My mom got mad at me today because I drank a little bit of beer and left it in the fridge for the first time I’m confused?

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m confused why is it so wrong? I’m an adult now and I never drank a full bottle of beer in my life I just drank a little bit and left it in the fridge but she started yelling at me and making a show. I asked her if I can’t do it here than would they want me to try drinks somewhere else? And she just completely lost it and kept at yelling at me saying that this is a Christian household and that she didn’t raise me that way. I only drank a little bit and I kept on telling her that but she kept on yelling at me. I’m a person that likes to try new things new foods, new drinks, etc. I just wanted to try some. I don’t like that my parents aren’t allowing me to drink at home I feel like they’re babying me and I really don’t like that. I’m an introvert I’ve never been into parties I just want to be able to try some alcohol at home people at my age are partying getting drunk but that’s not me I drink only a little bit when I do because I don’t want to get drunk. Why are they treating me like a disgrace? I felt motivated to get out of my room I organized the kitchen for my mom and the little motivation I had now is gone because of the show she made

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And they’re telling me that they’re trying to stop me from being an alcoholic? Wtf I never even have the intention of getting drunk and I never drink more than a little bit

[Eelephant]

I think she was overreacting. My parents are really realigious but very chill about alcohol (maybe too relaxed?). I think it's good that she cared about you, but she needs to understand that you're a young adult who wants to try new things. What you did was completely innocent and a totally normal thing to do.

Funny how we can both have christian parents who use their religion to justify their polar opposites views on alcohol. They say that since we drink it in church, and that since children drink it in Europe often (apparently) that we should be able to drink just like them. My parents incourage me actually (this led me to drinking a giant bloody mary in a restaurant with them and becoming wasted.)

I get where you mom is coming from, but she's being too strinct,. You only have about a year before you turn 21... so you can't even have a sip of alcohol before then? I'm not saying that what my parents do is right, I just think they're taking a different approach and letting me experiment under their watch so I can understand the consequences if drinking. Two very different approaches to parenting, I get where each is coming from but one in-between may be more beneficial.

[pink_and_inlove]

Yeah it’s not like I’m going to get drunk

[pink_and_inlove]

I only drink little bits sometimes my boyfriend shares with me and I take little sips of the beer I gave him

[Eelephant]

Yeah it's not like you have the intent to get drunk. What she did sounded pretty hurtful and out of place and I'm sorry that you had to deal with that.

[Paolaa988]

My dad treats me like that too and im 22 yuup:( you're not alone. Sometimes no matter how old you get and what you do parents can't accept you're a grown up and their so harsh because they want whats best but yelling and treating us like a baby just makes us wanna rebel more. I mean you're 19 lucky you've gotten away with more than me girl. I didn't do anything much till my 20s and barley did some more things at my current age 22. Im sorry its really hard, you just have to show her you won't tolerate it and what i started doing is being very responsible, and telling my dad when i wanna stay out and exercise or go to my friends whatever that im gonna do it and be safe and at first he was paranoid then he started to calm down. I told my dad if he ever taunts and yells at me again for something minor, treating me like a child that Ill just leave the house..

[pink_and_inlove]

More than you? Girl lol all I do is stay home and I only hang out with my boyfriend I’ve never been allowed to a sleep over , I’ve only been allowed to children’s parties, and my mom used to track me and I believe that she still tried to track me even though all I do is hang out at home mostly and sometimes with my boyfriend

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t even hang out with friends

[pink_and_inlove]

Man I wish I had the option to leave the house but I don’t even have a friend

[pink_and_inlove]

I forgot to add that she was threatening to hit me

[HawkPerception]

This is another reason why religion is a plague on society. Literally prevents any rationality. It's a beer. Not a video of you doing a porno. Like holy, traditional parents are batshit crazy, excuse my language. I know no one's supposed to say shit about your parents other than you, but I feel for people raised by indoctrinated parents with such ridiculous rules and logic.

