My boyfriend thinks it's not his baby?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. I'm sixteen and 9 months pregnant. The baby should be here any day said the doctor. I'm finally excited for this baby but my boyfriend is not. He's scared of the whole financially situation and he doesn't believe that we will have help. So he works three jobs, doesn't spend time with at all and makes up excuses. I hate it. Our relationship has gone down int he dumps. It used to be so perfect. Well just the other week he had told me he doesn't think the baby is his. After an hour of us both yelling at each other he finally says "well I guess its mine, I believe you" but it still does not feel like he  believe she is his. because of the way he talks. What do I do? How do I get him to believe that she's really his with out taking the stupid paternity test?

Simple-Simonette · Accepted Answer

People do crazy things when cornered. I think the closer your boyfriend get to being a father - the more scared he is. Which is normal - even for married adults. Taking up the parenting mantle is a big job - and I'm sure he doesn't think he could live up to it, or it's something too hard, or whatever it might be to cause him to panic and look for a way out.

Don't be too tough on him. I've know mothers who never wanted children and when they had them they were transformed. Fathers who fell in love at first sight when the abstract becomes a reality. He's scared, he's acting stupid - and at his age I think his reaction is understandable.

It will be easy to hold this against him in the future - but I think you should give him some time to adjust before you take it to heart. He's probably already ashamed and is chaotic inside dealing with everything that is going on now.

Take care of yourself and your baby; don't stress over this until you need to.

Good luck.

lonepoet · Accepted Answer

Why not take the paternity test? What are you afraid of? Hospitals offer them for free now.

Unless you have something to hide, just do the paternity test. He will probably request one anyway.

And if you do have something to hide, then you are being rediculous about this and need to be honest because having a guys baby is not going to make him stick around.

Tthorpe16 · Accepted Answer

You people saying what were you thinking and all that shit doesn't help. People make mistakes, and I can sure as hell say that no baby is a mistake. But you saying that is rude. All I can say is that he is going to think what he wants to think and I wish you both the best of luck.

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

You two are still kids. Assuming he is about the same age, you are still both in school wit a ways to go. You are "kids having kids". Not good. he is seeing the bad position it puts both of you in and the more he thinks about it and tries to figure what to do, the more he realizes that you guys are not ready for this. He is just being a thinking person and realizes he has a lot to be scared of right now.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't think you can get him to believe. He has to grow up before that happens. He tells himself that the baby isn't his, because he really doesn't want a child. Very immature if you ask me. Best of luck to you though.

Anonymous · Answer

You say you're sixteen.. Yet your profile tells us you're 21 .. So, which one is correct?

Anonymous · Answer

dna test should  fix it...maybe he is freaked out being a father...

Anonymous · Answer

Hospitals dont do free dna testing that is false. If u know its his baby i would look into getting a test done just so he doesn't make ur life a living hell for the next 18 years

CeranCherokee · Answer

I'm in a similar situation.  How are things for you now?  Don't know how long ago this was posted.

Anonymous · Answer

You're not old enough, you are just sixteen. Like seriously what were you thinking?

My boyfriend thinks it's not his baby?

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