Treat your Dad right this weekend! (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't you treat your dad right always? Fucking stupid if you ask me. Dumb fags don't know how to respect their elders.

[Dave_the_Dude]

I promise you treat your father exactly like I did when I was your age. The majority of teens do.

Also, considering I'm at least 10 years your elder, and you just outright disrespected me by calling me fucking stupid, then what does that say about you?

[Opinion Owner]

No, um saying Disrespecting your parents Is fucking stupid. What do you mean you promise?

[Dave_the_Dude]

I mean I guarantee you act the same way towards your parents that I did.

You lose your temper in arguments and say stuff like "I hate you and I wish I'd never been born"

You get embarrassed at them in public and try to distance yourself. Everyone does it.

It goes beyond showing respect. I'm not saying I straight treated my father like garbage, but I didn't treat him like he was an irreplaceable part of my soul the way he deserved. Father's Day was always this annoying chore I had to go through to meet some social expectation.

Today getting to take my dad out for dinner would be the best thing that ever happened to me. Nothing would make me feel better. Back then it was just a routine.

I kinda had this attitude that he was there and he always would be, so I didn't really need to worry about whether or not he knew I loved him. I took him for granted

Basically I didn't put enough time or effort into showing him he was loved, and I regret it.

[Opinion Owner]

Why the fuck would I say that to my dad? I'm never mean to my parents, sure they sometimes treat me like shit but I don't lash out, I always forgive them.

No offense but you sound like a horrid person to your parents!

[Dave_the_Dude]

I'm a full grown adult with over a decade of life experience on you. You are in absolutely no way shape or form in a position to judge me. EVERYBODY loses their temper and lashes out at their parents at some point. Its human nature.

And like I said it goes beyond treating them with respect. Being nice to someone and going out of your way to make them feel loved and appreciated are two different things.

The point of this whole thing wasn't "Hey be respectful to your elders" it was "Make sure you go above and beyond to make your parents know you love them, because if you don't you'll regret it when they're gone"

[Opinion Owner]

I don't disrespect my parents or lash out at them. I'm not judging you but don't assume everyone does the same shit you do! Because not everyone is like that. Then again I was smacked every time I misbehaved wile I was younger but it served me well.

I always try to make my parents feel loved.

[Newtown]

Dont worry about this guy @Dave_the_Dude. Mr childish anonymous just likes to swear and call people he has never met dumb fags, lol and he thinks he knows about respect.
I enjoyed your take by the way and im sorry about your father. You really need to forgive yourself for what you said to your father, ide say your emotions were all over the place and your mind was probably clouded by knowing what your father was planning on going. No doubt a very difficult thing to accept and severe sadness can turn to anger and makes people lash out and say things they dont actually mean, and thats what you did, but that's ok and you're father would forgive you and probably already has.

[Dave_the_Dude]

"I don't disrespect my parents or lash out at them. I'm not judging you but don't assume everyone does the same shit you do!"

It isn't an assumption; It's a basic fact. Humans are flawed. We lose our tempers and say and do shit in the heat of the moment we don't particularly mean. That goes doubly true when you're dealing with someone as close to you as your parents.

Saying you've never lost your temper with them and acted out is like saying you've never pooped.

You can try to paint yourself as a perfect angel who would never do such a thing all you want, but those of us who've been around the block a couple times know better.

@Newtown I appreciate the kind words and I hear it a lot, and from a logical standpoint I realize that's true, but it's not like I can just logic myself out of how I feel, ya know?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure I've been mad at them sometimes but I've kept it to myself, I haven't ever lashed out at my parents or anyone I know.
Of course humans are flawed, isn't it obvious?

I was just raised differently from you, taught never to talk back or even fight back. If me and my parents disagree we'll just talk it out. I'm no angel that's for sure but i! m always good to my family and friends.

[Opinion Owner]

@newtown
There are some people that don't deserve respect. Calling someone a dumb fag or swearing is just part of my vocabulary. Obviously I won't speak like that to an adult I know.

[Dave_the_Dude]

"Sure I've been mad at them sometimes but I've kept it to myself, I haven't ever lashed out at my parents or anyone I know. "

You've never lost your temper, and said something hurtful to get under someones skin, ever, in your entire life? Sorry bud, that is a lie. That's the equivalent of saying you've never laughed or cried. They're natural human emotions and those are the natural reactions to them. This isn't an assumption I'm making; It's just a basic fact of life.

"I was just raised differently from you, taught never to talk back or even fight back."

You're making very broad assumptions about my upbringing without really knowing anything about me,

[Dave_the_Dude]

""There are some people that don't deserve respect. Calling someone a dumb fag or swearing is just part of my vocabulary. Obviously I won't speak like that to an adult I know."

And what have I done to make you feel I don't deserve your respect? Had my father commit suicide, and then regret not being better to him when I had the chance?

You have a lot to learn in life kid. Maybe instead of walking around like you know a secret that all the rest of us haven't figured out, you should stop typing, read the other things being said here, and see how adults discuss this sort of thing.

I get that you're young and you don't fully understand the true gravity of my situation or how hurtful that sort of thing can be, but you don't just go around telling someone who poured their heart out to you and shared one of their deepest regrets they're "dumb fags" and "fucking stupid".

Just the fact that you did that shows me your parents didn't do nearly as well teaching you respect as you claim.

[Opinion Owner]

No I wasn't calling you that. I really haven't lost my temper with py parents or said anything like that.
I'm very quiet even in school. The only time I argue is with my brothers but I'd never say something like I wish you were dead.
It may seem like I'm lying to you but I'm from a completely different cultures.

I did meant any one who disrespect their parents don't deserve respect themselves. I apologize for using fags, that was wrong of me. I didn't aim it at you.

[Dave_the_Dude]

"The only time I argue is with my brothers but I'd never say something like I wish you were dead."

Maybe not those exact words, but at some point in your life you have gotten heated, lost your temper, and said something hurtful to get back at whoever made you mad. If it wasn't something that direct you made a more passive-aggressive play like the silent treatment. Basically what I'm saying is at some point, you've acted out of anger and said or did something to either directly or indirectly get back at someone.

I'm not saying I think you're a bad person or your parents did a bad job raising you. As a matter of fact I'm sure neither of those statements are true. What I'm saying is I think you're human, and its just part of the human condition. There's nothing wrong with it, we all do it at some point.

We're kinda wasting words though since neither of us is gonna budge from our position at this point.

[JCT666]

Asker, don't listen to him. He clearly has no idea.

[Socca_Playa_22]

yes I'm buying my dad dinner