Is it weird to hang out with a guy friend alone?

[sunshine97_]

We've got no mutual friends. I see him as a close friend and nothing more.

We did have lunch, dinner and coffee alone several times before.

Most of my friends find it weird, apart from few.

[InfoBot]

It's not weird, no, there is no reason why a guy and a girl can't hang out. I would suggest that there is a decent probability of feelings on one side or another though and I would say on the guy's side most likely. I am a little cynical about male/female friendships without attraction happening on one side or the other. The exceptions tend to be when that attraction has been explored in the past and laid to rest. Guys tend to be drawn to girls that they are attracted to for the most part.

[sunshine97_]

We almost dated 2 years ago, we made it clear that we'll just remain friends. We still went to restaurants/get coffee, I didn't think it was weird despite most people I know telling me it is.

I've only started questioning it as he started bad mouthing my current boyfriend (been single for 2 years since we agreed to stay friends).

[SEntertainment]

I have had girl friends I felt that way about. Still do I just can't hang out with them anymore because my wife freaks out about it. They're just good people who I have a lot of respect for and benefit in who I am and the kind of person I am from being around. And I hope I grant them that same sort of mutual benefit from our friendship. So this doesn't seem weird to me.

[Alice2398]

No not at all I love hanging out with my guy friends, there so fun and we have such a laugh together, will go get pizza or go pub after work and it's not awkward at all.

[linds34]

No, those are normal things to do with a friend. It is not like you have to hook up with someone because you had coffee with them!

[lostgirl_searching]

I do it all the time so to me I don't think it's weird. I don't really see why it would be weird.

[Leafpool2]

Nah it's not weird you're close friends like you said. Sometimes ya spend a whole day together.

[Joelski440]

it's not weird as long as he is fully aware that you are just friends. if he's look & hoping for more it would be better resolved sooner rather than later.

[chriss]

People in business do it all the time to discuss about business

[PoliceLivesMatter]

As long as both of you know you’re just friends, it should be okay.

[matchrestore]

I don't think that's weird. I hang out with a few of my female friends alone as well

[rachelle146]

It wouldn't be weird at all , I hang with male friends all the time and my husband is okay with it since my husband is friend's with them as well

[Ephemera1]

Yeah pretty much. He's probably got the feels for you. At most coffee with a friend but lunch and dinner? Yeah "friends" for sure.

[sunshine97_]

What's the difference between just meeting up for coffee & meeting up for lunch/dinner? It's just food XD

[Ephemera1]

The time spent. Dinner runs much longer than coffee. Plus coffee is always casual, on the other hand dinner isn't.

[dumayne99]

It's your choice at the end of the day, whatever makes you happy.

[Mediterranean35]

It is but I wouldn't allow my girlfriend to hang out that much head to head with a guy. I mean Aight she can have few friends like that but nothing more, my girl can't hang out with whoever she wants everytime.

[sunshine97_]

What if your girlfriend and her guy friend almost dated 2 years ago, but agreed to stay friends instead?

[Mediterranean35]

Haha even worse, there will be big problems. I wouldn't want her to hang out that much with her old boyfriend.. That's not because she may feel something to him, no. That's because she's my girl and not his anymore.. I'd be mad whenever I see that guy and I know he also would be mad whenever he sees me since I got his ex-gf. There would be annoying moments, and hard to accept that ur girl can hang out with her ex-bf.

[sunshine97_]

I get what you mean. But I meant would it make a difference if she's hanging out with a guy she had feelings for before (both had feelings for eachother), but not anymore?

[Mediterranean35]

@sunshine97_ hah yeah well believe me it would make more diffrence since she will be hanging with the guy she had feelings for before :D It doesn't matter if she hasn't got feelings not anymore, the thing which annoys me is.. before they were a couple, they developed feelings for eachother and they hanged out like this before. That is the thing annoys me actually but most thing which annoys me is, I am against the idea which is ''hanging around with another male friend head to head, while u have bf'' thats not cool if u ask me, it would make me jealous cause I Wouldn't want my woman to hang around like this with her male friend.

[winterfox10]

That's not weird at all, that's called having a friend.

[OpenWine]

just tell him what your intentions are. make it clear and it won't be an issue

[1nittol3arn]

I'm going to have to agree with infobot on this one. So I'm not going to repeat the same thing.

[monkeynutts]

If you enjoy each other's company that's all that matters, if you have more in the relationship like romance then good. People who date and spend time together are going to get together.

[Portissac]

Not weird if his actions indicate he's only wanting to be a friend too

[ChristianThermals]

Um no unless like he makes you uncomfortable in some way.

[JackofSpades]

Only if you make it weird.

[olderbudweiser]

Weird? Ffs grow up

[sunshine97_]

We almost dated 2 years ago, we made it clear that we'll just remain friends. We still went to restaurants/get coffee, I didn't think it was weird despite most people I know telling me it is.

I've only started questioning it as he started bad mouthing my current boyfriend (been single for 2 years since we agreed to stay friends).

[outside_Toronto]

I suspect he feels differently than you do

[sunshine97_]

Nah. We almost dated two years ago, we're way past that now.

[outside_Toronto]

Again, I'm not so sure he would feel the same

[Kaneki05]

Nah it's not weird

[Sienna-Rose]

Not weird at all

[weaverman]

Its not weird just other people, s take on it

[Nomyyy]

Why would it be?

[Ehdayb]

Not weird unless you got a boyfriend or he is gay

[mhmdjoudi]

In my culture it can never my accepted

[omgjassy]

Not weird

[gioxs]

He will always see you as his friend. No man ever

[HornyHornyButtButt]

Yes I think they’re gonna eat you

[oldoldold]

He wants to fuck you

[sunshine97_]

Ewww no. 😷

[oldoldold]

Seriously... maybe he wants to marry you too. But sex is in the mix

[sunshine97_]

Loooool 😂😂😂 that's so ridiculous

[oldoldold]

Why do you think he is gay?

[sunshine97_]

We almost dated 2 years ago. Since then we agreed to remain friends. 😂

[oldoldold]

You did. He's still there hoping you'll tell him the secret

[sunshine97_]

What secret? 😂

[oldoldold]

How to make you love him. Don't you get it for him your the girl who got away. But he's still chasing. Quietly.

[oldoldold]

That's why he has not got a girlfriend

[sunshine97_]

Loool so dramatic XD he's the one who rejected me first and went on to see other girls since then.

I was the one who stayed single for 2 years. But recently been dating someone else.

[oldoldold]

Silly him for turning you down

[sunshine97_]

Most people around me have been saying he's trying to string me on as his last option, a clue they tend to mention is his requests to hang out in restaurants.

I've never looked too into it, till he started bad mouthing my boyfriend. I've stuck to the agreement and got over him, dunno if he did.

[mattai787]

Honestly not to sound rude, if you would immerse yourself in work and be busy in achieving goals that you set for yourself.. You’d feel such things are time pass.. Such a waste of time..

[RichardBandit]

Give him hand job

[sunshine97_]

Erm no thanks 😷

[danh57]

Ya why not