How many kids do/did you want to have? Why?

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I have 2. I always wanted more than one.

It still bothers me that I had to grow up an only child. Almost everyone I knew had a sibling. I’ve always loved kids and would have been an amazing big sister.

When I think back on my childhood I remember being lonely and bored. When my parents would tell me we were going on vacation I would cry because I knew I was going to die of boredom doing some stupid tour of New Mexico art museums or something.

Never one trip to Disney or anything like that.

I feel like I missed out on a normal childhood.

I always said I didn’t understand why anyone would choose to only have one child. After I had a child I *understood* why someone would make that choice. But I always knew I wanted one more.

My life feels complete. It’s like the world was built for families of 4 and that is what I have. I would have felt an emptiness in my life forever without my youngest son.

TonyMetal___86 · Accepted Answer

I always wanted to have 2 kids because i was like you an only child but things don't work always the way we want it and that's why i have an only child, a son who is 14 and a half but i fill most of his time and never feels empty or alone unlike me who always felt lonely even though i had a wonderful father and mother but they always focused on buying me everything that i wanted and that's not a bad thing but life ain't only about money, i always wanted someone to be with me, someone who fills my life and motivates me to wake up every morning unlike games, toys, and money which gives you only a temporary happiness...

It is what it is, sometimes you feel that you have control over your life and everything is great and suddenly BOOM life teaches you that you have control over nothing and that you can face anything at anytime and your good times in life and all your happiness are just a memory from the past now...

Yeah that's how it works, just live and appreciate every positive and happy moment in your life because you never know what the future holds...

Nightroads · Accepted Answer

I have five biological, one one the way and a step daughter from my first marriage, as well as my oldest two children's half sister that i raised.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If I was in my 20s, I would choose to have around 3 and in my 30s with no kids or husband, I would like to have two, I might seek a surrogate if I have difficulty conceiving or marry so late that having kids is risky, you can’t pay surrogates in Canada or America but you can pay them in third world countries and do it legally, I mean I think finding a volunteer who does it for free would be hard since so much sacrifice is involved but I know a guy who found a surrogate in the third world and had his kids that way and now they live with him in Canada.

HOAAH · Answer

How many kids do you have? 3
Why? First of all, I really wanted one boy and one girl. It just sounds like the perfect family. The boy will be daddy's best friend and the girl would be mine when they grew up. As kids they would be best friends. Well, when my middle child was almost 5, my husband and I had mad baby fever. My sister and brother were both expecting a new baby and his sister was expecting twins. There were just so many babies about to be born. Our baby fever had us want that third baby. The third baby was love at first sight, just so gorgeous!! My heart.

But no more. Babies are so expensive. I thought i was done at 2, so i didn't keep any baby clothes or toys or furniture etc. Had to start at ground zero again.

Right now my baby wants a baby bike and I had one... 5 years ago. 😩

Exxon · Answer

I'm not married but I think a girl maybe 2 would be great to have, girls are cute, boys are just trouble when they grow up and hard to control especially in terms of physically, yet girls are easy to control ( *I hope) and like i said they are too cute,
yeah I want a girl, I want to do her hair everyday, I want to take care of her.
The only cons. having a daughter in my mind is; I'm definitely gonna jealous once I see her with her boyfriend. I'll take care of her all these years and one day a young come up, marry with her and take her.. god that idea is just killing me, not gonna lie, :D

shoujogal · Answer

4 kids! Boy, girl, boy, then the youngest, girl!
Like we siblings.
I remember when everyday we joined or 1 hr each then Older brother will always say 7 mins more when we play Mario World Party!
Oh! I missed that time! But now!
Our baby sister has work and meeting daily or times a day.
These years my Big Bro and I were 30 +and my younger or youngest bro and baby sister, 20 +.
For us playing pc games has no age.
When we were only 2, me and my bro always play toys and pc games since family computer.
Then were 3, I played with my 2 brothers, Threat from outer space and other boy or unisex games.
When I'm 17 I played always with my younger brother and baby sister still with my best friend.
We 3 sing songs whenever we watch Sound of Music... <3 :)

MTC29 · Answer

I wanted no kids, and I have none. That suits me fine.

I have a younger sister. Our mom was a single mom and we had no money to go anywhere. There were no trips to Disneyland, or anywhere else that wasn't free. My mother was too proud to let others pay our way (a policy I disagree with), which meant that with our school friends on vacation during the summer, my sister and I spent a lot of time together.

As adults, my sister became my confidant and is the only person who I can place my full and complete trust in. I could not imagine life without her being there for me.