My mom encouraged me to drink at family functions even since I was 16. She never cares how much I drink and I've even gotten shitfaced at a couple Christmas family functions and she just got me bags. Like... we have one life to live... and you're gonna berate your 19 year old kid for taking a sip from a beer? Crazy..

That being said... sorry if I was too passionate there lol. Wish your family the best and all. Just highly disagree with that kinda parenting

[ZackBan]

Hold up now. How much is your mom religiously invested?
Because you often talk about he she got super mad at you for the dumbest of things and she raised you with an iron grip so tight that you're just now discovering the world even though you should have already.
I could never fully explain it but if she's truly a religious fanstic it might really explain a lot of her behavior

[pink_and_inlove]

She is more religious than all of us she always listens to Christian music even the ouch I think the music that she listens to is horrible lol but I don’t think that she is a religious fanatic

[ZackBan]

Yeah by definition no. But in my personal experience anyone who uses religion to decide right and wrong is somewhat a fanatic. It's a personal definition not the official one.
But basically your mom would chose the bible of common sense and self made choices and while it may seem harmless it makes a person disconnected from real life. Common sense says a bit of beer never hurt anyone but religion is hypocritical about it like everything else

[pink_and_inlove]

Today she sat down with my boyfriend and started claiming that I was disrespectful and started screaming at her she twisted everything around yesterday she was the one yelling at me I wasn’t and my dad had to calm her down. I started crying I can’t believe that she twisted things around and she even dragged my little brother into it the poor kid was confused and didn’t even know what to say then she accused him of lying later on

[ZackBan]

Oh waw. Whenever I think she can't do worst she does.
I don't envy your boyfriend for having to sit there and humor her knowing damn well that if she decides for whatever reason to hate him seeing you will be extremely hard.
I honestly don't know what to tell you. Like I've mentioned before how imperative it is you move out of there but it's not looking like it'll happen soon. For now you gotta hang in there and make sure to understand that she has problems with herself not with you and whatever she says to you or whatever names she calls you it's not true. Just stay true to yourself and you'll get out of this with minimal mental issues

[tatianamay]

Well, you are 19 maybe it’s time for you to move out? All mothers get protective of their children. You will always be her baby, but also, you’re an adult. I just think it’s time for you to move out. You’re saying that you wanna try new things like eating new food, new music and stuff, so I don’t think your mom is gonna appreciate you smoking or drinking. I know that my mom wouldn’t allow me to drink if I lived with her.

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t care about smoking and I’m not much of a drinker I just like to try new drinks and foods.

[pink_and_inlove]

I consume very small amounts yet I get into big trouble and she also threatened to beat me

[tatianamay]

Damn, well, then until you move out try not to let your mom see you drinking beer? That’s the only option. You have about a year until you turn 21, and it’s legal in your country to drink alcohol at 18? I read some comments. So, I think perfectly fine for you to experiment stuff as long as it’s in very small amounts and you seem to know your limits. I see no reason why she’d behave like that

[tatianamay]

Don’t worry girl. Just wait for a year and move out as soon as you can?

[pink_and_inlove]

I hope that I can I just don’t know if I can with college

[tatianamay]

Oh okay. Maybe when you graduate from college then!

[MotorcycleMan]

This is one of the many reasons that adults don't live with their parents. To them, you have always been their baby to teach and nurture and protect and they can't just turn that off one day because you turned into an adult. Remember, their house, their rules.
(but yeah, she is over the top)

[Miah02]

Is it your age, possibly?

Parents be pressin us about little things tbh.

My pops will allow me to a get a taste from time to time for the reason you said.
Rather me do it with him responsibly than out makin a mess.

Beer ain't that good anyway.

