Crushing On a Friend?

[YoungManInfamus2]

Since we started college back in January, me and this girl became friends fast, and I've kind of developed feelings for her. We hang out all the time at school and we've hung out at her place, we just watch netflix nothing romantic or anything but she always mentions dates she goes on and guys she likes and it kinda bothers me because I've never been on a date before and I have a crush on her, so my question is should I cut off all contact abruptly before the friendship gets any further? I've thought about quitting school to fully get away and because of my own anxieties but she always wants me to stay in school when I mention to her that I`m thinking about quitting (she doesn`t know the real reason I want to leave) but I want to cut off all communication quickly (facebook, getting a new phone number etc) to spare the heartache

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I really need more answers please, MHO will be given asap

[Bluemax]

I think you should ask her out on a date. If she says yes, then wonderful! If not, then perhaps it's worth considering downgrading your relationship with her to friendly acquaintance.

Now I know that feelings can come up rather unexpectedly, but if you don't make your feelings known from the start, you risk kind of stringing her along in a friendship. She may be very fond of you as a friend and the more attached she becomes as a friend, the more she might be hurt if and when you must limit your contact with her.

The sooner you ask someone out, the less time and energy you spend on someone who cannot return your feelings. Similarly, the sooner you ask her out, the more time you can spend with someone who loves you if she does return your feelings.

Do NOT quit school over a woman... or ANYONE for that matter.

I feel for you, youngmaninfamous. I know you have anxiety issues and an (unrealistically) low self image. I think until you get those problems addressed, you will find getting into a relationship is going to be a very uphill battle.

[xxxHolicxxx]

Well, you should listen to yourself. If you feel like she doesn't like you then don't be friends with her. It's too painful and messy. But I would be honest and tell her that you like her and that's why you can't be friends anymore. First of all, it's good to be honest and second of all, in case she does like you, she can tell you then. I'm only saying that last one because there are some women who would purposely talk about someone else to judge your reaction. But I don't know for certain what she's like so I might be wrong. Either way, just tell her and move on.

[Silverliningxo]

Obviously she cares about you, if you want more than a friendship tell her , however you can't expect her to feel the same so dont go expecting her to return your feelings. We all get rejected sometimes, but if you feel cutting all ties will benefit you more then do what you gotta do

[Meowsers]

You should ask her out when you know she is single. Definatly dont cut off all contact. She will think she did something wrong. Just wait till u feel a vibe coming from her and then go for it

[Anonymous]

Why not ask her out on a date? She might be mentioning other guys because she doesn't think you're interested in her but if she knew that you were interested she'd give it a try.

[MoshingExec]

Have you ever made a move on her?

[YoungManInfamus2]

nope, but I don`t think she likes me more than a friend

[MoshingExec]

Well why not just ask her? Why cut all contact when you aren't even sure. It would be much easier to ask her how she feels. You may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

People always tend to think about worst case scenario. Be more positive. Tell her that you are developing feelings for her and see what she says. Then move forward from there.

[cl_517]

just tell her how you feel and make your move :)