I have had a grudge for the past 10 years, someone help? (Page 2)
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Yeah they don’t I understand where ur coming from. You just have to improve yourself physically and mentally and do your best at school/work. They’re probably miserable and it’s just a facade. I had this girl bully me like 10 years ago and I still hold a grudge to this day, she was beautiful but evil.
Just quit the blame-game and the victim claiming. Do NOT turn over power over yourself or your feelings to anything or anyone. PERIOD.
Own your feelings, choose to feel differently, forgive yourself. That's how you move on.
And NEVER compare yourself to ANYONE. EVER. Just be the best YOU that YOU can be.
If they are such an asshole, isn't making social media shit up part of their game? :-)
You don't know what is going on over there. You are completely falling for potential asshole games.
So you are double-doing yourself.
You have plenty of years ahead of you to do your own thing - don't mind-fuck yourself.
I've kept all my bitterness and anger towards those who tried to destroy my already bad high school experience. Like I don't let it affect present day me, but I always knew that one day I would get revenge on those who made my life hell in high school, especially that uber-bitch of a vice principal who went out her way to hate my guts and try to get me expelled.
guide to happiness. Do things the right way that's almost always the hard way. Treat people nice like you want to be treated. Honer your parents cause they brought you into this world. Don't judge people, forgive people. That doesn't mean forget just move on and don't fellowship with mean people life's to short. When you make a mistake forgive your self and correct your thinking and try not to do it again. this stuff really works
The only person to be hurt by this grudge is yourself. It is only you that is making yourself unhappy. All you can do is to think of the positives. You might say there aren't any, in which case go and make some.
Let it go.
I've been where you are, it's not healthy. Negativity will eat away at you. It will make you a bitter person and when you finally realise its time to let go. The years are gone. You've already wasted 10 years of letting this person take up space in your life still. Don't waste anymore time. Life is fleeting.
Let it go. The hatred and negativity will eat at you for as long as you hold the grudge. Forgiving them and yourself for everything will help with that. I know its hard and you may not want to. I had to because the negativity was just eating me up. I couldn't handle it anymore and I wanted to get rid of it.
So focus on YOUR future, not theirs. You are not going to travel and be happy by stalking their online profiles. If you want to travel and be happy, then you must put up the effort all by yourself. Make a huge ton of money and do what you love doing.
Forgiving and forgetting is for cuckolds.
social media isn't real. it makes people seem happier than they are by showing only their filtered life.
you will be happier if you delete your social media. it has no value but to compare yourself to others
I’m sorry that you had to got through that. Keep in mind that no one’s social media is honest. People just post the best. They probably aren’t doing as well as you think they are.
Life gets easier when you learn to accept the apology you never got.
All you can hope to do is haunt them after you die. :(
Don’t do anything ! Karma will come at its own pace :) block them and focus on your self x
You can't change the past. So be like them, have an amazing life and show it off too, but most importantly for yourself. Let them see YOUR amazing life!
I had grudges over them for more than decade and they ruined my life. But batong them only hurts me. Just love someone who loves you, it will go away
*Hating them
Find new friends Your life doesn’t revolve around those people
Nobody can help you. It's up to you to let this shit go. Just let it go.
See your enemies not as enemies, but objects - hollow of value and purpose.