Met a new acquaintance who wants to be a nurse but I don't think she has what it takes to become one. Should I tell her?

[Anonymous]

I'm not trying to be rude or anything but how do you tell an acquaince that they can't and won't become a nurse?

here's why, she's literally a procrastinator, not focused, not goal oriented, and not a go getter.

should I tell her or just watch her fail?🤣💀💀


https://youtu.be/YgSPaXgAdzE

Tell her the flaws you see in her so that she can better prepare herself

Nah, don't say anything watch her fail💀🤣🤣

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+1 y

Her gen Ed's have expired they're 8 years old. Can y'all imagine a procrastinator like this during a code blue💀💀?🤣

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+1 y

Good news! I had a serious talk with her. Referred her to a local university. She will be talking to a guidance counselor next week

[ohshee]

To become a nurse you have to be a very special person you have to have any insight you have to be so hard you have to be on top of things and you want to help people you have to understand that you and body with her wanting to become this the first thing she's going to have to do is understand herself and if this is her dream you have to let her fail by herself so she can start all over again this is something that I know your heart is in the right place to either make her work harder but I don't know this is a tough call here I would almost say you have to let her fail first and then give her nothing but positive energy

[ohshee]

And this is that special part of being a nurse that people have to understand and become and you just proved it I see a picture of Happy New Year and you started it out right that girl will never know it how much you just did for her actually a lot of people want did I understand it and I say good job

[TheBigGuy9]

I would t say anything. I got all Fs in middle school and in high school I didn’t try til my senior year. I averaged a 2.6gpa and got 33 on my ACT. Second time I took it I got really low because of a distraction. The girl next to me had big cans and she took her sweater off before the exam. I got a 16 lol.
I didn’t open a book til junior year in college and I averaged a 3.7gpa

[Asker]

She did gen Ed's 8 years ago and never transfered them to get into a nursing program. Basically she just stopped 8 years ago after she did her gen Ed's. Never applied to transfer them to nursing school.

[Asker]

It's been 8 years🥴 she's been like this for 8 years.2022 will be 9 years

[TheBigGuy9]

Let her fail on her own. Be supportive, but don’t ever tell them they can’t do something even if you know they can’t. Friends don’t want to hear that from other friends.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Proper education might just train her well. She might prove you wrong. My niece didn't look like she had it in her many years ago. Now, she's a front-liner that the hospital she works for is very proud of.

[Asker]

I'd love for her to be successful. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful hardworking person. My issue with her is her bringing up imma do this imma do that yet never does anything she says. I can't stand people like that because I'm a go getter. Of she's not going to do anything then she needs to just shut up

[shaysh87]

I'm gonna start a nursing program soon. The thing that people don't understand about nursing is that studying nursing, or any science field is extremely difficult, time consuming and requires significant grit, hard work, perseverance. Nursing school or its prerequisites courses are definitely not for people who are lighthearted on their goals, give up when they see obstacles, rather go to sleep on time than to stay up all night trying to pass exams.

[shaysh87]

Nursing is also one of the most ridiculously competitive majors to get accepted into. Most people who want to study nursing end up getting rejected.

[Dee_Reynolds]

If you haven’t known her that long, she may see your honest concern as a form of criticism and become defensive.

[Dee_Reynolds]

Now if it was a lady friend who you’ve known for years, it would be different. She may see your comment as a means to look out for her best interest so she doesn’t get too far in before finding out the hard way that nursing was a bad idea.

[Asker]

I know that's why I asked this because she keeps bringing up school yet she sat on her gen Ed's for 8 years. She just procrastinator, waits for things to fall in her lap, doesn't initiate yet expects to get through nursing school. Her gen Ed's are expired and it's like who the heck waits around for 8 years and let's credits go to waste that's just crazy

[Dee_Reynolds]

If you really want to bring it up, chose a setting that won’t allow her to make a scene.

[Asker]

I won't bring it up but if she brings it up then I'll ask her ," what are you doing with your life?" So far she's been all talk and no action with everything.

[Dee_Reynolds]

Get it girl.

[ItsOnlyMe70]

I got C, D F through grade school & high school and I was a high school dropout, joined the Navy went to boot camp when I was 17 got a medical discharged because they found ound out I had Asthma. From summer before freshmen yr I started using speed stop when I went to boot camp, that lasted a month came home, went right back to using speed from 18 to 25 went to nursing school while still using. Who are you to say she can't do it, and her gen ed, who cares, some places will hire you and train you and get you all your cert and paper's you need? Plus, there is always the way of going to i call it a trade school where you only go for like 6months and do your intern and boom good to go it's what i did.

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

how do you know she will fail. because of past perfomances. She might find this is what she need to thrive, then again she may not but is up to her to fail or not Not what you think you know about her.

[Asker]

I've already put how I know in the post. Read it. Second , her credits are 8 years old🤣. Like who sits on credits for 8 years and never transfers them. They won't take any credits beyond 4 years for nursing program. She's dumb. Every time we talk she says imma do it imma do it and literally does nothing with her life. She's a complete waste of time. And doing nothing with her life

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

you tube would not load got no real info but again I would say leave her alone and let her fail because if she is really that bad nothing you or I say is going to change her or her way of thinking , you are waisting you time if she is as bad as you say. Hopefully she wake up some day

[Asker]

Yeah you're right. 🤣 I hope she wakes up too but doubt it since she's wasted 8 years of her life

[Msputiton]

Never shoot down anyone's dreams.
They really want it enough they will surprise you.
My entire hs i was told i couldn't get a scholarship from basketball because I'm too small.

