I feel that sometimes spanking a kid can work but if your just spanking them and they don't change, they must not really be understanding what they did wrong and that would be a waste of energy for you. i think you should at least try talking to them about it first and settle on other punishments, if all else fails then go ahead but nothing too major. When i have kids i don't really plan to full on spank them. I'll probably give them a few pops on the hand or leg but nothing more than that. i really do feel like sometimes parents take it out of proportion when they spank their kids with belts or other objects because they get so into they don't realize where they're hitting them, and that's how kids end up with bruises scars and welts on their faces, backs, and other places..
I think if you spank your kid, it's a clear sign that you have no control over the child. Good parents have complete control over their children by using their voice alone, and not through shouting. Anyone who's watched those nanny programmes would know what I mean.
You should be able to teach your child through positive and negative reinforcement methods, such as taking away their toys if they're naughty or put them on the naughty step for 10 minutes and don't pay them any attention. Giving them small amounts of money that they can save up when they're good to buy a toy or sweets. That not only makes them want to be good, but teaches them the value of money and to work for money. That's how I would raise my kid up if I had one (which I won't).
NO , NEVER , I dont wanna teach my child descipline through fear. fear is our worst enemy which cause many psychological problems , hope parents understand that. How would you feel If you were spanked at work if you didn't meet your targets , children are as human as us , they cannot reason with you or dont understand the world as much as you do but that doesn't give you the reason to manipulate them with fear. Most children dont listen because YOU have been unsucessful in building that rapport with your child. Why punish the poor kid for your shortcomings. If anyone needs spanking that the Parents who think its their eternal right to make their kids xerox copies of themselves.
I would not I think a lot of people confuse abusing your child with disciplining your child there is a big difference. Abusing would be just verbally and physically assaulting your child for stupid things and just out of pure anger disciplining would be hitting them to teach them morals just enough to teach them boundaries. A light slap on the face to my child if I ever had one or taking away something the love would be enough for me if they were to really cross the red line.
In a conceptual manner, I sure as hell hope that I will not need to resort to it ever. It would be an extremely final resort, more final than the final final. Like, I really don't think it's right, but I don't know if there are cases in which that is the only possible solution.
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You know, now ghat I'm older I see things differently. As a kid I got soaked too and I promised myself I wouldn't do that to my kids. Looking back, I was a fucking asshole as a kid and deserved ever spanking I got. I haven't spanked my kids yet cuz they aren't old enough but I probably will. Sometimes kids can bd real assholes and sometimes you just can't reason with a kid
Spanking? No. That's not even that... violent, imo. I was hit with wooden rods growing up and I hated it but it also taught me discipline. My cousins get beat up a lot but they're still awful. So... it clearly doesn't work for everyone. Personally, I'd like to refrain from hitting kids.
For most kids, an alternative punishment would definitely work out better. Very few kids NEED to be spanked.
I would not, no matter the circumstances, there will be
a better way to teach them their wronging.
While I agree that discipline is something all people need
getting physical is not the answer, especially when it comes to children.
It makes me very uncomfortable to see how many people picked A. No I never plan to. It totally will go against my objective as a parent. I think people are better than hitting their kids. You don't hit a grown person when they're bad. That would be disrespectful. Well I don't plan to disrespect my kids like that
For me, It would depend on how the child is, if the child listens with verbal instructions i will talk it out or tell em no or whatever, but if the child needs to be pulled aside in time out or face to face talking and even a little bit spanking then i will do that. It all depends on how the child sees you in their eyes, if it results to spanking then they don't see you as a person with authority.
I would never spank my kids as a form of discipline. It is never okay to intentionally inflict pain upon someone, especially someone who is defenseless.
Yes.
Beating? No.
Spanking? Yes.
I was spanked as a child. Not often, because I was a pretty good kid, but I was... and I was not traumatized from it, I wasn't "afraid" of my parents and I didn't even think it was overkill.
Spank for everything? Of course not.
Spank for a child not listening to you as they continue to run in the street? Uh, yeah.
I don't know, I'd like to say that I'd never hit my child, but seeing what disrespectful little bastards some kids are, I think it would be needed sometimes. Depends on the child though, Iv'e never been hit, and Im not a little brat, and have never been. Some kids needs it, some kids don't.
I don't care what society says. My house, my rules. And if my kid is going to act out, then he sure as hell is getting a paddling on the butt. And as my mom puts it, "As long as you are my child under my roof, you're never to old to get spanked."
I would never do this! In my eyes its not the right way to teach them discipline or anything else! That way they might think its okay to spank others so i would go all verbal
Yes, as a very last resort. I subscribe to a coach-like philosophy rather than a dictator, though.
I used to be against this until I met 2 bad kids in a row and realized some kids are bad and need spankings with a passion.
Yes I will.
It is an effective means of punishment.
It causes mental problems. That's been proven. You can effectively discipline a child without resorting to physical force.
Heck yeah. Them little bad ass kids, smh. The ones that don't get spanked or the ones that treat their parents bad. Not all tho. Do it when they are young like 3-11. I think by then all you have to do is threaten them & they'll be scared.
I see no problem with it as a final resort, most of the people I know had it as a form of punishment at one tie or another and they all turned out fine.
if they did something that they was not soppose to do and was told a few times over something hell yes the get their ass spanked their ass with my bare hand on their bare asses
Not nor my wife ever hit my son. There are many other ways to educate children.
Beating a child is confessing pedagogic incompetence from the one who does it.
Heck yes I would or I would try to explain them is they don't listen do another form of punishment. If they are in there 18s and up and are out of control I would send. Them to boot camp I don't have kids I'm 22 but that's what I would do.
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