Is it inappropriate for my older brother to slap my butt?

[Anonymous]

Im 17 my brother is 22. He sometimes slaps my butt as a joke and I find it highly uncomfortable. I've yelled at him to stop but he just laughs it off and does it again. he's that kinda person, always joking and annoying everyone. Am I overreacting and is it just how friends slap each others butts or is it inappropriate?

its fine

not fine

[laurieluvsit]

Sounds like a normal thing an older brother would do. It's sad that the whole world is getting caught up in political correctness now, so sad, no one is allowed to just have fun. A boy should be allowed to be a boy, that's all and a girl, a girl. It's like we are all suppose to switch roles. Sorry, I'm not buying.

[Asker]

its not about political correctness. i dont feel comfortable, and im just wondering whether im over reacting or not

[laurieluvsit]

I think if I say any more I would appear rude Ms A so I will not. I think if you re-read just the first sentence of my original post you will find your answer :)

[Asker]

ok, so over reaction. thank you for your input :)

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome Ms A, and thank you for your kind and understanding closing remarks :)

[Asker]

np!! have a good day!

[Mikey_Ramone]

Family members as long as they're friendly and close to each other's that's normal. I'm fine with my sister or my niece joking on me.

[Dokidoki-buns]

Uh no, “sounds like a normal thing an older brother would do”. I strongly disagree with that first sentence of yours. No man ESPECIALLY your older brother should do that. PERIOD. Even if it’s teasing that is wrong. The few times you (her brother or any brothers AT ALL) do it and YOUR little sister (to whom your supposed to be there for and to SET AN EXAMPLE FOR) tells you to stop and gets upset about it. You STOP. It doesn’t matter if he’s your older brother and that it should be alright or okay because it’s a “normal thing an older brother would do”. HELL NO. That’s the FIRST step how women get abused in the big world. When you tell him to stop and he doesn’t that’s when you do something about it. Either tell him to stop or your gonna start calling him names he wouldn’t like. For example, ‘pedophile’, ‘sexual harassment’, ‘a SAD-OF-AN-EXCUSE-OF-AN-OLDER-BROTHER’, etc. Say them in front of your family members and when they ask you why your calling your brother these ’terrible’ names just tell them “because he keeps touching me in a way I tell him to stop and he doesn’t stop.. such as SLAPPING MY ASS”. I know it’s hard to voice out but you have to.
(And to the MAJORITY OF THE GUYS agreeing to this funny ‘joke’ they implement onto their OWN SISTER just goes to prove the actions of negligence and verbal—possibly physically abuse by their parents or people around them. And if it’s none of that then your a natural born pervert. This isn’t about me, this is about all the men who call themselves “BROTHERS” and still slap their LITTLE SISTERS ASS even after knowing your sister fucking hates it. It’s called CONSENT. RECOGNIZE.

[Sunny_Boy]

I agree with the asker, it is not about political correctness. If he just slaps your butt once in a while it is okay. She would be uncomfortable if she is not fine with it. I guess, on her part she doesn't like him knowing how her butt structure and skin feels while grabbing. Am I right?

[DDKisaguy]

Please understand that you setting boundaries according to what you're comfortable with, is not over reacting. If he does it after you asked him not to do, it's not casual fun, but harassment.

[MlleCake]

It's your body, you're the boss.

[TripleAce]

It is... but its siblings so he's just being a dick lol... in a brotherly way. Cause it probably annoys you so its fun. unless you're step sisters and brothers lol... then its a different story hahah

But just pee on his toothbrush...

[winterfox10]

I hate crap like that. Like "leave me alone asshole, is personal space so much to ask?"

[Asker]

ikr :/

[Lynxvenuswater]

It's not fine and this is why... you told him to stop, it makes you uncomfortable. Joking or not it is not OK. My mother's family does this, it made me so uncomfortable as a child. It didn't stop there... I was completely felt up by my cousin... later as an adult, his dad (my uncle) tried to force me to kiss him on the mouth, my husband had to step in so I could get away. On my wedding day he harassed me to get some pictures of me in my underwear... my mom encouraged it. My older sister would slap my butt, which i was ok with, but not too long ago she slapped my husbands butt which made both me and him uncomfortable. My family would tell me I'm blowing things up, and I know other people think we are being too sensitive. But in reality we have been given more rights to our bodies and a voice for something that makes us feel uncomfortable. If he's not respecting your right to your body now, where does it stop? If you look up sexual abuse, unwanted butt touching falls under that category.

