In a traditionalist lifestyle you are looked at as a s**t parent if you have a nanny or sitter that is not family.
It's looked upon as letting someone else raise your children and frowned upon horribly by others.Belief is the woman should stop working, and if the husband can't afford for her to stop working they shouldn't have a family period.
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Day care is considered the same thing someone is still watching your child. Just in a different location
Are you okay with letting a nanny or sitter raise your children?
Parents that let thier nanny or babysitter raise there children are the same parents that get called bitches and assholes in the ice cream aisle at Walmart by thier little nipple biter and are constantly apologizing (or not) for the pre felonious behavior.. telling the child that there will be no ice cream if they keep it up. Then you hear "fuck you and grab the Rocky Road, shit head".
Now this is the just one of the altercations I've witnessed between mother and child..
What I am about to say some may not agree and that's ok.. but I believe what is missing from the children that behave this way is a good old fashioned Ass Whoopin. After about 2 or 3 of these well deserved disciplinary actions the child most likely change for the better, hopefully.
The flip side is that it may not workout that way and a possible stretch of deliquency will ensue.
I myself was a product of parental capital punishment and yes I deserved every one of them looking back on it... My children I made them aware of what would be coming if they acted that way and very rarely had to raise my voice. Now all 4 are productive members of society with great careers and have been and still are respectful adults.
Parents I encourage you to be Parents your children will thank you.
Raising a child needs sacrifices. It needs sacrifices of time, money and effort both mental and physical as well as emotional. When you raise a child you're raising a person of tomorrow that's gonna be remembering all the things you do as their childhood like you remember what your parents did to you when you were with them. As parents a natural bonding is there as children are a literal extension of parents. You naturally care for them, for what they eat, how they sleep, what they learn everyday and as much needed how they experience the only time they'll every be a kid and not have to worry about loans or paying taxes that's essentially working for the govt. There are so much responsibility of an adult but a kid knows nothing about it. Personally I'm not okay with letting a nanny or some other person raising my child as the child would be left out of how to think, behave and react in a better way the world likes it as in a society as the real issue comes along when the child learns more frowned upon things from the nanny than all the good things. I understand that I have to work so much harder to give my child a better childhood than mine with better opportunities for growth and formation of greater future. But it's the only time they'll look at me as their role model of what and what nots. No one's perfect. We're all striving to become better every moment of our lives. I would want my child to follow what she likes and become what she loves to be. As every child can literally make a difference. I would have to get a nanny if it's absolutely necessary and I wouldn't want my child to learn any age inappropriate things. I'll have to teach my child how to think and be strong willed and disciplined yet laid back as that's what the world needs, the power of adaptation.
No wayy I could never send my kids to daycare. That's why I'm a stay at home mom. It's fine if other people want to take the risk but I personally think their stupid. If you're gonna have kids then step up and raise them especially if both parents are there then one should stay home. It's different for single parents since they dont have any other option so I don't blame them for doing it but with two parents it really sickens me to see them both work just so they can have a fancy house/car or whatever and throw the kids in daycare like money is more important than their kids.
I'd prefer a family member looking after my kids. I'd never hire a stranger. Unless I knew them personsonally.
It's ridiculous when people frown on others like that. We all have different life situations and circumstances and we all think differently. I'd never let other people's opinions control my decisions in life.
Some people send their kids to boarding school. They only see them during school holidays.
At the moment my son goes to creche part of the day then I fetch him for the afternoon. He's highly social - far more than either of us could give him at home. He's learning social skills and making friends.
We had a nanny to help because with my health being so bad (I was in a coma this time last year) my wife needed help.
Would I prefer us to be able to be a single income home? Of course. I'd rather my wife was able to work only because she chose to and not because we need her income. Life is what we make of it. I'm going to find new ways to show my son that every day.
As long as the parents still play an active and positive role in their child's life and development, then there should not be anything wrong with a nanny like that.
That is crazy. Parents, at least in the U. S. seem to be much busier and it's a lot harder to live off of only one income so some sort of childcare is necessary. And honestly, a nanny that provides a lot of 1-on-1 care is probably a lot better than dropping them off at a daycare center with 60 other kids.
