The saying “you should always respect your parents”. Parents that treat you like a torture chamber and abuse you significantly doesn’t deserve you

[Anonymous]

I’m adopted and I grew up in a very terrible household. My mom was beating on me badly, throwing things at me, calling the police on me if I said the word “no”, she stayed bullying me and calling the police on me, she stayed making private calls behind my back, she kept throwing me out the house, and I was just basically her punching bag. She took food from me when she couldn’t get her way over me and kept gaslighting me. strings were pulled for both of my birth parents to put me in jail as they pleased. I was sitting in jail without paperwork or reasoning until years ago.

She was allowed to do whatever she please to me without consequences. Corrupt officers gave her police protection. However, I’m adopted now and I was basically in survival mode in the house. my mom didn’t fight for me or with me. My dad admitted to me that he never wanted me. I haven’t heard from him in quite sometime now. My parents showed me their intentions were not to ever be my parents even though they created me. Their actions showed me to be very unhealthy. If your parents showed they didn’t love you, or even appreciated your existence into the world, does the saying “respect your parents always count”? people turned their heads while I was tremendously being abused. I didn’t disrespect my birth mother because I was only trying to escape her. Everytime I escaped, I’m tracked down and followed by both. My parents weren’t parents at all but only my birth parents. They both lost legal rights over me. So at what point does “you should always respect your parents no matter what” stop?

[Confucious900]

I am sorry for what happened to you and can't imagine what it must have been like. I am glad you ended up being adopted and got out of there. But no that saying doesn't count in this case. I think it applies more to people who if they have parents that provide for them, care for them, feed them, sacrifice for them so they can have a better life and future then yes it applies.

But you can at least be when or if you are a mother, be a loving mom for your kids and be there for them and give them everything you never had. You never asked for what happened to you, and didn't deserve it, but you don't have to be like them. Be better. Be the parent for your kids you never had.

If your adopted parents were the parents you needed and they did everything right, then that saying will apply. They might not be your birth parents but they adopted you and took you in and I am sure they love you. Keep them close and appreciate them everyday.

[strateguy632]

I feel for you.

My parents were nasty people too.

I think honoring parents is in usual families. But if i am wrong interpretation, i still can't honor evil people. I am only human.