New mom of a boy: to circumsise or not to circumcise?

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What should I choose for my little guy? Honestly I'm not sure either way, my partner wants it done, but I don't know. Any mothers have experience with this? Guidance appreciated haha

TadCurious · Accepted Answer

Even though I will almost certainly never meet or know your son, I want to advocate on his behalf. He is obviously defenseless to prevent the mutilation of his body and is incapable of giving consent. If you allow this to happen he will be strapped down on a "circ board" because otherwise he wouldn't lie still while part of his penis is amputated. I would ask on his behalf to allow him to have his body integrity and then, when he is grown, he can exercise his personal autonomy to choose or not whether to be cut. He cannot speak for himself right now. Although his response to the cutting itself will --- in it's own way --- speak for itself. Very few parents ever witness this being done. The cutting is usually done to satisfy something in the parent giving approval instead of the best interests of the child. Cutting off part of a baby's penis is no way to welcome them into the world.
I was cut as a newborn and I wish my penis was intact.

FakeName123 · Accepted Answer

Short Answer:
Is it your penis? No? Then don't.
Because if your son ever wants to be circumcised, he can still do it.
Also keep in mind that babies can NOT be fully anesthetized. See this experiment: http://edition.cnn.com/HEALTH/9712/23/circumcision.anesthetic/

Long Answer: Look at my comment here: Do you think circumcision should be illegal like FGM?

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

If I had to make that decision I would fully research what circumcision does to a boy's body. Especially investigate the part where they don't have as many nerves that give him pleasure because some doctor severed them and he will never know the true pleasure of sex BECAUSE his nerves are gone forever! Sure it may look better, but look at what a guy has lost just to have a pretty looking penis. Sad!

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

My opinion is NO. It's not necessary and it's not your body. However, I have been told that it's important for a son to look like his father. I don't really know.

My husband and I chose not to cut our son and he's never complained about our decision.

Your son can get cut later, but he can't put anything back that you took away.

Mitchellvdweide · Answer

Since I want you to have an answer without bias or to try to be judgmental towards you...

As a parent you mainly aim towards the wellbeing of your child, and every choice or decision have its pros and cons. Dus, inform yourself throughly from different legitimate sources.

If you find people saying that your child did not give or can not give his concent for that operation, it could easily be said as well that the child did not concent being conceived or even did not concent to be born.

Is true that loose of sensitivity (pleasure) during sexual intercorse might occur, but this is more of a "getting used to" rather than a removal of nerves during the operation. Along the years, with the child growth and the exposure of the glans (head of the penis) against the fabric of the diaper and later underwear could in most cases decrease sensitivity, since you get use to the friction.

It could be painful such as any operation involving the removal of an organ (yes skin is an organ) or limb. However, the doctors performing these operations are experts and have experience, they will do best for the child. If you think that this operation is traumatic and or painful, so is being born for a baby, yes, not only mothers endure pain during birth, we still do not know how much pain children endure during birth, but we know that it evolves trauma and pain, and for the comments read I can say most of you turned to be fine.

In my opinion this is more a cosmetic surgery rather than mutilation since mutilation is a word that has negative cognitive and do not truly define this surgery. Furthermore, people who compare it to FGM do not know that FGM have three types.
type 1 (clitoridectomy) which is the removal of part or all of the clitoris this is like removing part or all the glans (head of the penis).

type 2 (excision) which is removing part or all of the clitoris and the inner labia (the lips that surround the vagina), with or without removal of the labia majora (the larger outer lips) this is line removing part of all the glans along with all the skin sorounding the penis.
type 3 (infibulation) which is the narrowing of the vaginal opening by creating a seal, formed by cutting and repositioning the labia no true comparison can be done for this. Not to mention that FGM is mostly done at home in sertain cultures and not in a clinic or hospital with the expertise of a doctor.

If you can teach your child to properly maintain the area clean and later teach him about the dangers of STDs and the use of a condom to prevent that, then I say it is not necessary.

MountAverage · Answer

How about not mutilate your child's genitals? They lose a lot of sensitivity down there, you'll negatively affect his sex life forever by doing so? And what for? Outdated religious tradition, from a time when people lived in the desert long before proper sanitation and hygiene standards? That's insane. There simply is no valid reason to mutilate your infant son's genitals. What do you think the reason that the US is one of the very very few western countries in the world left, where circumcision is still common?

