

My father has never been in the picture. My mother didn't say anything. I went into the bathroom with a pregnancy test, came back out and she said "Are you?" I nodded my head yes and she said "Wow" and walked off. I believe she was disappointed but she would have never told me that. Being a single mother herself, she always tries to build us kids up as much as possible and support us through everything. My mom has always been very supportive.

[Bluemax]

I wish you, your children, and your mother all the best.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks.

[MaskedSanity]

You've just proven to every guy on here why nobody should ever date single mothers.

This entire post is riddled with baggage.

[CincinnatiRedsfan]

This may be hard for you to believe but there are women who aren't even mothers who have a tremendous amount of baggage.

[MaskedSanity]

@CincinnatiRedsfan

Of course there are. Which part of my comment suggested otherwise?

[CincinnatiRedsfan]

The part of your comments that said "You've just proven to every guy on here why nobody should ever date single moms; this entire post is riddled with baggage." You're implying that single moms are the ones with the most "baggage."

Really, I didn't think her post was riddled with baggage, other than the fact she has kids and ex-boyfriends.

[MaskedSanity]

@CincinnatiRedsfan

Nowhere have I said or even implied that. You're finding things to be offended by most likely because someone in your own family is a single parent. If you want to have a discussion, try thinking with your head, not your feelings.

Her baggage is her obnoxious attitude, not her children. Her children were simply the root cause of said attitude.

[myTake Owner]

My children are the root cause of my attitude? You have got to be the most ignorant person I have ever in my life encountered. You clearly don't have children, do you? Until then, get your head out of your asshole for two seconds and take a big wiff around. Your shit does stink and your attitude is just as bad, if not worse, than me. Have yourself a wonderful life. And thank you @CincinnatiRedsfan for standing up for me! I appreciate it and agree with you. Everyone has baggage. Some are just oblivious to it.

[MaskedSanity]

Having children has gotten to your head so much, you developed this obnoxious attitude and anyone that DARES criticise you is a terrible human that doesn't understand how hard it is to be you. And it's a catchphrase amongst you types to claim "wah wah until you have your own kids wah wah waaah".

Cry me a bloody river.

The whole take and every reply to anyone that disapproved of your passive aggressive attitude is met with more anger and bitterness.

THAT is your baggage. But do carry on whining and bashing your chest with your fists like you're some hero for fulfilling one of the basic functions of organic life.

[myTake Owner]

I have developed an attitude because of the simple fact that ever since the man I was supposed to marry cheated on me and left me and our children high and dry, I have been ridiculed and picked apart on a daily basis. Oh single mothers don't do anything. Oh single mothers blah blah blah. They are such a burden blah blah blah. Every stinkin day I go through this. I am faced with my children asking me why their daddy don't love them enough to come around. I am the one who has to put a smile on my babies beautiful faces while I can't even put one on my own! I try my best every single day to provide for my babies. I get little to no sleep because of working an overnight shift that I despise so I can spend every moment they are awake with them. I don't want to be absent like their father. And yes, yes I am bitter. I am angry. Why? Because I know one day my babies are going to look at me and blame me for their father not wanting to be in their life. Just like I blamed my mom. I am helpless.

[myTake Owner]

So I am sorry if my children and my babies will always be far more important to me then any other person within this world. They are all I have. And even while knowing that they will more than likely blame me for their dad not being there, I have to do my best and somehow manage to keep my children happy and content at all times. It is the only thing I have going. It is the only motive I have in my head.

[MaskedSanity]

My boyfriend's mom is a single mother of 5. His father ran away the second he found out she was pregnant and the other 4 siblings were the result of a violent abusive relationship where cheating was always involved.

She's raising 4 kids all by herself and runs a business on the side and has nowhere near your attitude while she has FAR more to be bitter about.

You're not the only single parent that struggles with raising kids. There are literally millions of single moms and dads getting by every day and they don't allow life to turn them into rotten people.

You are responsible for your actions and how you handle each situation.

[myTake Owner]

Just because that situation sounds far worse off does not make my situation any less important. Every single mother and father goes through struggles. Me posting mine up should not have gave you or anyone else the right to bash or pick apart what I have said. You're right, you are responsible for how you handle situations. Don't you think you could have handled this one better than you had? I know what I have said. I am an angry bitter person. But you lashed back with an attitude yourself. You fed into my attitude. Thank you for your opinion and have a good one. I am happy to know that your boyfriends mother is doing well for herself despite her hardships. Goodnight.