[jamesgoldman]

Jeez they're bad

I'd get my 'rents reacting like that if they'd found out how much I was drinking at 16 between after-work drinks, occasional working drinks and drinking with both my older girlfriends as well as my first ones family
They never found out about that or my occasional cigarette, let alone the marijuana

N. b. it was probably about a bottle of spirits a week, for context

[pleasestopthis]

Your mom is bat sh*t crazy, girl. Sorry to put it like this. My christian parents never made a scene when I drank a bit of wine, and they prefered I drank a bit at home with them instead ot drinking outside when they didn't know what I was doing.
As someone said, Jesus drank wine. Drinking a bit isn't a problem, drinking until you pass out IS a problem.

[Pete671]

Sounds like she over-reacted, but it's their house after all,,,

Do you need to be 21 to consume alcohol legally?, might be something to do with "obeying Herod's law"?

Your mom might have had experience of the disasters that alcohol can cause,,,

[WhiteWolf69]

You're a underage and it is illegal to drink under 21. For you drinking and smoking marijuana is illegal until you are 21.

[pink_and_inlove]

In the state taht I live it’s okay to drink but with an adult

[pink_and_inlove]

I just can’t purchase anything

[pink_and_inlove]

Also in the country that my family is from it is legal at 18

[pink_and_inlove]

I meant that it’s okay to drink at home and I never cared about marijuana

[Still-alive]

like you never did anything illegal as a child. lol

[WhiteWolf69]

I'm not admitting to anything. I am just replying to the situation in front of me according to a balanced approach to the response. Well if you live in the US the legal drinking age is 21. If you're in another country then that's a different story. I was just using what I know to reply to why your mom would be mad at you for drinking. If I sounded angry or anything like that I apologize. I am just trying to be helpful and that's it.

[Surely]

I agree with what you are saying. As long as you were not leaving the house for some time.
Opening a beer and drinking a little, then putting it in the fridge. It will probably be flat when you go to finish it.
Good for you for wanting to try things at home first!

[Anonymous]

Yes, she's in the wrong hell your turning age 20 on August 3 cause you were born one day later than my niece Carrissa.. I see no problem with having a beer and other drinks once in a while as long as you don't start abusing it... Sorry you up against this (( Hugs))

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wow @pink_and_inlove You're parents are going to extreme

[slatyb]

How close are you to moving out? Sounds like it's time.

[pink_and_inlove]

Pretty far I have to get married first so maybe 3 years or more

[slatyb]

Why do you have to get married first? You are an adult.

[jennifer_bloom]

Move out of the house and block their number and post a photo of beer on your Facebook well and mail it to her as a good bye gift.

[Alwayreckles93]

She needs to show some respect, She needs to learn to act like a lady not a man.

[Alwayreckles93]

Please don't encourage bad behavior as it is a sin to drink.

[Still-alive]

@Alwayreckles93 go away

[dray995]

What’s gotten into you? That doesn’t sounds like a very Christian attitude for you to have?

[jennifer_bloom]

@Alwayreckles93 Jesus turned water into wine and drank alcohol and he also told his followers to drink wine in remembrance of him and a real lady would never Slander and mock somebody by pretending they are masculine since femininity involves being cooperate and respectful and gracious and accepting and why do you lecture others about showing respect when you God’s people by pretending they encourage bad people.

[jennifer_bloom]

Or Slander gods people by pretending they encourage bad behaviour?

[dray995]

Slander? You’re telling something they should rebel against their parents and disrespect their parents.

[jennifer_bloom]

@dray995 their parents disrespect them and I’m just saying to stand up for your rights and dignity.

[dray995]

It’s their parents. You can’t just take their stuff and demand they respect you when you do something wrong.

[jennifer_bloom]

@dray995 they should care for their kids cause their parents parents cared for them when they were kids. It’s about returning the debt you owe your parents by taking care of your kids and being a provider does not give you a right to abuse your children because their parents did not have a right to abuse them when they were kids.

[dray995]

Who said anything about abuse? What are you going on about? She stole a beer from her parents while underage and is wondering why her parents are mad at her. That’s all these is to the story.

[jennifer_bloom]

@dray995 19 is underage? Slander isn’t abuse?