New mom of a boy: to circumsise or not to circumcise?

I suggest you join the 21st century and do not participate in barbaric medieval practices.

matchrestore · Answer

My wife and I chose not to circumcise our son (for context we live in a region of the United States with the highest rate of routine infant circumcision). There was no way to justify removing healthy, functional, erogenous tissue from a minor that can't possibly consent, permanently modifying their sexual function. We'll leave that decision to him.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

As you are at it already: You could also trim back his ears, and shorten one or two of his toes :)
(we'll find dome ''logic'' reason for it later)

Right now this is safe because he's still little. If you wait with it too long - he may punch you in the face for trying.

EmmaMary · Answer

I can and do have experience as we have a 18 mth old little boy.

Both my husband and I have discussed this, and categorically, very firmly and totally agree that we shall leave this for our son to make his own decision, as and when he comes of age, or even later in life.

Under no circumstances whatsoever, other than for a medical emergency, will we barbarically mutilate our son.

Quidthonian · Answer

It depends on your culture, your religious beliefs etc. Since you don't have a strong opinion, but your partner has, I would do the cut.
Personally I am uncut: being born into a culture which doesn't circumcise. As an adult, I wanted it done, but talking to people and reading stories, I found that it is extremely painful with a long recovery period as an adult.
I have found a way of "simulating" the cut look and feel, but it takes little bit of self-discipline to execute.

Good luck with the decision.

Celtero · Answer

I'm uncircumcised and I'm happy with it.

As far as I know it's just an outdated religious practice. The only downside is you have to wash under it but that takes a measly 5 seconds.

If he regrets not being circumcised he can always choose to later in life, but he can never get it back if he regrets being circumcised.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Hmmm... to slice off a part of your child's anatomy, or keep his body intact? I don't understand why this is even a question, or why male genital mutilation is even still legal in the first place.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Maybe your partner's opinion should be weighted more than yours, on this one. He's a man. He has far more knowledge about this.
If he was neutral, or for it, as a mother, I would have it done. It's hygienic; that's a huge plus. But if you decide not to, that's fine too. He'll have a bit more sensitivity.
And don't worry about the temporary pain. He won't even remember it.

420Rachel · Answer

I chose to not get my son circumcised. My family wanted me to but I honestly couldn't bear the thought of my baby's most sensitive part being cut on. Like just no. As long as you keep the area clean there's nothing to worry about. If he decides when he's older he wants it cut then that will be HIS decision.

Honesttguy · Answer

Sacrifice goat? Tradition when newborn baby comes to earth. Some traditions need to fade away.
Im happy my parents didn't cut me, if they did i would hate them for it now and maybe decide to go cut their throats for it in return.
Im fuking Viking i dont take no shit.

Apple1996 · Answer

I have two boys and they are both intact. There is no reason to mutilate a babies body. Even my husband that was circumcised as a baby thinks the whole thing is disgusting and could never gotten it done to our boys.

beebella · Answer

I would circumcise, but no matter what you choose, it's not going to greatly affect your child.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a mom, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but my boyfriend is not circumsized and I see no reason to do so. I'm not actually sure why this is such a common procedure here, but I really don't find it necessary. We have a great sex life, and from what I hear, having the foreskin intact makes sex more pleasurable for men.

DWornock · Answer

Absolutely not. It is a crime to mutilate girls and should be a crime to mutilate boys. It serves no useful purpose. If you believe it does, spend a few day gradually pulling the foreskin back until it stretches enough to remain back. The effect will be the same without all the harmful mutilation.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Don't mutilate your kid. There's no reason to do it, outside of religious reasons.

abc3643 · Answer

No need to circumcise, so why do it? Are male animals circumcised? No, of course not, and they are just fine - just like your boy will be. Do the right thing - don't do it.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

One thing I disagree on how these people are abusing you
I believe that I would leave it up to my son when he gets older
but also heard that circumsion prevents cancer of the penis
I know a guy who was not circumcised and he developed cancer
of the penis and he died at a young age but he also was a alcoholic
my opinion is to see what the doctor tells you I am circumcised but
back in 1968, my doctor did not do a full circumcision on me and I have no problem my penis

SnakeBoop · Answer

Why would you EVER MUTILATE YOUR CHILD? there's no scientific research to back it up as being beneficial...