My parents worked a lot so we were always at our babysitters house up until like.. kindergarten. I don't see anything wrong with it and my dad eventually stop working. I didn't feel as though I was raised by babysitter. I know I was raised by my parents.
Nope not at all , my ex quit working while the kids were young so she could be there for the kids so we didn’t have to put our kids into a daycare , we made them so we took care of them, I worked 2 jobs just so she could take care of the kids and when they were old enough she went back to work , we did what we had to do and it all worked out , I am happy to say my kids were never in some daycare
I am a firm believer that one parent should be in the home raising their kids. In the past men have usually been the provider. I really do not care who stays at home but one of them needs to.
You look at statistics and compare kids that had a stay-at-home parent compared to kids with single-parent households or where both parents worked, the kids with a stay-at-home parent do better in life.
I don't think I'm okay with letting someone raise my children. And Women shouldn't quit their job to raise their children. I think For the first few years I can take an unpaid leave of absence to take care of them. And then I can get back to my job and my children will be at school or daycare. If I can't make afford all of this I should not have children. (I don't intend on having any anyways)
I'm not Traditional in the least, I'm Progressive AF. But no, My mother was a Nanny for 3 separate families before I was born and I respect that profession, However, can say I'd rather be a single dad than have a full time nanny that spent more time with my kids than I did.
I think if parents can't make time from work to be able to raise their child ( children) and hire a nanny I believe kids can take to the nanny more, It's better for parents to sit down and think about this situation before doing any family planning or having children?
My wife stayed home for 11 years taking care of out kids. It was something we decided on before we got married. I was not a high earner and a second income would have made life easier. I mostly lived by my wits, but our kids got to eat Cheerios in the playroom in their own house and play in their own yard.. When they were sick they got to stay in bed. Ironically they always complained that they were the only kids in the school that never went to Disneyworld.
I believe that the first 8 years of a kid's life are so important developmentally that one of the parents should not work but focus on raising them. And yes, if you can't afford to live on just one paycheck then you should postpone having kids until you can.
no. I prefer raise them myself and be with them BUTI 'll take them to kindergarden. but I would have someone to clean the house or cook and I won't leave my job. ( in future I mean , I don't have any kids now and not planning to )
Never let a nanny into your house unless you want to take a risk them messing with your kids or being irresponsible like inviting her boyfriend round for sex, or having sexual relations with the husband.
@Yyyyu lol the camera won't matter if they took them out somewhere or switched off the lights or covered the camera or broke it or went to the bathroom. Anyways not all nannies are bad but day care where multiple kids and multiple people exist is totally different.
Well said owlee birdee! 🦉 The wife should be a housewife or at least a stay at home mom when she have kids, no one will take care of the baby like his own mother.
Also there is nothing more beautiful for a man to come back home to see his wife and baby waiting for him, he will forget all the hard day at work 😊
@Yyyyu if she ain't a housewife than she have the right to ask him to help her since she's helping him with money than she deserves to be helped in the house chores 😌
Some career also allow work from home my cousin is software engineer she actually work from home and she is raising her daughter her husband is mechanical engineer he help with kids after coming back to home mother's should have option of work from home if it is possible ngl also freelancing and part time is good idea
In my opinion most jobs can at least have flexible hours except maybe nurses etc companies and government should encourage it. example you are working in morning while your husband is in home and vice versa. There are so many ways you can make life easier for working home also make it easy for women to come back in workforce after career break for kid's I mean maybe give them some training
I took two jobs just to keep that from happening when my kids were young. We moved to a poorer/cheaper neighborhood. In the summer we had the eletric turned off to save money.
Yup. I have no issue with the concept of daycare/babysitters. And I also don't really care what others may or may not think about whatever childcare choices my household makes.
I don't like it. A child needs his/her parents' love more than anything else. So I wouldn't like my child to grow up under a nanny and especially not in a daycare.
I had multiples nannies growing up and it definitely affected my development, I felt very insecure. So I vowed to raise my own kids myself, otherwise there's no point in having kids at all.
When families are divided into nuclear there could be a necessity. However, it much depends on the parents how to raise their child. However, I feel parents has to take care of their children.
@Alejandro3000: I thought it was so clever, I did it myself. My mom was a language teacher herself and taught us French and Spanish when we were little.
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