I'm sorry that you didn't have a sibling. Yes, you would have been a great older sister

matchrestore · Answer

I've always wanted one, maybe two. We have one son now, and we're probably done. Pregnancy was difficult (and potentially dangerous) for my wife, the cost of childcare is definitely a factor as well. We take vacations with other families with kids his age or with his cousin that's only a year younger. Any tips on keeping him from feeling the way you did as an only child?

Apple1996 · Answer

I'm about to have my 3rd here in month. I do plan on having a few more. Me and my hubby can't decide on the final number but I'm thinking 6. We both have big families so it's just what's normal to us. I know some people hate on big families but it's what we want and are use to. 🤷

DonkeyDan · Answer

I always wanted 2 kids, preferably a boy and a girl or 2 boys, I never wanted 2 girls though, I think 1 girl is enough trouble 😂. I don't really want children anymore though, I guess I just feel too old for it now. My parents were older when they had me and I think that plays a large part in why we don't get on so well.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Legit wanted 12 kids up until i turned 24. Now I’d settle for up to 2 kids with a least one being biological. Seriously, i used to say, I’d have as many kids as possible until i got at least 1 of each gender. Lol my Sims has already had 4 boys. She elderly now so i had to let her son marry someone for her to finally get a daughter (in law) 😂

Elliegirl · Answer

I have 3. Two boys and a girl, James, Matthew, and Hannah. Matthew and Hannah are twins. We initially wanted 4, but I think we’re gonna stop at 3. Had we not had twins, given our ages, particularly my age, we might’ve stopped at two. Might still have 4. Surprises do happen sometimes lol

tatianamay · Answer

I want to have 2 kids in the future. If I have 1, then i'm afraid my child would be lonely. I have an elder brother and he is my best friend, someone I can trust. I think for me, having 2 kids would be perfect

MrPickles13 · Answer

Thats great.

For me I don't want children there are reasons wbg. I know for onw I would never be a good parent. I don't really know what that's like. My genetics are meh. I don't have good mental health.

Childre. Has never been skmethjt that interests me really. I can admire those wbk choose to have a family. And respect them for there choice but I jusr feel like feel down j. My heart I know they aren't roe me.

stupidgirlllll123 · Answer

I wanna have 5 when I get older. I know it sounds weird, especially at my age, but I grew up with only one sibling but then she moved away for college when I was 9, so I lived without her for years, I want my future kids to be together forever. I've been thinking of names for baby girls too.

humanearth · Answer

I had 9 kids wanted zero. I was afaid of turning out my own father. Having my 1st son changed my mind on having kids. Turns out I think I made a great dad and now grandpa

Lliam · Answer

Zero. I just had no interest in dedicating the rest of my life to children. They're too much worry and responsibility. They are money pits. I wanted my OWN life.

Both my wife and I have commented on how glad we are not to have any, especially when we see how increasingly fucked up this world is becoming. I feel sorry for kids who are growing up these days.

Anonymous · Answer

None. I'm willing to have one, if I end up with someone who really wants a kid, but I personally would prefer not to. I've never really liked kids, even when I was a kid. And as someone who had an older brother who was a drug addict and criminal, I always wished I was an only child. I also think the world is overpopulated. There's a couple billion people too many in the world. World would be a lot cleaner and generally nicer if we let our population dwindle for a while.

Brown-Kitty · Answer

I have 2 boys 14 years old and 11 months and hopefully I will get to have one more that’s a girl after 5 years or so.

TrueConfection · Answer

I would happily have at least 5 more! Too bad I'm past my baby making prime. I'm still capable, but I think 45 is too old.

exitseven · Answer

I really had no set number in mind but after the third one it was apparent we could not handle anymore. I am glad we had three,

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I used to want children but I grown up with abusive childhood so I am worried if I put the same trauma I experience in another life. I don't want to put another person in that position like I had to grown up.

DaveToo · Answer

As I've stated before, my wife and I believed in ZPG, Zero Population Growth, so we had two. One to replace her and one to replace me. My oldest and her husband have also just got two. My youngest doesn't have children yet.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Well we initially wanted 4, but we also want them to not have big age gaps, and we have to be able to afford them all, so I think now we'll probably just go for 2.

Morgan_99 · Answer

I’m an only child. My mom couldn’t get pregnant again after a situation that happened. My mom always wanted to have as many kids as possible, basically just get pregnant from any guy she could. Part of me wants to follow her footsteps and then not. So I’m open to one child or possibly a large family from different daddies. Don’t judge.

beebella · Answer

Either 2 or 4. 😂

2 because I don't want an only child for a few reasons. And 4 because I've always kinda wanted a big family, but not too big and I feel like 4 kids would be my limit anyway.

