Why is it considered rude when you don't wish someone on their birthday?

[nodnol32]

If its someone close, why should that forgotten bday wish matter over all the times I was there for them and the fact that how much I value them in my life?

[jcnum10]

Cuz itz 1 day a year to celebrate them being born.

Ya know the day they officially became an independent individual not living inside someone else.

Itz an important anniversary.

I get it people forget things but 2 sum people it feels lk ya don't value their existence if itz not important enough for u 2 remember 🤷🏽‍♀️

[nodnol32]

The older I've got, to me its just another day tbh. The ones dear to me, i know who they are and I cherish that. I'm human, normally im good at remembering but one does forget sometimes, it just shouldn't be looked at and treated like a criminal offence, thats all.

[jcnum10]

Not sayin it is but there people out there who see it dat way.
I do feel itz important to make people feel extra special on their bday because it is special.
I mean what day could be important of an anniversary than the day they came into this world.
Without this day no other day would be possible.

[jcnum10]

Also no1 should be obligated to do anything ir made to feel dat way

[nodnol32]

You make a very valid point. Luckily, i didn't forget anyone's bday. This thought came to mind when my mate forgot his sister's bday so i was like might as well post this question. Thanks for your enlightening input. Much appreciated.

[jcnum10]

Np. Just how i feel bout it.

[nodnol32]

Your feelings are valid and make complete sense. The way you described it, kind of makes me glad I went the extra mile for my girlfriend's bday back in July 😂

[bigmisssunshine]

In my opinion it’s not rude, but hurtful if someone close to you forgets your birthday, as birthdays are supposed to be special.

[nodnol32]

It really is just another day and kind of loses value as you get older, or for me at least. On my bday i don't really even keep track of who wished me or not. I know the people close to me will be there for me and there's more to life than remembering bdays.

[bigmisssunshine]

Just because you don’t find it that important doesn’t mean other people think the same way.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's considered rude, people just get disappointed bc it's simple it's not like earlier like you have a gang of friends or you are surrounded by love now you have fake friends on social media or people just do it for just as they saw your bday message popup on there notification no that doesn't feel real, and the friends are becoming much less in count whom you can connect with, there is a Certain expectation that they would remember a day dedicated to them for example I don't care much about people wishing me I had my bday recently like two week back none of my friends wished me lol and I was sitting with all of them but they celebrated everybody else's bday they forgot mine although a week back b4 my bday they had remembered now don't need gifts or cake just say the word happy bday lol and I even shamelessly remembered a person of my bday bc I like them for them to wish me like a from a week they remembered the date but still didn't wish me untill I told them to 🤣🤷‍♂️ it's just my fate that I am forgotten bc I don't talk too much the silent kind but also a bit straight forward silver tongue 😝 so maybe that's why I guess but I just went against my will and asked the person to wish lol shameless me

[VIVANT]

in my opinion the issue is it makes them feel. As if it is something they care about- not everyone cares. I don’t. I haven’t celebrated my b day since I was 6. If they are a friend and they care and you don’t care, it’s bad. Like any other thing they care about that you dismiss as a friend. if you forget, it’s forgivable , as long as you make it up then ~ unless you have known them for years.. that’s bad.

[VIVANT]

Makes them Feel bad.

Not

Makes feel. As if...

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Known them for years, do you really have to know them for years to just wish them happy bday lol🤷‍♂️🎃

[VIVANT]

@Aakash_Hangargi

I said it’s #FORGIVABLE - not OK lol - if you forget, as long as you make it up to them when you remember.. Unless you’ve known them for years... hard to accept.😌

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol that's what I am saying still the point remains same why would it be forgivable if the other is hard to accept lol 😆

[VIVANT]

@Aakash_Hangargi

Bc it hasn’t been ingrained yet. If it’s Jew it’s not an automatic memory.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It doesn't take years to remember someone's bday if yoh wanted to lol, there are technologies available now that do it for you if you really want to 🤷‍♂️, it's fine anyways people can still forget it has nothing to do with years is just what I am saying.. And both are equal new or old and that's just unacceptable to say I wished one person bc I know him from long you come next year I will wish you too😆🎃😅

[VIVANT]

@Aakash_Hangargi

I think after years people will get more offended is all I meant 😊

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Actually by years they will just stop caring 😝 bc they stop expecting from you 🤔

[nolabels]

I had a birthday go unacknowledged by my family a few years ago.
I was mildly hurt, but understand that things like that can happen.
No huge deal.

I forgot our wedding anniversary a few years ago, our 24th, I think. My wife understood.

[nodnol32]

Not a huge deal but people just make a huge deal out of it. We're human, we can forget things.

[nolabels]

Some people make a huge deal out of things like that, but not all, as evidenced by my wife and myself.
We are human and can forget things.
Whoever it is, they'll get over it, sooner or later.

[HayleyMarie]

I think for someone who knows you so well, and perhaps someone that has spent past birthdays celebrating with you, forgetting that day would be hurtful. An acquaintance wouldn’t matter as much because chances are they don’t know when your birthday is anyway.
So it’s not as much rude as it is disappointing.

[Rozaybonet69]

If someones forgets your bday is totally ok that won't take away the love that person have for you i dont think we should get mad we all go through stress and with ma shit on the shoulder sometimes we forget the dates

[nodnol32]

Exactly! Wish everyone understood.

[Hazelstar99]

It's because on the same exact day they were born and if you like this person. Then you should be thankful they were born or else they could have died. People are born and die everyday but this person has impacted you in some way in life. If you want to stay in good books of this person. Wish that person on their special day. It feels good that someone like that person enough to remember their birthday.

[1Sophisticatedme]

Its considered respect, and a good gesture in general. Thats my own opinion.

[nodnol32]

If i remember i wish them. A human can forget sometimes. I just feel one can understand rather than make a big deal out of it if they forget.

[1Sophisticatedme]

yes yiu are right. My parents never remember my birthday, bc they forget, and it doesn't help when its just the next day to Christmas day... Christmas eve its my birthday.

[ex-gager]

I've faced that issue a lot, like i had my bday a day before yesterday and i didn't even care a shit out who wished and who didn't, who tf counts bday wishes, just celebrate ur bday and be happy...

[nodnol32]

Well said mate.

[DizzyDesii]

I guess because if you truly care about them, you’d remember the day God allowed them to be placed on this earth. But i admit, i dont remember bdays either. I usually set a calendar alarm

[MAYEDA]

it's normal that he/she will feel like you don't care about them if you don't wish someone on birthday. he/she will think those people who wishes them on birthday loves him/her more than you. come on girl, it's just 2 words. It won't take too long to wish him/her.

[worldscolide]

i have no idea, after i turned 25 it just became another day lol

[nodnol32]

Im not 25 yet but i agree with you. It really is just another day. Its not like just because its your bday, nothing will go wrong that day.

[worldscolide]

right!

[hotfirework]

I'd say it's rude and somewhat offensive if the person is very close to you but not if they're a casual friend or less.

[leahzrc]

Well its onky rude if you know that it is their birthday

[nodnol32]

True but even if you genuinely forgot its still considered somewhat rude and thats kind of beyond my understanding

[leahzrc]

nah i dont think its rude if a person genuinly forgets

[askuser]

It's all about what that person values.

[nodnol32]

Very true. One has to understand that even the dearest people can forget and they don't have any bad intentions.

[Anonymous]

It’s just common decency to wish someone you care about happy birthday

[nodnol32]

It is. If i remember, I'll just wish them but there are only so many bdays I can remember. I'm human, i can forget.

[cjgsu]

Depends how important it is 2 that person ig

[EllieEmma99]

If someone is upset about it, it matters to them