There's this girl I know of who is/was one of the best friends I've ever had. We've told each other things we haven't told anyone else, and they were deep and revealing. It felt so cathartic knowing that someone genuinely felt for me and connected with me. We were so thankful for everything. I'm dead serious when I say she's the best friend I've ever had, but...
I told her I used to like her a little bit some time ago, and that I could only see her as a friend now, but I did it on the day she was going to tell an old friend she was in love with him. In hindsight it was a stupid decision, but I was drunk from self medicating and in the moment I thought it'd be okay to tell her in hopes of motivating her to tell her friend. It makes no sense now but when you're drunk everything seems okay.
I told her to tell him how she felt and she did. After all this time, he didn't feel the same, and she was incredibly heartbroken and I consoled her. As I sobered up I assumed she would need some time alone because I made things awkward, but I took the fact that she still replied the next day as things being fine, when they still were awkward.
Even though we still talked, helped each other with work, and initiated conversations equally over a month long period, I didn't read the hints that she didn't really want to talk too much until we had a falling out. She straight up told me to give talking to her a rest because I was mainly texting her excessively. I made it seem like I was ignoring the hints when really I was panicking and had no clue what I was saying. I apologized and I offered to make up for it but she just wanted me to stop talking so much. I ended it there.
We haven't talked since January, and we've made new friends and stuff, but I realized that I really miss our friendship. Her birthday's coming up soon, and I want to say HBD to let her know I still care, but if I reach out later and offer to continue being friends, is there any chance of reconciling?
I told her I used to like her a little bit some time ago, and that I could only see her as a friend now, but I did it on the day she was going to tell an old friend she was in love with him. In hindsight it was a stupid decision, but I was drunk from self medicating and in the moment I thought it'd be okay to tell her in hopes of motivating her to tell her friend. It makes no sense now but when you're drunk everything seems okay.
I told her to tell him how she felt and she did. After all this time, he didn't feel the same, and she was incredibly heartbroken and I consoled her. As I sobered up I assumed she would need some time alone because I made things awkward, but I took the fact that she still replied the next day as things being fine, when they still were awkward.
Even though we still talked, helped each other with work, and initiated conversations equally over a month long period, I didn't read the hints that she didn't really want to talk too much until we had a falling out. She straight up told me to give talking to her a rest because I was mainly texting her excessively. I made it seem like I was ignoring the hints when really I was panicking and had no clue what I was saying. I apologized and I offered to make up for it but she just wanted me to stop talking so much. I ended it there.
We haven't talked since January, and we've made new friends and stuff, but I realized that I really miss our friendship. Her birthday's coming up soon, and I want to say HBD to let her know I still care, but if I reach out later and offer to continue being friends, is there any chance of reconciling?
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Question: If she didn't want to talk, why did she keep communicating with me even when I started conversations with her? She could've just not texted or called at all and I would've backed off earlier. Maybe she was trying to be friends as well?
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She's gotten to know this pretty effeminate/gay guy very well though. I don't know if it makes any difference, but what if this guy is now her new best friend and she doesn't need a reason to be friends with me again.
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