I am going to be 100% honest here, and please don't take offense to any of this. I am really trying to help. But a guy with a girlfriend NEVERRR ends well. I know this from not only my personal experience, but from the experiences of friends of mine. I have also been on both sides of this situation, and really at the end of the day, it only ends in pain.
i fell in love with my best friend (who was a guy with a girlfriend.) things were getting shaky between them, and he began to have feelings for me. she ended up dumping him, and he said he would have picked me anyway. but after everything, he ended up cheating on me with her, and left me for her. another time, a guy I was with left me for a girl he barely knew but "texted a lot." I am also guilty of doing this to a guy, and I felt completely horrible.
do not ever get involved with a guy who has a girlfriend. he should like YOU and ONLY you. another girl in the pictures makes everything complicated and ultimately leads to heartbreak. keep being nice, but start drawing the line. don't text until all hours of the night, and the second anyone gets flirty, end the conversation. you need to respect his girlfriend as well, because if you were her, you would be pissed.
bottom line, there is someone out there for everyone. you shouldn't have to start off knowing that they wanted someone else to begin with. even if you and him get together, you can never trust that he won't meet another girl and do it all over again, but leave YOU in the dust.
it's just bad news. you will find someone else who won't even consider being with another girl, and that's what you deserve! until then, remain only friends with this guy.
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Wow, quite the story. I would say to just talk to him normally when he talks to you, but nothing more than that. If he started to talk dirty, then he may want to do other things as well and then he'd be in big trouble. It's a bummer that you like him and that he has feelings for you, but I think that it would maybe not be the best idea to continue studying with him unless he is single. And for the awkward factor, just play it cool like as if nothing had happened at all so as to not get more people talking about you guys, ya know?
Please don't ever go for a guy with a girlfriend. I have been a girlfriend in this position before but my boyfriend decided to hook up with that other girl and they kept doing it until recently when I found out by her. I was so hurt and wanted to die. now there are bad stories going on about my boyfriend and that girl. Slut/home wrecker/ whore are all names you do not want to be said about you. please girl don't do anything. for everyones sake
I realize that you and this guy have a thing going and the girlfriend is holding you up but I want you to stop and think for a second. If he is going behind his girlfriends back to flirt with you, what would stop him from doing it again if you were his girlfriend? I feel that this guy has no clue what he wants and wants to have his cake and eat it too. Find a man who will commit to you 100% you will be so glad you did.
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