Why not 3, you ask? I just don't like that number of kids, for some reason. Lmao

misterCage4 · Answer

I think 4 would be good. 2 girls and 2 boys. It'll probably be hard to provide for but that'll be totally worth it if I can raise 4 kids with a lovely mature woman.

I am still young and probably not gonna have any soon so that number might change.

nawtee_me · Answer

When I got married I told my wife that I wanted a football team, she told me I needed another wife... lol She had two when we married and we had another two so I ended up with two doubles teams for tennis but not quite a Basketball team though... lol

meetkitty123 · Answer

I wanted 4 I have 2 and I still long for those other 2

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Ideally I want no children. Max one. And that's if something terrible happens to the measures we put in place to prevent them lol

I am one of 4. My siblings are triplets and they were born on my 8th birthday. So I went from being an only child to one of 4 and I don't think I ever recovered lol

Plus I don't particularly enjoy being around children in general so it seems silly to me to have a child when I don't desperately want one. 🤷🏼‍♀️

MCheetah · Answer

Zero, because I have sh*tty genetics and me creating another human being out of them (even if the girl I slept with was genetically perfect) would be child abuse and a crime against humanity.

Bluemax · Answer

I wanted to have 2. Alas, it didn't happen. I shall be the first in a long lineage going back about 4 billion years who never reproduced! A dubious distinction!

pink_and_inlove · Answer

In the future when i feel ready, I just want two. I have an aunt that also just wanted two but it ended up being 3 😂

NathanDavis · Answer

if I ever have kids I'd like a pair number, so that's either two or four, no less no more

clampfan101 · Answer

I’d love 4, maybe 6, with the boy/girl ratio being even. (I don’t know how unrealistic that is. lol) But for now I’m still just looking for a girlfriend…

Guardian45 · Answer

I am an Only. Like you, I NEVER wanted only one. My girlfriend and Ex, both, had abortions against my wishes. Now, I'm afraid I will NEVER have an heir. My name stops with me.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

0, because I don't think having kids would make me happy. I can't deal with the crap life throws my way, so I'd rather not bother with something that I don't deem as necessary.

Subarugirl · Answer

I have one and that is more than enough for me. I wouldn’t have any another.

douride2 · Answer

I was on the fence about kids. As it turned out I can't bare children. Please don't suggest adoption. I ok with how things turned out.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I always thought I wanted 2 or 3 but since I’m expecting my first child at the age of 21 probably only this one, possibly one more but that’s pretty slim

JennBITx · Answer

I do not have any or plan on any. Mainly because of my seizures

Relux47 · Answer

The same amount that my mother has because it’s a good amount

poneglyphs · Answer

I have no idea about having kids if I can barely get a girlfriend

Twalli · Answer

0 and I made sure I will. I don't mind raising children though.

KAT247 · Answer

I have one kid already. I would probably want one more. After that, I would not feel comfortable

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I want/ed to have 4, right now I am second guessing so i dont know, but I want to adopt as well.

IAMNathanael · Answer

Maybe one or two. Hopefully not before I'm very old lol

TheKweenie · Answer

I have one and I'm pretty content with that. I don't think I would want more.

InventorofWarp · Answer

Between 0-2. I'm undecided. It's not an overtly poignant concern in my life right now.

KevnHanma · Answer

0 I fucking hate kids if pedophiles had an archnemesis it would be me  Ironically though I’m really good with small children 🙄

sattii2607 · Answer

I always wanted 2, we have one and second one is round the corner.

Slim57 · Answer

Zero. Life is hard enough taking care of my own self

_Troian_ · Answer

Don't think like that, it doesn't mean every person who have brothers or sisters are happy. Some people have siblings but they hate eachother and never get along with eachother well, it wasn't written in your fate so let it be.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'll stick with 2, 4 if 2nd is twins as I want an even number of kids.

Ironic_Method · Answer

None. So far, so good. Because I like money, time, and energy.

tomtom05131 · Answer

I wanted two but only have the one daughter and in the end i couldn’t be happier. She is the world to me.

RiverUndertheSkY · Answer

4, since it’s like tradition in my family

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't care. Zero is fine. But I'd prefer not to have a whole lot.

Eleni88 · Answer

I’m not having any I like my freedom, and my job I grew up the first of 7 lot of times raising my siblings. Don’t get me wrong I love my siblings.

Jayplays900 · Answer

None. Dirty little shits always eat my food.

Agape93 · Answer

Zero. I never wanted kids.

ChiPaPa · Answer

None. I am never going to have a relationship, so having kids is a waste for me. I want the whole package (wife and kids) or no kids at all.

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