Well I'm a junior in college, on a scholarship from basketball.

There is never a reason to shoot down anyone's dreams

[Asker]

It's been 8 years🥴 she's been like this for 8 years.2022 will be 9 years

[Asker]

She shot her own dreams down

[Screenwriter]

Her seeing a guidance counselor is a great idea. Then she will understand what she needs to do AS a nursing student and as a future nurse.

However, though it doesn't seem to YOU that she could be a nurse, people change to reach goals. Her plan to be a nurse could alter her bad habits and change her life.

[Raphaëlle]

Depends on how well you know her. If it's a friend, I would bring it up in a casual conversation like have you thought about how much you've to focus on school and homework and so on. If it's not a friend, then I would try to sus out the reason why a nurse and see what the motivation behind it is.

[MrOracle]

You need to shut up and let HER deal with it. Will she fail? Probably. If so, maybe she'll learn a lesson. Maybe she won't. But it's not your job to make those decisions for her.

[Asker]

🤣 id love to just shut up and I plan to. But if she keeps coming to me saying imma do this imma do that then when you ask her how's it going and she says she hasn't started I'm going to say something. But if she never brings it up again then I won't say anything

[BubbaTech]

Don't judge her. But either ignore the faults, or uplift her in her attempt. Encourage her to focus, study, learn what she needs to be a nurse.

If then she decides it is too much, support her in something else. You may just be an acquaintance, but act like a friend.

[pleasestopthis]

But you can't know for sure she'll fail. Don't forget a lot of clever people got belittled and no one expected anything from them and they did great things. Let her be, even if she fails she will learn a lesson from it.

[Asker]

It's been 8 years🥴 she's been like this for 8 years.2022 will be 9 years

[pleasestopthis]

wait, she's already studying for it, and it's been 8 years?

[Asker]

She did gen Ed's 8 years ago and never transfered them to get into a nursing program. Basically she just stopped 8 years ago after she did her gen Ed's. Never applied to transfer them to nursing school.

[pleasestopthis]

WOW. Then I guess you're right lol

[Asker]

Pfff🤣🤣 yeah like wow 9 years. Those gen Ed's are expired now

[CarolineW]

I think you need to let her try. Nurses get good training and she may well surprise you.

[Asker]

Her gen ed credits have already expired💀💀. They are 8 years old see what I mean? Who sits on their credits for 8 years? She has to retake all that over. And watch her once again want another 8 years. Now imagine a procrastinator like her during a code blue🤣💀

[Guardian45]

If she's your friend tell her, but your reasons mean nothing. I knew a guy in HS just like her, and a pothead, a joker and a truant. Fast forward 6 years later, he graduated top of his class from medical school. He was a genius without a goal.

[Asker]

She's not my friend she's an aqauntaince

[Asker]

An *acquaintance and she's 43 now going on 44. Still fooling around like a child

[Guardian45]

Then she'll be weeded out or not.

[Hangry06]

I don't think people should advice acquaintances on their career choice

[Asker]

She brought it up twice and still has done nothing. So I'll just sit back and watch her fail.

[Hangry06]

You talk like you're obliged to do something about it.

[Asker]

No you're comprehension of what I've said has lead you to believe that

[Asker]

*your

[Hangry06]

Did you really make it Anonymous? Smh

[jasco]

Honestly more than likely I just let her be. She will figure it out eventually but at the same time I would try to help her just so she won't be disappointed

[SaraSmithishere]

I wouldn't. If she hates her major, maybe she can go into medical billing, become and X-ray tech, etc.

[emperor90]

Dont say anthing u dont want to say you never know she might do a good job

[Asker]

I'd wish so. But she obviously doesn't act like it. Her gen Ed's have experienced she sat on them for 8 years.

[swettannie]

well, i feel like even if you are honest with her, she's probably gonna reject what you said

[Asker]

Right, I agree that's just how some people are wired. So which did you vote for?

[swettannie]

watch her fail of course

[Asker]

🤣💀💀

[swettannie]

some people need to realise that they need to work hard for their dream

[Asker]

Right , unfortunately she doesn't want to do that. She always wants people to help her, invite her here, do this for her but does nothing for others

[PeterSmith1983]

You might underestimate her!

[Asker]

I honestly want her to do good. But I am so tired of her saying what she's gonna do and never does it. Trust me I like being associated with successful hardworking people. This quality in her is a turn off

[PeterSmith1983]

Well let's wait and see what happens you need to fail sometimes to finally succeed

[Wise4myage]

No, not unless she asks for your thoughts.

[Asker]

Pahahahshsh🤣🤣 did u vote watch her fail?

[Wise4myage]

Yes I did.

[Asker]

🤣🤣

[Wise4myage]

How else is she suppose to learn?

[Asker]

I don't know I just think it would be funny if she came to me and was like I failed my test. Then I'm like wow I'm so sorry this happened to you. Then I go home and laugh 🤣💀. I don't know it's just funny. But I agree

[Wise4myage]

Don't be mean.

[Asker]

I'm not 🤣. It's just she's not realistic. She always talks big but never does anything to accomplish anything. She's all talk, her focus is off, she procrastinates , and not a go getter

[Wise4myage]

Ok, I hear ya.

[JohnK123]

Don’t let her fail hahaha
if she fails she could end up hurting or killing someone so yeah

[Heartache0405]

Nah. Let her figure it out on her own.

[Paris13]

Well Done, hun!!! xxoo