17 going on 18 and still haven't had a girlfriend... :(

[Jake_Is_Here]

So I'm roughly 17 and 9 months old and I haven't been able to find a girl yet...? I don't think I'm that bad looking although I do have a small amount of acne around my chin and bottom lip. I never really made a connection to any girls throughout high school except for this 1 girl who I went to my formal with but I consider her a sister nearly. I always try to look my best and dress to impress when ever I can when I go out, I just haven't met anyone yet that I really like with the exception of this 1 girl who I really really liked, I did eventually tell her I liked her but she said she only wanted to be friends which really broke my heart.

Its been getting me down lately because all of my other mates weather they be girls or guys all have girlfriends and boyfriends and I can't figure out why its so difficult for me?

Any help would be much appreciated. Thanks.

[sally01]

i think in this situation, youve done the right thing of standing back from the situation and taking a look at yourself. but as far as I know, there's nothing wrong with you and you are doing everything you should be. maybe you haven't been in the right situation to meet this girl, so perhaps going out a bit more, going to new places and talkig to new people would definatley increase your chances - it is important to make that effort and search if you unfortunatley haven't found a proper conection with anyone around you who feels the same. I'm sorry to hear about the situation witht hat girl, but don't let it get you down or damage your confidence. just remember, unfortunatley she wasn't the one for you, but there are plenty more people out there. aslong as you stay true to yourself, keep your head up high and not let the fact your mates might have girlfriends or whatever get you down, she will most definatley come along and you will have an amazing relationship! I think its hard, particularly at our age to maintain a relationship, so maybe the ones your mates have won't still be there in a few months or years. I wouldn't worry, youve got a big world anf life ahead of you!

[xiaoyu]

well,i think you are a good person^^everyone will be confused if he faces the same situation as you,and, trust me,that's not a shame if have not a girlfriend.

as for me,i won't go out with these guys follow,i hope this will be helpful to you:

1.his appearance is ugly and my friends think the same as me;fat;not tall(for I m tall)

2.when I think about him,there is always not few characteristicis come to my mind. 3.saying"love you" just because he want to find a girlfriend (I know many men have this kind of instinct,but just don't show that out,it makes that guy seem so unskilled and naive.)

4.dull boy.often lost his words when talking to me.

5.spend too much time inside and be addicted to computer games

6.don't know how to protect his girl or creat happiness and convenience for her

7.treat his female mates in a single way,i mean kind of,don't show preference to me.

8.have a narrow circle of friends.

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you can have your real friends introduce one for you^^

[LiliLippps]

I know how you feel because I was in this position too. But don't rush it and don't worry about how attractive you are. All you need to do is get out there & mix and mingle, have confidence in yourself and most of all have fun with the girls around you! If a girl can't accept you for who you are, then don't waste your time on her bud :) I'm sure you're a really nice guy with a big heart, what girl wouldn't want that?! There's someone out there for you you just have to let God send her because if you be patient, in the end you'll be happy you waited! PEACE N LOVE:))

[Rizzle]

I'm 18 going on 19 and haven't had a girlfriend... unless elementary school relationships count haha(no, they don't). I wouldn't be too worried... it's not a bad thing. Lots of early relationships that start at younger ages don't last very long anyways, and ones that do last quite a while end very badly. Sure, you probably think "well I'd rather have had a year long relationship that went sour than no relationship at all".. yep I think that too haha. If you haven't had a girlfriend yet it's because you haven't found a girl that you connect with well enough yet. Just be patient, be as social as possible, and don't push it... more than likely you'll find a girl(or a girl will find you) unexpectedly rather than expectedly. Oh and be confident(not cocky).. that'll help a lot.. along with smiling a lot :)

[Kevin21]

It sucks when you like some1, and they just wana be friends. You've just gota move on quick and try some1 else. If your just looking for some fun, go to a club and ask every girl you like the look of, and eventually you'll get a yes (guys have to learn to deal with rejection, because most girls won't make the first move), but if you're looking for some1 special they will eventually come along, and should be worth waiting for. Then again, you're only 17, just wait til you get to university, or "college" as the americans call it. Oppurtunities galore!

P.S.Apparently the uni/college relationships are the ones that last (i.e. til marriage) so perhaps your first girlfriend will be your last and you won't have to experience heart break again!

[LilLana]

Maybe you just need to meet more people, get out more, go to more parties, talk to more girls. You might meet girls in the most unlikely circumstances... ie: sitting next to you on the bus. Don't let it get you down - girls like guys with confidence. There are plenty of girls out there for you to choose from :)

[Misssixty83]

I found my first boyfriend when I was about 18, near 19. I'm nearly 28 now, dated quite a few men since, but finding someone who is right is really difficult. Don't beat yourself up about it though, your still really young and you WILL meet someone. Good luck ~X~X~X~

[Hartmut]

Ahahaha. Going on 22, here, and guess who hasn't had a girlfriend, either? And you can be damn sure that there are guys a lot older than you and me in the same position.

It's sh*t, but, hey, we can't have it all good.

[brightwing]

dont worry your pretty much a kid. get to college there will be enough girls begging for easy sex. and if your lucky ull find a girl whose more than just sex.

[Phoma21]

well you;ll find a girl. there are girls in the same situation as you almost 18 and never been in a relationship. I'm 16 and in that boat.

[peacenic]

greetings little brother of humanity, focus on Your studies,career, when You are about 30 You will

have Your pick of the cream of the crop :D

[Anonymous]

I am a 19 years old "single for life" girl... I actually got used to it and don't think about that much!

[hannah77ae]

she's out there, just don't give up :)