I keep seeing people telling us how we should help people with depression. It's ok if you don't want any help and chose to argue with me. I don't just use my heart to take care of someone but I use my brain too. Take it or leave it but before you start telling me your stories, I just wanna say sorry to hear about those. Anyways I don't lecture anyone who don't need help. Lets start with my experiences first.
I had depression for a long time till I realize how stupid I was brooding about the past when there's nothing I can do about it but to think about the future, think about how young I am and think about how long life is for me to enjoy instead. I live in a corrupt 3rd world country where there are broke people around. Just learned to be thankful regardless. I'm living under a roof when all those times I've been suicidal because my parent's can't take care of me properly, getting abused and left me when I was only 4 then left with my strict grand parents who won't let me do anything while being bullied at school. It took me a long time to reassure because I had issues with adults that time so I couldn't open up but I did when I was about 14 when I nearly died when someone shot me at my upper right back. I was lucky to survive indeed. I woke up and I saw them caring so that's when I told them about my issues and not wanting to live anymore. I told them everything and that's when the supports started but I declined since I my issues wasn't really over. Thinking about it tho, reminds me of how I had a lot of ego causing me to have issues and it took me 6 years to reassure when I started to think it would be a shame thinking about how bad my life is when my neighbors who only eats canned goods and rice always wanted to live in an actual house as a goal. So I asked myself. What do I want? Right now, I wanna get out of here and migrate as a retired person as early as I can. The point there is that there's always opportunity but it doesn't have to be that way. Maybe someday someone will offer you help and be your good friend. Right now I'm still in pain physically, broke to have it treated but that's not stopping me anymore. Soon I'll earn more to have it treated and it will be worth it.
I wouldn't say it's disorder. It would be considered a disorder if you're not aware you're depressed and in denial about it. But I would say it's more of a bad habit. Bad habit of thinking negative. There are going to be diagnostics that the doctor will say like you lack serotonin or you aren't really producing enough but looking at the cause of it. It's caused by depression caused by the bad habit of thinking negative. "Depression is not a choice" but it is your choice to do something about it. It doesn't matter who caused it. It's your responsibility to stop that bad habit and to scold yourself. Don't attack yourself. It's just like when smokers are addicted to smoking which is a bad habit but they complain about their tuberculosis getting worse and worse, justifying it's a disorder and they can't stop so it's their choice to let it be and face their own consequences. I know there are some of you who's not gonna accept it and start attacking me for it. You can go a head continue believing depression is genetic and incurable just because that's what some people tell you and will be that way.
How to over come it?
All the regrets and the bad things you've done in the past, forget about it. But how? Think. What are you gonna do about your bad past? Sorry to say but there's nothing you can do to change time so instead of thinking about it, why not make your future an excitement while you still can. Do some exercises and take something that boosts your serotonin and get your adrenalin pumping for starters. Doesn't matter how old you are. "Life is too short" If you're familiar with that, I don't believe that since there are many things you can do in a day which there are 7 of it in a week, 28-31 in a month, 365 in a year, 3650 in a decade and so on. Stating the obvious fact but for you to realize how long it actually is but it's still run out eventually and you don't know when. So there are plenty more things you can look forward to and dream big. Stop being satisfied. The facts wouldn't really matter if your goals are big enough. The fact that you think you're "no good", "useless", "ugly" or you're depressed. I'm not saying it's easy but it is very possible. But hardships are basically becoming normal so you don't have to wish for life to be easier. Wish for yourself to be better. Just keep believing and always start with step #1. Start with yourself and when you learn to love yourself, you'll love other people while ignoring your haters who try to bring you down. You support them, open up, they support you and at the end, you'll get plenty of respects. Many haters too but they won't matter anymore. Remember to focus on your goals and write it down.
How to focus?
There are lots of distractions these days that keeps us away from our goals like social medias and G@G. I have to admit G@G is really distracting me but I just have time for it. It's just like when kids are being told to focus at school but they aren't even taught how. To focus they need to meditate. "How to meditate?" Time yourself. Set a timer 10 minutes. Sit comfortably and think nothing. Focus on your breathing. If you broke your concentration like you've thought of something, reset the time and do it again. Keep practicing. You can start with only 3 minutes. That's how you focus. To think I should've made a my take about this but it's fine.
To let you understand
I'm sorry I may sound a little harsh but that's how I care about people and truth can be harsh so it's not to be taken personally so it is hard for me to say it is partly our fault and we have to do your part. "I've tried everything but nothing works" You can be trying for the sake of just trying without giving fate on yourself. Trying because I said so? Don't. Try it because it's what you feel is right. I'm not saying you should follow every of my advice but follow your guts. I'm not someone who just tells them to suck it up and tell them it's all in their head without even explaining anything. I'm not someone who tells you to do this and that. But..
There's only one main advice
Make a goal then follow your instincts.