Should I tell my gf's parents that I broke up with her because she cheated?

[Anonymous]

I just broke up with her early afternoon because she cheated. The problem is I've always gotten along with her family and parents from day 1. I was closed to those people and they felt like a second family to me. I will miss them all.

I'm usually not into telling others personal stuff but what I'm concerned about is there might be a chance she might lie to make it sound like I dump her suddenly for no reason so they can all think I'm such an inconsiderate jerk that broke her heart when it was the other way around. More than likely as the days passed by all of them are going to start going what happened, why are we distant and why we broke up.

In my position would it be right to be honest and tell them briefly the reason I broke it off? It hurts more because I was so close to thinking of proposing to her towards the ending of this year.

Yes, you should tell them

No, keep it to yourself

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+1 y

I've always been respectful to their daughter by the way and well she hurt me. She slept with not just another guy but two.

[Not-Exactly]

Try to be polite, do not let revenge and hard-feelings get the best of you.
Be polite and do not reveal too much information for you or her (unless she is facing a real problem and want their help). Just say you disagreed in how you both feel or view your relationship or it just didn't work out. HOWEVER DO NOT EVER LIE about it, try to avoid give general ideas but never lie, if they corner you then just tell the truth.

Have you considered helping her to change to be a better person?

[creepycreeper]

Yes, my dad taught me that if a woman does something shitty like that the best thing to do is let your parents, her parents, her siblings, her friends, your friends, and everyone else know about it. For women it is worse than if you actually beat them because they care so much about their reputation. Plus it is best to get your side of the story and the truth out first before she goes to telling people some other version.

[Asker]

I will only tell the parents briefly and leave it at that. Besides, then I only told my trusted best friend and my mother who now hates her.

[Asker]

I'm not really the type to go around telling everyone my problem.

[creepycreeper]

Well the thing is she will go around telling everyone your problem and she'll do it in a way that makes you seem like the bad guy so it is really best to get your side of the story out first. Then she can be the one to look like a liar and not you.

[SunshineAmy]

Tell them why? So the people you will now likely have little contact with will think well of you? At the end of the day, they will always side with her. Its disappointing to think they may think bad of you now, but you're not doing anyone any favors by letting them know. Just walk away quietly. If they ask, sure, but don't go out of your way to tell.

[Queen_naki5]

Look, I know it hurts but even if you tell them, they'll always side with her even if she was in the wrong. I'll say, get her to tell them. Leave her ASAP and then they'll question why you two aren't together. I know that you're close to them and all but some things in life are unavoidable. You need to walk out oft this with your dignity.

[GirlsLie]

I don't think you should tell someones parents any of the relationships business. It just seems like a bitch thing to do, even if she is a loser for cheating, it's still a relationship issue, that should stay in the relationship.

[Marstalk]

^this

[singlebee]

Ya but they should know what a whore there daughter is!! Its payback!

[GirlsLie]

lol "surprise mom and dad, you raised a whore!"

I don't know, it all sounds childish to me, she sounds like a dumb twit who can't keep her legs shut and he sounds like a baby for wanting to tattle.

[Asker]

actually no, that's not how my conversation will be like. Even though she's a shitty whore for a girlfriend, I would be keeping it very briefly. I'm really not the type to tell others my problem unless it's someone I trust and the person indeed did something very wrong to hurt either my relationship or friends.
The only people I have told so far is my best friend and my mother, who now hates her.

[GirlsLie]

I was joking about that part.

But you are telling your problems to others, if you tell her parents lol. Listen I don't really care what you do, if you tell her parents and it embarrasses her to death, then she deserves it for being a cheater in my opinion. But I still think a relationship is between two people, not you, her and her parents and what goes on between those two people should stay between those two people because that's the grown up thing to do, if you want to act like a child then that's your business, I just would never handle my relationship that way,

[Jaz1295]

You should do what feels right to you. I personally feel that you should be civilized about (which I'm sure you would be) because after all they raised her and they'd probably be mortified to know their little girl slept around.

[Asker]

Yes, I will still be civilized and it's going to be briefly. It's sad that I have to go NC with them too after saying my good byes and all because of their worthless cheating daughter with no values.

[Jaz1295]

She's clearly has issues and if they liked you it's gonna suck for her when they know. But clearly she needs some kind of a wake up call

[Sinister]

If you're as close to them as much as you have stated then I see why not.

[Asker]

It's sad I have to say my good byes to them and go NC with them too. They are nice people. It's their daughter that's a worthless cheater. She cheated with 2 guys.

[Sinister]

@Asker - Do it bro! You won't know how you feel about until you've actually done it. Things like this are better once you get it off your chest.

[Anonymous]

If you want to be a petty weak excuse for a man, then yes.
Otherwise move on. No need to go bitching to her parents.
Don't waste any more time or energy on someone who isn't worth it.
It doesn't matter what she says to anyone. She's out of your like and that's a good thing. Don't prolong moving on any longer

[creepycreeper]

How does that make him less of a man for telling someone about how his girlfriend acted like a whore? Sounds like you just want to cover for her bad behavior. Too bad, your sister is getting thrown under the bus and there's nothing you can do about it Anonymous.