[TobyWinters]

It'd be fine and playful if you were only exasperated (and you had a relationship that facilitated playful, no-meaning tease-type butt slaps.) However, if you responded in a serious manner, which it seems that you did, it is absolutely not okay for him to do it again. Tell him in a serious context at a time before he slaps your butt, i. e. some random-ass time (i'm punny), that it is not okay and he can't do it again.

[Asker]

haa nice pun. i stop him dead serious but he does it regardless and just laugh

[TobyWinters]

Not a good sign. Talk to him in a situation where he hasn't slapped your ass and tell him then that it is not okay. If he continues, shoot him, steal his, girl, and run away to Switzerland ;)

[Asker]

switzerland sounds good ha

[He-Loves-Me-Not]

My sisters and I playfully slap my brothers butt. My sister cat-calls him, too, just to annoy him. 😂

[Enquirer668]

He is younger or older than you and your sisters? Does he ever try to slap your or your sisters' butts?

[JayLiche]

The women in my family do the same thing to me
My mom, my sister, my aunt, and even my god mother
So as long as it’s just an ass slap I don’t think it’s that serious

My sister slaps mine and runs
My mom grabs mine and says
“That’s my booty”
It’s just family playing around

[SirRexington]

I think it's wrong because your have expressed your adverse reaction to it and he continues to do it.

Also, you don't slap your sisters ass. That's just creepy.

[Pamina]

If you're not okay with it, it's inappropriate even disregarding that he's your brother. You're not overreacting. Tell your parents.

[Oasha]

It's a bit weird for sure. Ask your parents to tell him to stop?

[Enquirer668]

You might want to post this question on the Virtual Teen Forums website. It's a site for teens run by teens. You can ask other teenagers this question under the Puberty For All or Puberty for Girls sections.

[Arctic_Fox]

He’s your brother, I highly doubt it’s sexual. It sounds like he does it because you react, if you stop reacting he’ll get bored of it.

[chara6414]

It’s probably just his way of saying he’s proud to have a sister with a sexy butt. If it’s not inappropriate for girls who are friends to do it. Why would it be inappropriate for family Who is just joking around

[notcoolyo]

Uuummm so I’ll be your only real voice of reason. Your brother is obviously attracted to you sexually. Slapping your sisters ass (all the time) is not normal let alone doing it at all. You need to talk to him one last time about it and then proceed to cut him off from your life if he does it again. But he is your brother so maybe he really is just playing around. Maybe.

[WeirdoWerdo]

Feck! I voted Its fine jut ITS NOT!!! Damn fecke! I voted to fast!

[WeirdoWerdo]

but*

[Deukalion]

it's kinda weird really you are both growth enough, maybe telling it to your parents will give you a solution.

[BlackSunAeon8]

As long as he doesn’t have feelings for you it’s just a joke.

[tcbluejay89]

It's his sister... Feelings or not, there is no joke in the action. Touch another butt that isn't blood related, man.
And sister or not, when anyone says "stop", whatever joke was thought to exist ends.

[BlackSunAeon8]

Dude my bro used to do that when my sisters were kids it’s not sexual just joking around.

[BlackSunAeon8]

A slap on the butt is not a grab

[Anonymous]

I dont think that it has smth to do with sexual harassment. He is annoying. Like every brother. Its normal relationship between siblings.

[Anonymous]

No, but it is inappropriate to put this question in the Sexual Behavior category. What are you trying to say?

[Asker]

where else would i put it? im saying i find it uncomfortable cos i view the act as highly sexual. but im asking whether it doesn't have to be

[Opinion Owner]

Thinking that siblings doing that is sexual says that you are perverting it. If it's just one "slap"/swat on a clothed butt, it's just playful.

[Asker]

Its not once. he's done this more times than i can count

[Opinion Owner]

I meant not more than one at a time. Even if it is more than one at a time, it doesn't mean it sexual. But if you've told him you don't like it, he should stop.

[Lynxvenuswater]

Incest does exist. It happens more than you think.

[Red_Arrow]

If you don’t like it, then it is inappropriate.

[sakalator]

He should stop if it's making you uncomfortable 😊

[Anonymous]

It's weird ask him not to do next time or else give a complain to your parents

[Logorithim]

No, and definitely not repeatedly.

[serious]

Even if it's for joke, it is highly inappropriate.

[CuChullan]

It sounds like e's been looking at tumblr to much!

[That2kKid21]

It's fine. not like he raped you.

[Anonymous]

That's not a big deal

[madgoat]

Your reaction is the pay off.

[Salmon4056]

No unneceptable

[DeVille_]

It's definitely not normal

[handyman129]

Very inappropriate

[HarveyWallbanger]

Kick him in the nuts and tell him to stop that.

[handyman129]

Yeah

[VIVANT]

Oui !!!

[Senacık]

its fine