Lillie_xo · Answer

I think that should be his choice but obviously rn he can't choose. so anyway, im guessing he can have it done later in life when he can choose so i would wait and let it actually be his decision to have it done ! (◡‿◡✿)

Anonymous · Answer

I am a first time mother. We circumcised our son. I prefer them and hubby is Jewish but also prefers them. The sooner you get it done the better. It heals very quickly within 3 days was healed was healed completely by day 7. It made me cry to do it to his dick because you have this beautiful baby you just had and you don't want anything to hurt him so it sucks to know your doing this but I knew in the end it was for the best.

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

Did you seriously just ask a bunch of strangers online if it’s okay to slice up your baby’s dick? What the fuck is wrong with you?

joeldalton · Answer

I would say 'no'., but this is your decision alone.

WhiplashMonkey · Answer

My parents got me cut when I was born. Personally I don’t care and I’m happy about the way it looks for myself. My parents did it mainly because it’s more sanitary?

If I have a son down the road, I’ll just have him make the choice.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Please don't do it, this is irreversible, so it's unfair for the kid.

About the hygiene stuff, he can have his dick intact and wash it every day, I do it with mine and as a result my dick never fell off.

Feelicks · Answer

Would you want your clitoral hood removed to make masterbation and sex more difficult and less pleasurable? Don't mutilate your child please.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Don't, let him decide for himself once he is old enough.

Anonymous · Answer

This is a total no brainer. Its not your choice to make. If you want to mutilate someones genitals, do it to yourself.

MCheetah · Answer

Don't do it. It's horrible to mutilate a child's genitals, no mater the gender.

ChubbyKing · Answer

Circumcision at birth is morbid oppression. Let him decide that on his own

karaspara · Answer

I have a 7 year old son he's not circumcised and I wouldn't do it if I had another son either congratulations by the way on the birth of your beautiful son

Anonymous · Answer

NOOo, plus if he chooses to he can when he’s a adult and get it done or under ur permission. But yeah nah I never understand I feel it’s cruel a bit cuz I have heard my guy friends that are circumcised Complain I feel bad for them lolll.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree with a lot of people here that it’s an outdated trend and is comparable to FGM in some ways. I would let your child keep his parts, he doesn’t have anyone else to speak up for him so that’s your job if you feel it’s not right 🙂

Aquariusmystery · Answer

I wouldn’t unless it’s a religious or medical reason. I think it’s cruel

SomeTrashBag · Answer

My circumcision left me with a disfiguring scar that will cost me thousands to have fixed. So I would say no.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Leave it be. If he wants it done when he's older it's on him.

Anonymous · Answer

Well in China they don’t circumcise boys until 6 years old, maybe if you wait and see if it becomes a problem then he can have it done himself. I was circumcised at birth so I don’t know any difference and still very sensitive there

NightHawk99 · Answer

Circumcision is genital mutilation. And anyone who considers it should be punished the same as any child predator.

TallAnon · Answer

I don't have my dick cut off and I'm doing pretty well, no need for that shit.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Its not circumcision, its called male genital mutilation

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Why not cut off a piece of his ears and nose while you're at it?

Anonymous · Answer

if you are not sure either way, i would let his dad make the decision on why or why not

Catlover1992 · Answer

Hmm... in my opinion. I think you should leave it alone.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Leave his body intact.

Anonymous · Answer

The decision should rest with the father alone.. No penis no opinion.. It's mutilation no more no less.

anylolone · Answer

Don't. Just don't. Let your baby decide once it's an adult.

BareNecessary · Answer

When he's older I'd say is best. Im circumsized and forever wonder what it wouldve been like

TheAfrikan · Answer

Simply do circumcise him for sure. So i am team chop it off.

Hanmakev · Answer

I say yes even though I’m not cir because I wasn’t stable when I was born

Anonymous · Answer

Well there're females who wouldn't date an uncircumcised guy. So if you choose not to, his dating life is doomed

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Don't decide for him.

888theGreat · Answer

Slice it , better hygiene

Anonymous · Answer

Foreskin is natural, leave it.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to ask your son this cause I am no him

Wise4myage · Answer

Get him circumcised.

es20490446e · Answer

Ask the doctor.

Pj1981 · Answer

Do it

Anonymous · Answer

Don't do it

PreetH_89 · Answer

No circ

Anonymous · Answer

cut.

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