Okay so I used to be okay with my mother in law until I had a baby. All through the pregnancy my husband and I kept having to deal with her pushy behavior. It started off small with wanting to see him be born. Then wanting to go to all the appointments and such. However we told her no. Then as I got more near the due date she kept trying to get us to change the name and saying she was gonna take off work and be in the delivery room. She actually got upset when we told her that she would not be in the delivery room.
She threw a fit about how she wouldn't get to see any of her grandchildren be born. As my sister in law only had the father of her children in the room. We also struggled with trying to save some things about the pregnancy to tell my own mother first as his kept pestering about everything. She was first to know I was pregnant, therefore I decided it was fair that my mother be the first to know the gender. To make sure my mom knew first besides us I had to video chat with her during the ultrasound.
Eventually it all came down to the last month of my pregnancy. She conveniently gets into a fight with my sister in law and is kicked out. She has no where else to get so of course we take her in. She took over the room meant for the baby, and instantly started being nosey. I have to hide my things because she goes through them and moves them. The month goes on and she keeps saying that she's going to be at the hospital with me when KJ is born, even when we say no. Due date comes and no show, doctor scheduled an induction for March second in the evening.
We tell her that I'm going to be induced but not when, we just kept telling her the doctor hadn't picked a date yet. March 2nd comes and I actually go into labor a couple of hours before I'm scheduled to go in. The hospital calls and tells me not to come in because there is no room. So I ended up waiting for quite a while. I ended up finally going in when my contractions were 3 minutes apart and a minute long. Of course she came home from work and knew I was in labor. My husband told her that she couldn't come.
We get to the hospital and we turn off all social media as we decided so that family wouldn't bug us as I did not need the stress to delay things. This woman decided to constantly call and ask for way to much information. I actually made it through almost all of my labor without cursing until I got pissed off in the last half hour of my pushing stage which was very painful ( I had tearing) and 4 hours long as KJ got stuck. I finally lost it and cursed at my husband to not fucking touch me because his mother chose then to call and he answered it to tell her about it. Like for real you ass I'm in pain and trying super hard to get your child out and your going to answer your phone to give your fucking mom a play by play after I specifically said I didn't want that because her behavior stresses me out. (Yes I'm still angry about this)
I then only had a couple hours to recover before she decided to come visit. Which I was okay with at that point. However I was not expecting her to bring his cousins girlfriend with her!!! I was not happy about that at all. She even had the gall to say it was stupid that I got an epidural. Then I only got that one day to recover in the hospital because she doesn't take care of our dog properly and my husband wanted to go home because otherwise the dog will start being difficult again.
We get home and here's a quick list of things I've been dealing with since:
1.) Her moving mine and the baby's things without permission and putting them God knows where.
2.) Her constantly taking our dishes and leaving them in her car. These are my dishes and very special to me as they were from my hope chest. They are very nice and expensive.
3.) Her making our house a mess and her disgusting methods of "cleaning".
4.) Her constantly doing things that make me uncomfortable with the baby. For example covering his face with a blanket.
5.) Her way of "helping" that always somehow manages to make me feel like she's trying to take my baby away/replace me.
6.) My husband always wanting to take her "advice" or for me to let things go because "she's raised like a hundred kids". Normally advice would be welcome however telling us to give our 3 week old baby tea made of star anise (which is highly toxic for baby's and can cause seizures) is not.
7.) Her constantly coming into our room.
8.) Her keeping my baby way to long when she's allowed to watch him. To the point where I have stopped pumping bottles of milk for her to use in case he gets hungry. We are never gone long enough for it to be necessary anyway. If I do then she will just grab the bottle of milk from the fridge and feed him instead of giving him to me to feed from the breast. Which then means she holds on to him for 6 hours instead of the 3 she's currently stuck with.
9.) Her calling him "my baby"
10.) Her putting her cigarettes out in my cups.
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