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How I Handled My Mother In Law - Mother's Day-

Dear G@Gers,

How I Handled My Mother In Law - Mother's Day-

Guess what?

Me and my Mother-In-Law are best friends"

We get along very well, which is fortunate, this might not always be the case and sometimes we overthink too much.

I’ve noticed that relationship problems with in-laws are among the most common issues that people face, and sometimes it might end up fatal and in heartbreaking break-ups ...

It's not fair to end a relationship because of this, when it's easy to solve, at least in many cases ...

Sure, there are some Devil - In Laws out there, but trust me, It's just a MOTHER'S INSTINCT to protect their child, and I cracked this code and I will show you how I did it.

1. Don't Avoid Her

Usually, the more often you see another person, the more intelligent and attractive you tend to find that person.

Instead of avoiding your mother-in-law, take the time to see her and talk to her, trust me, she will appreciate it so much.

Please be patient, it takes time to gain their trust, remember, and they are just parents and they don't want their children to be hurt ...

Extra points: Whenever you go to visit her, try not to follow your Partner around, let them go wherever they want to, and show your mother-In-Law that you actually want to stay with her instead.

2. Avoid Pointless Bickering

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It does not matter what choices your mother-in-law takes, even if she has a different perspective from you try to get along with it, because you WON'T win that war trust me.

Because SHE IS RIGHT even if she's NOT RIGHT ... so give up ...

Fighting about politics or religion might cause a lot of stress on both ways, in general, pointing out people’s mistakes or criticizing their choices isn’t polite, and it isn’t welcome and it’s not even effective!

Sometimes it's better to keep things to yourself ... out of respect ...

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You won't gain anything out of it anyways so... don't do it

3. Help Her
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This might sound weird, but usually it works, when they invite you to dinner, and the 2 points that I mentioned above are going FINE, try to help her with serving dinner, try to ask her if it's okay for her to wash the plates because you like doing it (even if you don't just do it), you will see a shining starlight in your mother-in law's eyes. She will love and appreciate it.

4. Protect Her
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Some of you want to rather push her off a cliff and get it over with, NO, remember she is just a Mother and wants the best for their child, whenever you see that your PARTNER is somehow attacking her or mocking her for weird things, protect her, tell your partner that she is actually right and that your partner should not be mean to her, not only you mother - in - law will find it amazing, but your partner will love it even more that you actually agree with her.

Extra points: My boyfriend is not really a "mommas boy" , and sometimes he refuses to give her a kiss on the cheek whenever we leave her house, so i block the door and I say "if you don't give your mother a kiss we won't leave". (We're Italian we usually give kisses on cheeks all the time)

Trust me, she will love you for this ;) (and your partner even more)

5. Ask Advice

Ask her how she would handle different situations, or whatever you are facing now, she will feel appreciated that she is being asked for an opinion and value your choices as well.

6. Gain Trust

Usually, mother-in-laws are scared, they are scared to loose their child because of the partner, usually it happens, and that's why in most cases mother-in-laws act the way they act. It is understandable if you ask me.

Try to gain her trust by giving her the security that you want to see her often, and that you want your PARTNER to see her often, and obviously, keep the promise, they deserve to see their kid, and when you get closer to your in-laws, you will enjoy them as well.

7. Invite Her Be Present

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Whenever you organize some family events, invite her, even if you know she will say NO, do it still, try to create a bond between your mom and her mom.

Introduce her to your friends and family, make her feel welcome.

And, if your mother-in-law is modern like mine, try to send her messages on her phones, good morning messages, call her sometimes just to see how she is doing.

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MOTHER'S DAY
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Gain some extra extra points now, with #mothersday coming up, bring her some flowers!!!

They are mothers as well and deserve to be celebrated, and HEY they educated your partner, they basically created them FOR YOU fixed them FOR YOU and that's why you love your partner, but think deeper and thank the right person for it.

Your Partner's Parents <3

WHAT'S THE POINT YOU ASK?

To me, it is essential to get along with my partner's family, because if you truly love your partner you will love his/her family as well, and you will do the best to respect them and to like them ...

YES I KNOW

There is a limit because some mother-in-laws seem to not let go and even if you follow all of the above some are very stubborn and remain devil in laws ...

But, this all depends on your relationship, if it's stable enough that you could talk about these Ideas with your partner, and that YOU are sure that your partner will support you in every way, then you can just try and win her over, if not, your partner will still stick to you IF YOUR PARTNER LOVES YOU and IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS STABLE.

Why not being good friends with your In-Laws ? Some of you might think that they should leave your relationship alone, and mind their own business, and let you live your life with your partner, but I say, I think we will think twice when we OURSELVES become parents ;) we all want to be in our childs business and we will ... trust me we will ...

In my case, my boyfriend was my shield, he protected me whenever my mother - in - law "provoked" me, and after i did all of the above, me and her are inseparable now, and I do love her A LOT NOW, she is not the monster i thought she is, she is an amazing woman, who cares about her child, and who actually loves me being with him.

P.s.

She said she will cut her sons balls off if he leaves me

So

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I guess i gained all the extra points i could here :P

What could go wrong ??

If you don't try you will never know !!!

Have an amazing day

P.s. Happy Mother's day to all you amazing mothers out there

Truly Yours

How I Handled My Mother In Law - Mother's Day-

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