How sure are you that they turn of the WiFi for you at night and not to save electricity bc not much use of it at night 🌃😝.
You are just freshly out your teens so, they feel responsible to teach you things.
You know when people get more freedom freshly off their teens there are more chances of rebellious behaviour and going down the supposedly the wrong path.
Meaning spending money, drugs, having unprotected sex etc etc.
Now these things could be kept in consideration.
Life as teen and that to as a fresh adults is full of adreline rush and thrill for guys its like bikes and fights could be possibly gambling or getting some addiction.
For girls I could guess is there beauty like how people would see them and the way they dress boosts there confidence.
And wrong people to know the right thing to say to spell bound you and you would go as far as stealing for them or demanding for sexual things.
I think your parents will give you the freedom slowly and steadily but i think they are still trying to educate you with social norms and to be a person who is socially appropriate like to fit in the zone.
Now also human life is full of proving them to others for anything on reality to earn any kind of previledges.
And also they have been protecting you till now as a child so you also need to understand it's hard for them to bileive you are growing up to be a women.
And for some reason both parents love the girl child more.
Also just be happy that you had a life so well protected and handed out to you everything you desired.
There are lots of orphans out there who were put in shelter homes or adopted by the wrong family and got abused.
Turning off wifi at night lol it's very least of an issue.
Just speak to them that they need to trust you more and you would keep them informed of activities they will feel happy that you are secure and you entrust them so they will also trust you as well its a two way street.
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There is a very fine line between protecting and controlling.
what you describe is more controlling than protective, and usually the type of thing you see in very religious families or certain cultures.
what they do not realise is the impact on your socialising skills as a young adult, it can have long reaching impact on how a person deals with others at a social level.
I would try to get some form of ‘trust’ built up with them, play their rules up to a point, however this type of thing really does impact people’s mental health and their ability to engage with their peer group, they do not learn street skills that teens do, they do not learn things that as a teen do not really matter but as a 18-20 year old really do matter.
possessive, controlling can be as bad as abusive (obviously not all the way) as it changes how someone is at a core level.
There is nothing wrong with shutting off the wifi at night. As a matter of fact, that is a wise move because it limits the harmful waves going through the house. Furthermore, there is no need for wifi at night anyway.
As for your parents being more strict with you, this is also due to their concern about you growing up in a healthy environment rather than in a toxic. Your mother seems to place great importance on the way you dress and that is not really a negative aspect of her education either.
However, you being 18 now should be considered as a responsible adult and you should also have a number of freedoms. But bear in mind that you live under their roof and that you have to abide by their rules. If you want more freedom, then you have to consider moving out to your own place where you would be free to behave and do what you want without regard to what your parents think of you.
You are an Xper 1 and have not made any opinions or previous questions yet, and yet THIS is the first question you ask? Better than all the other troll questions though that are usually about losing your virginity or the "Can I get pregnant for just thinking of having sex?" questions. So I have to give you credit for that. I didn't even think they had heard of G@G in So. Africa.
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Parents no matter what age you are will always be overprotective. They say parents who love their children discipline them just as the Lord our God disciplines us and gives enough and not more. I am 32 and my mom still worries till this day. If this guys really likes you and is for you he will understand. If not then he isn't the right one because he needs to also understand that as long as you are living under your parents roof and rent free there will be rules.
It sucks that you were dealt that situation, but at least your parents give enough fucks about you to be over protective. The opposite is they let you do whatever and you get into all sorts of trouble. If you don't like it, it's time to move out. Then they'll have no say on how to live your life. You can't make demands from people that are basically taking care of you. Baby bird doesn't wanna get treated like a baby then fly the nest.
OK, it is time to figure out ways to leave the proverbial nest and get out on your own. Make academic and economic plans to escape.
If, for the time being, that is just not possible, then figure out ways to not be at the house all that much. Camp out in the library studying, or at a job working. Your parents can't find fault with you for that.
Remember: They can't pick on you if you are not around them.You are very beautiful and guys will take advantage. The world is kind of a mean and scary place.
they are very protective, i think you should try speaking for yourself and tell them how you feel
Stop thinking like that. They're doing it for your own good
You're 18, but you still live under their roof. Until you start paying rent, then can treat you like a child still
If you're 18, you now have the rights to actually move out. Perhaps they don't see the maturity in you yet.
Time to move out and show them that you are not a baby anymore.
If you wanna be treated like an adult, do adult things
Because they are parents.
the wifi thing is pretty ridiculous
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