My mom got mad at me today because I drank a little bit of beer and left it in the fridge for the first time I’m confused?

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I’m confused why is it so wrong? I’m an adult now and I never drank a full bottle of beer in my life I just drank a little bit and left it in the fridge but she started yelling at me and making a show. I asked her if I can’t do it here than would they want me to try drinks somewhere else? And she just completely lost it and kept at yelling at me saying that this is a Christian household and that she didn’t raise me that way. I only drank a little bit and I kept on telling her that but she kept on yelling at me. I’m a person that likes to try new things new foods, new drinks, etc. I just wanted to try some. I don’t like that my parents aren’t allowing me to drink at home I feel like they’re babying me and I really don’t like that. I’m an introvert I’ve never been into parties I just want to be able to try some alcohol at home people at my age are partying getting drunk but that’s not me I drink only a little bit when I do because I don’t want to get drunk. Why are they treating me like a disgrace? I felt motivated to get out of my room I organized the kitchen for my mom and the little motivation I had now is gone because of the show she made

Eelephant · Accepted Answer

I think she was overreacting. My parents are really realigious but very chill about alcohol (maybe too relaxed?). I think it's good that she cared about you, but she needs to understand that you're a young adult who wants to try new things. What you did was completely innocent and a totally normal thing to do.

Funny how we can both have christian parents who use their religion to justify their polar opposites views on alcohol. They say that since we drink it in church, and that since children drink it in Europe often (apparently) that we should be able to drink just like them. My parents incourage me actually (this led me to drinking a giant bloody mary in a restaurant with them and becoming wasted.)

I get where you mom is coming from, but she's being too strinct,. You only have about a year before you turn 21... so you can't even have a sip of alcohol before then? I'm not saying that what my parents do is right, I just think they're taking a different approach and letting me experiment under their watch so I can understand the consequences if drinking. Two very different approaches to parenting, I get where each is coming from but one in-between may be more beneficial.

Paolaa988 · Accepted Answer

My dad treats me like that too and im 22 yuup:( you're not alone. Sometimes no matter how old you get and what you do parents can't accept you're a grown up and their so harsh because they want whats best but yelling and treating us like a baby just makes us wanna rebel more. I mean you're 19 lucky you've gotten away with more than me girl. I didn't do anything much till my 20s and barley did some more things at my current age 22. Im sorry its really hard, you just have to show her you won't tolerate it and what i started doing is being very responsible, and telling my dad when i wanna stay out and exercise or go to my friends whatever that im gonna do it and be safe and at first he was paranoid then he started to calm down. I told my dad if he ever taunts and yells at me again for something minor, treating me like a child that Ill just leave the house..

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

This is another reason why religion is a plague on society. Literally prevents any rationality. It's a beer. Not a video of you doing a porno. Like holy, traditional parents are batshit crazy, excuse my language. I know no one's supposed to say shit about your parents other than you, but I feel for people raised by indoctrinated parents with such ridiculous rules and logic.

My mom encouraged me to drink at family functions even since I was 16. She never cares how much I drink and I've even gotten shitfaced at a couple Christmas family functions and she just got me bags. Like... we have one life to live... and you're gonna berate your 19 year old kid for taking a sip from a beer? Crazy..

That being said... sorry if I was too passionate there lol. Wish your family the best and all. Just highly disagree with that kinda parenting

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

Hold up now. How much is your mom religiously invested?
Because you often talk about he she got super mad at you for the dumbest of things and she raised you with an iron grip so tight that you're just now discovering the world even though you should have already.
I could never fully explain it but if she's truly a religious fanstic it might really explain a lot of her behavior

tatianamay · Answer

Well, you are 19 maybe it’s time for you to move out? All mothers get protective of their children. You will always be her baby, but also, you’re an adult. I just think it’s time for you to move out. You’re saying that you wanna try new things like eating new food, new music and stuff, so I don’t think your mom is gonna appreciate you smoking or drinking. I know that my mom wouldn’t allow me to drink if I lived with her.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

This is one of the many reasons that adults don't live with their parents. To them, you have always been their baby to teach and nurture and protect and they can't just turn that off one day because you turned into an adult. Remember, their house, their rules.
(but yeah, she is over the top)

Miah02 · Answer

Is it your age, possibly?

Parents be pressin us about little things tbh.

My pops will allow me to a get a taste from time to time for the reason you said.
Rather me do it with him responsibly than out makin a mess.

Beer ain't that good anyway.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Jeez they're bad

I'd get my 'rents reacting like that if they'd found out how much I was drinking at 16 between after-work drinks, occasional working drinks and drinking with both my older girlfriends as well as my first ones family
They never found out about that or my occasional cigarette, let alone the marijuana

N. b. it was probably about a bottle of spirits a week, for context

pleasestopthis · Answer

Your mom is bat sh*t crazy, girl. Sorry to put it like this. My christian parents never made a scene when I drank a bit of wine, and they prefered I drank a bit at home with them instead ot drinking outside when they didn't know what I was doing.
As someone said, Jesus drank wine. Drinking a bit isn't a problem, drinking until you pass out IS a problem.

Pete671 · Answer

Sounds like she over-reacted, but it's their house after all,,,

Do you need to be 21 to consume alcohol legally?, might be something to do with "obeying Herod's law"?

Your mom might have had experience of the disasters that alcohol can cause,,,

Surely · Answer

I agree with what you are saying. As long as you were not leaving the house for some time.
Opening a beer and drinking a little, then putting it in the fridge. It will probably be flat when you go to finish it.
Good for you for wanting to try things at home first!

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

You're a underage and it is illegal to drink under 21. For you drinking and smoking marijuana is illegal until you are 21.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, she's in the wrong hell your turning age 20 on August 3 cause you were born one day later than my niece Carrissa.. I see no problem with having a beer and other drinks once in a while as long as you don't start abusing it... Sorry you up against this (( Hugs))

Pink2000 · Answer

Girl you aren’t 21. You aren’t supposed to be drinking lmao. You have 2 years left.

slatyb · Answer

How close are you to moving out? Sounds like it's time.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Move out of the house and block their number and post a photo of beer on your Facebook well and mail it to her as a good bye gift.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well she's probably mad cause your not old enough to drink legally and your doing it in her house so that's why she's pissed your setting a bad example

bannacookies · Answer

I dealt with the same thing growing up & was treated the same. I don't agree with most of the comments. If you're under 21 and if you live in their house, you should try to follow the reasonable things they expect like not to drink beer in their house if you're under 21. That being said, just go drink elsewhere. I'm sure your boyfriend will let you drink with him.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

What does being a christian have to do with drinking beer? And, if it's a christian household and beer is bad, why was it there ion the first place?

TurkishGirl_ · Answer

Don't listen to stupid people's comments. You are an adult and you can do whatever you want.

Lliam · Answer

Where did you get the beer?

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

Overreacting and super controller.. maybe you need to move out.

Deku2009 · Answer

I think it’s because of her strong faith is the reason why. She wants you to follow in her foot steps tho you should fall and make your own path

TallAnon · Answer

Your mother seem to be a bit of a control freak. You're an adult, drink whatever the fuck you want.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

How dare you do such a thing.  Bad girl

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I don't understand. Is she mad that you didn't drink the whole lot?

joeldalton · Answer

I'd yell too. You finish a beer if you open it.

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

Goodness gracious you have a helicopter mom. I pray for your parents to be more open minded instead of being over concerned about you

TurkishDİxon3419 · Answer

Drinking beer at 19? I'm sorry indeed

COMMODOREII · Answer

*hugs* you are a good person

Pterodon · Answer

Jesus dank wine

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