[MaskedSanity]

I didn't lash out, I made an observation. You just didn't appreciate said observation being highlighted.

This is my entire point. People don't dislike single mothers because they have x amount of kids, the beggage guys are concerned about is how jaded a woman becomes after the hardships and you're a shining example of it.

[Marinepilot]

You are so right !

[AboveTheClouds]

I respect single mothers! I only live with my Mother and I love her. She raised me good and I love who I am. If I loved somebody, and they had a son or daughter, they're not mines, But I would gladly accept them as one of my own. I'll never be that father that leaves, those type of people should not have the title of "Father" or a "Man" if you not ready, then you shoulda had protection son.

[planetnumb]

My hats off to you for being so capable after he left you. You are indeed a shining example to all single mothers of how to survive after being ditched like. Being a single father of 2 kids, I would be inspired by you to carry on after my wife died young. Cheers to you.

[lamborgini15]

Ok take but it is pretty much the same when you are together because the malke usually works full time. My mother had to explain about dicks and stuff too and sex and stuff but my parents were together.

[myTake Owner]

Oh absolutely! These things I have listed above are things that every parent has to do. Single or not. I was more or less trying to get my point across as single parents shouldn't be looked upon as burdens. Because we do the same thing other parents do, we just have zero help. I have also had men try to make me write my children off and pawn them off on their father for a few weeks at a time because they simply didn't want to deal with them. I am a package deal. No way will I give up my babies for anybody. That was more or less what I was trying to get at within this message.

[lamborgini15]

That is a great message! I was kinda wrong about it then lol

[myTake Owner]

Lol a lot of people took it in the worst way possible. I should have written it in a clearer way. No worries :)

[Nathand]

You can't choke the sympathy out of me.

I'm taking the stand to feminism.

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[janaina]

I love that take. I would also like to mention to those who say that they would never want to be a single mother: You really don't know what situations life will throw at you so don't judge others.

[jdbaird]

Ladies take note, this is the result of choosing the "bad boy".

[Nathand]

That's something I would I have said.

[jdbaird]

2 women who voted me down mistakenly think the "bad boy" will stick around and help raise the kids :-D

[abundantlyrich]

I haven't or seen any men saying bad things about single mothers on welfare here. Only just that the mothers aren't realistic about giving their time to their dates. The child/children are needy.

If you say this...

** You will never be better than our children. Never. And it will take a damn miracle to be worthy enough to even be a part of our babies lives. Children are not baggage. My children are the best thing that has ever happened to me.**

[abundantlyrich]

I take it you don't need a man since your children fulfils you deeply in your life.

[CrayolaCupcake]

You sound like an amazing woman. Keep going strong. :)

[jacquesvol]

Whenever I think about the 'baggage' of a single mother, it is ONLY referring to the father of the children and to his mom. These two are the PITA for any man approaching a single mom.

[jacquesvol]

Excellent take!

[Nik1hil]

Hats off, hats off, hats off to the take and to the mom

[blessed_curse]

Aw such a great take! I know how much moms sacrifice for their children. My mom did and does a lot :)

[WhatTheHellAmy]

It's amazing how brave these women are.

[Marinepilot]

And how foolish. Don't be like them, they are lost souls
with damn few prospects fot a bright future. Moreover, this
is what happens when girls try to tame the "Bad Boy". They get
knocked up, bad boy leaves and they get their ass on their shulders
because no one wants them. Kids from another man are baggage. Contrary to
with this opinion owner thinks. She's 22, two kids from two different baby daddys.
@hat man in his right mind whose worth a shit is going to want her? Trust me she's
nothing special and likely to end up alone and broken hearted. I've seen this movie
many times and I know how it ends.

[I_am_repulsive]

I respect single parent, no matter the gender. Very good take

[RationalMale]

A written essay of why girls should be extremely careful to not have children until they can be sure they won't be raising them alone.

[Christie_01]

She snapped on y'all. Sterotypes are not true.

[Anonymous]

If I replace Single "mother" with single "parent"... this is a respectful take.