[HoodieGuy]

I agree with the leave it alone sentiment but no need for insults. If he were to tell them it wouldn't make him a "petty weak excuse for a man".

[Opinion Owner]

Not telling just anyone... Her parents
Unnecessary and childish
Can't imagine how her parents would react
It's between him and her, no one else

[OlderAndWiser]

@creepycreeper @HoodieGuy They have broken up and probably will never reconcile. He will never spend time with her parents again, regardless of how close they were. What does he accomplish by telling her parents? What happens between her and her parents from this point forward is none of his concern. This is just an excuse to prolong the breakup.

Maybe he wants the parents to go tell her that she has been acting like a little slut and she needs to apologize. So, even if all that happened, then what? Take her back? No, now she's just a little slut who apologized.

It's over. Anything that you do to hang on to the past gets in the way of you moving forward. Walk away from it, learn your lessons but don't look back; that's the best advice for this guy.

[HoodieGuy]

@OlderAndWiser I never said that he should tell them I said that if he were to tell them it wouldn't make him a weak excuse of a man since whoever posted this original comment kinda insulted him. Plus I even agreed to just letting it go.

[gray_sailor]

There is no need to tell them immediately. If they inquire about the reason you broke up you can then answer if you choose to. Don't seek out trouble. Apparently, enough trouble is finding you already.

[Kountry_King]

Yes I believe you should tell them but don't do it just because you are close. That isn't their business but if she does try and make you look like the bad guy. then I believe if and when they call you or see u and question you about why did you do this? That? Then you can

[DodgersGM]

Nah, you want to separate yourself from the situation ASAP.

Whether or not they know is irrelevant anyway, as the truth is on your side.

[EmmaBuot]

Of course you should tell them! They should know that their daughter's a bitch!

[ThatGuy98]

You should absolutely tell them, there is no reason why you should be labeled a jerk because of her doings. Also, hopefully they give her shit for it so that she understand how bad cheating is.

[throwit]

Why talk to them at all?
You broke up, why would you be talki to her parents?

[Asker]

They don't notice now because I just broke it off today afternoon but they are going to ask that's for sure. What I'm I going to say if they ask? And for sure my now ex girlfriend will lie her way through.

[throwit]

Do her parents randomly call you or something?
Just avoid them or just say that you broke up, if they ask why just say personal reasons or to ask their daughter

[Asker]

she still leaves with her parents and I would come visit her many times and vice-versa. Thank you but will briefly tell them by tomorrow. I think I want to get this over with and say my byes to them.

[happygirleveryday]

I think it is a waste of time. Life is short. She couldn't break up with you before she slept around. It is over. No need to care about her anymore. Time to move on.

[meatballs21]

Don't tell them unless they reach out to you and ask. She's out of your life for good and by extension, so are they, so don't lose any sleep worrying about what they might think about you.

[Anonymous]

Yes you should tell her parents and tell them what a whore there daughter is!! Seriously, that is so bad that she slept with two guys behind your back... sorry it happened with you..
Go for it and get a payback!! She deserves it...

[Asker]

Actually I want to keep it short and avoid insulting her (even though she deserves every bit of it) when I talk to her parents. I'll still be civilized when speaking with them. My good bye and going NC with them too is what I'll miss the most.

[Asker]

I know... that bitch but I have to not let this anger get to me when I speak to them. After all she's still their daughter.
As for me, I hope that worthless whore gets to know what's it like to be cheated on when it one day happens to her.

[_Atreides]

personally i wouldn't tell them. why do they need to know. With your update you're almost making it sound like you want to get back at her because she hurt you

[Aristotle]

No, don't tell them. I've been in a very similar situation, your ex will make up her own truth no matter what you tell anyone. Just separate yourself from the situation and move on

[creepycreeper]

That's exactly why you tell EVERYONE ASAP! Then when she goes to telling them something different she will look like the liar and not you...

[Aristotle]

Not really, people on her side will always believe her story, people on yours will always believe your side. Rushing around telling every single person you know how horrible your ex girlfriend was is just pathetic. Some shit you just suck up and keep to yourself

[cinderelli]

yes.. tell them.. eve though you will not b close to them anymore.. but they should know.

[mithramitzmittu]

No, just keep it to yourself. It's her family just leave her the heck alone.

[Marstalk]

There is a mine field up ahead. You might want to go a different direction and forget about that path.

[zombiebabe]

yeah they deserve to know

[Firestone]

You should tell them your reason, so you won't look like the bad person to them. And again you could still send dem cards or hit dem up on special days like deir birthdays

[tetewaki]

Actually... tell the parents only if they ask why they haven't seen you in a long time. If said ex confronts you just be like they asked and I answered truthfully. YOu know something you aren't? THen walk away out of her life forever

[Anonymous]

They need to be aware of what their child is doing. Yes go and tell them