In a semi-relationship(?) seriously needs help and advice. : /

[Anonymous]

I'm like in a semi relationship with this guy, I'm like in between friend and girlfriend.. our relationship is so complicated > < I mean I'm always thinking am I your girlfriend or am I just a good friend.. when I asked him what I am to him, he answered "you're my angel". of course my heart melted with that, But still! I'm so confused. I don't even know whether this is true love or not, or that I'm in love, I have no experience in love.. this is one of my problems, another one is Whenever we're in school and actually talk, I'm at loss of words. I don't know why.. we usually like to walk together after school. so I'm always so worried that I won't say anything or that I'll say something stupid/random, and if he thinks I'm an idiot.. I don't know why but whenever we talk the smile on my face doesn't leave my face, my heart starts smiling and my brain goes into overdrive.. whenever I think about him, I feel so happy, the way he says hi to me, the he smiles at me, the way he looks even if he's sweaty (: I love him for who he is.. I don't know whether to be in a real relationship with him because I read most people don't end up with their first love.. I know it sounds stupid.. what should I do? I'm such a messed up girl :/

[Anonymous]

honey he's playing you. yall ain't in no damn relationship at all, if you were you'd have a title right now. what you are is glorified friends with benefits. he has you right where he wants you. the benefits of a girlfriend minus all the commitment. how do you know he doesn't have another girl he's in a "semi-relationship" with? you dont, and even if he did you'd have no room to say anything since both of you are basically single. you pretty much put the cart before the horse, you should have been established BEFORE you caught all these feelings and got attached.

but since you're in it now, you need to have a conversation with him and say "look I really like you and love spending time with you, but I want to know what's up with us. am I your girlfriend or are we just friends?" let him know that you are single also and you're not just gonna wait around for him. men are inspired by competition so let him think there is another guy that wants to be with you so you want to know where you stand with him. and STOP giving him benefits of a girlfriend if you're not his girl. hang out with him less and make him less of a priority until you get confirmation either way. take the power back because right now he has all the power and just has you dangling on a string. right now if he told you "no we're just friends I wanna be single" you'd be crushed and hurt because you gave him complete control of the situation. next time don't do that

[Asker]

What if he said he had feelings for me but he only wants to be together when we're older because he wants to focus on his studies? /:

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like he's feeding you lines to me.

if that's how he feels then why are you guys acting so serious? if he doesn't want to be with you now, then you should put him on the backburner and make him less of a priority because you could really get hurt in this

[Asker]

So I should firget about him? : /

[Asker]

*forget

[Opinion Owner]

Yeahi can only see you getting hurt from this. since your single, see other people. Don't hang out with him so much and make him much of a priority. If you wanna hang with him once a week that's cool, but if you can't do that w/o remaining so attached then yeah I'd forget him if he doesn't want to step up and make a commitment. It makes no sense if he only wanted to focus on his studies why is he spending so much time with you. If he wanted to focus on his studies he wouldn't be doing all this

[Foxxybrown36]

So i just asked my guy the same thing like so i said what are we friends or relationship or relationship friends or what he said everytime i say we friends and we have sex you start acting like we in a relationship so i guess we are in a semi relationship since you want take friends as. a Option but i dont pay my friends bills by the way and recently i told him i met someone cause i thought we were just friends and he was helping with my bills and stuff but he was highly upset bout that... so how do i look at my situation please help

[donthate25]

the best thing to do is say what you need to say:) by the way the people you read from don't treat their relationships seriously :p AND if he really likes you he would understand why your acting a little weird...

fact: when dudes are in love all we think about is the things we could be doing with the girl we are in love with..

[Trihill]

if you're sitting on the fence, then you need to choose on which field you want to be on...friendship...or more...the only way you can get there, is direct conversation and just say what you need to say to get a better understanding of where your situation is

[Asker]

Thanks (: I should do this irl right?