[dray995]

The legal drinking age in America is 21. 19 is not 21.

[Pink2000]

Girl you aren’t 21. You aren’t supposed to be drinking lmao. You have 2 years left.

[pink_and_inlove]

21 is only to buy alcohol having alcohol with a guardian at home is different. And in my parents country you could buy alcohol at 18 I don’t know why they’re turning this into a big deal I’m not out partying I just like to try different foods and drinks

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m not a kid.

[pink_and_inlove]

So I don’t like getting treated like one when I don’t have any bad intentions

[pink_and_inlove]

This woman used to fucking track me everytime I went out

[pink_and_inlove]

To eta dinner or something

[Pink2000]

Yeah but that’s a different country. The legal drinking age is 21 in the US … it’s not really that big of a deal cause it’s just beer… I know what you mean. I have controlling parents too and it’s frustrating. I’m 21 and they’d be pissed at me too… but I think the issue is that your aren’t legally old enough and they’re freaking out.

[Pink2000]

No one has intentions on becoming an alcoholic. It kind of just happens.

[pink_and_inlove]

She even threatened to beat me

[Pink2000]

Was this the first time you drank?

[pink_and_inlove]

No it wasn’t the first time and I’ve always only drank a little amount or taken small sips my dad even brought me rice wine so that I could try some and now he’s acting like this

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well she's probably mad cause your not old enough to drink legally and your doing it in her house so that's why she's pissed your setting a bad example

[pink_and_inlove]

It’s really stupid in almost every country the drinking age is 18 even in the country where my family comes from

[pink_and_inlove]

I only drunk a little bit. I should be able to I’m an adult

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t get why they’re acting like it’s the end of the world when I only got a little bit of beer when people my age do so much worse I’ve never even been drunk in my life nor do I want to be I just want to try new things I don’t want to be babied

[Bklynbadboy12]

Buy you here in America and its 21 here I'm sorry but I have to be honest

[pink_and_inlove]

To buy drinks but to drink at home it’s different

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m about to be 20 it’s not that big of a difference

[Bklynbadboy12]

No it the same babe when you drink it and buy it you have to be 21

[pink_and_inlove]

No you have to be 21 to buy it you could drink some at home

[pink_and_inlove]

I looked up the state laws if a guardian and parents is their it’s fine

[Bklynbadboy12]

What state law is that

[pink_and_inlove]

www.alcoholproblemsandsolutions.org/.../

[pink_and_inlove]

Being a bad example my ass all I do is stay home

[Still-alive]

the only bad example is you coming down hard on her

[bannacookies]

I dealt with the same thing growing up & was treated the same. I don't agree with most of the comments. If you're under 21 and if you live in their house, you should try to follow the reasonable things they expect like not to drink beer in their house if you're under 21. That being said, just go drink elsewhere. I'm sure your boyfriend will let you drink with him.

[FunkyMonkee]

What does being a christian have to do with drinking beer? And, if it's a christian household and beer is bad, why was it there ion the first place?

[TurkishGirl_]

Don't listen to stupid people's comments. You are an adult and you can do whatever you want.

[UnknownGagsUser]

Overreacting and super controller.. maybe you need to move out.

[Deku2009]

I think it’s because of her strong faith is the reason why. She wants you to follow in her foot steps tho you should fall and make your own path

[TallAnon]

Your mother seem to be a bit of a control freak.
You're an adult, drink whatever the fuck you want.

[EmbraceThePain]

How dare you do such a thing.


Bad girl

[pink_and_inlove]

Ughh it’s so stupid I feel a bit trapped

[pink_and_inlove]

I’ve never even been to a party that wasn’t a kids one I really haven’t explored much of life since I’m so introverted. I just like to try things I’m an adult and I wish I could get treated like one I want to be able to drink with my family and boyfriend and stuff but not to the point where I get drunk is what I did that wrong? I just feel like I get into trouble for everything