Where do you draw the line between venting and complaining/whining?

[JackieJaii]

Personally, I believe venting is therapeutic and sometimes helpful when your in a tough spot and need to talk about it out loud in order to solve a problem or heal from something. Complaining is just constantly nagging about a problem. I believe if you can fix it, the. Stop whining and do it. But if you can't fix it 🤷shut up about it.

[MCheetah]

Venting is complaining about people who annoy you or piss you off.
Nagging is complaining about what other people are doing wrong, especially if it's hypocritical to yourself or has nothing to do with you.
Whining is complaining about problems you could easily fix, but choose not to, or non-problems that don't affect your life in any way.

You'd vent about your girlfriend being a bitch to you for no reason.
The girlfriend would be nagging to you about doing things the second you got home from work that she could've done herself or with no sympathy to your work day or how exhausted you're feeling after it.
You'd whine about Ellen Page becoming trans, even though no one should rightfully care or the fact it's not even newsworthy.

[mecookiemonster62]

Interesting question. The night before the covid quarantine occurred last March, I literally showed up at a Stater Bros. two full hours before it opened. After they open store they only let a handful of people end of the time to control the number of people throughout the store at any one given time. When we were finally allowed to go in, we discovered that not only was all the toilet paper gone, but so was all the fucking chicken! Needless to say I was asked to leave. Very simply it's always okay to vent. when it interferes with other people's lives then it must be stopped.

[Screenwriter]

One is blowing off steam temporarily. The other is moaning and groaning eternally. If you keep hearing the same complaint, it's whining. Whiners want sympathy and not solutions. Venters want a neutral ear and to get it off their chest. They're about to solve their problem on their own. Whiners never do anything about their problems.

[Hangry22]

In my experience whenever my friends starts to complain, it automatically turns into a venting session and ends up with what i think can be done about that situation. Only my friends vent to me and i only hear them out. So i don't care if they're whining, i will listen to them because we're friends and they would do the smae for me

[Hangry22]

*same

[jshm2]

You're wrong, of course. The meanings of words are an important thing to learn for you:

"Venting" is something negative and usually to the detriment of the other.

ie. That bitch is always venting, she's an emotional vampire for me."

Also, "complaining" and "whining" are not the same thing either. You can complain once or multiple times. But "whining" is a description of the voice and tone used and doesn't necessarily need to be complaining about anything.

As for your belief: that sort of shit gets likes on Facebook and tumbler, here we just laugh at naïve kids like you.

[JackieJaii]

Are you to provide an opinion or just be a dick? If it's the latter fuck off🤷

[Blueeyes81]

Venting is on occasions were frustration has set in. It's a release. Complaining is pretty constant and about everything under the sun. Its a fine line. I work with a woman in her late 50's and she is easily annoyed. I mean easily annoyed. She constantly vents about all her little grievances. It very much comes across as complain but I know its just her venting. She's incredibly anal and the smallest of things really stress her out. But in the end its just as annoying because I have to listen to it.

[Don-__-Don]

I don't know, and that's why I never vent at all.

Because I remember in the past on when I did try to vent certain friends just called me out that I'm just "bitching and whining" at that time I hardly vented because when I do it seems no one understands me.

Now I just take the stoic route, and it seems like it hasn't been doing me any good in the mental health region, but it doesn't seem like I got a choice to do anything else about my negative emotions.

[courtney06]

I’ve learned the hard way its better to Only vent to people who have shown me can handle it with compassion and/or have vented to me as well. I have to keep that group small and/or with a therapist.

[jordnaus]

I only vent to people if i know they them well and i have first asked how they are. But there's a line where it can become too much and you start making them worried or upset. No whining is going to solve anything. But maybe a vent and some constructive criticism or advice and a laugh if you can will help.

It's really on you to deal with your problems. Don't cry to people because we all have our own problems.

[guesswhoseback]

Yeah I agree. Venting gets the anger and frustration out with an ultimatum resolve to improve the situation. The other person helps put things in perspective. Complaining is just complaining for the sake of being a crybaby.

For example where I live absolute completely sucks for male bachelors (especially my age). I’ve vented about it several times. But I have a final resolve to move out for country for two months in January to a place where I’m higher value and respected by women.

[Anonymous]

A person can only want help if they are willing to help themselves out including finding a solution. The mindset is a powerful thing. You only draw the line when they don’t wanna help themselves but instead complain. We have the power to at least change our mindsets to wanting better

[Puppystarfish23]

When they start blaming others for what they are complaining about and aren't actually bothered about doing something to change the situation. They want to play victim and hear what they want to hear from others instead of hearing the truth

[winterfox10]

I draw the line at trying to find a solution. If you are trying to find a solution, then you aren't complaining/whining.

[iFarted]

I agree with you, venting to me is when something recently happened and the person needed to let it out. Complaining/whining to me is when someone is constantly being negative about one thing over and over and over again.

[Iron_Man]

If it’s done every day it becomes too much