Is it kind of annoying if someone asks you what you think of them?

[Still-alive]

wondering how that question comes across to people.

I sometimes ask this of people out of pure curiosity. I like what i think of myself and what others think of me to be somewhat congruent cause it makes me feel im truly authentic in a way.

I know you shouldn't care what others think but if there's a common bad trait people are citing about you it might be time to reflect upon that and maybe change that. I wanna be the best version of myself basically.

anyways so yeah what goes through your mind about a person asking you this question?

It’s annoying

Only if its constantly asked

I dont find it annoying

I ask people this myself sometimes

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+1 y

I personally only usually ask once or twice after talking to them awhile.

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+1 y

Hmm i didn't think this type of question was all that annoying. I understand if its constantly asked like many questions like it. But i never found it annoying if anyone asked it of me once or twice.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Only time I really experienced this, was a guy I met for the first time and he kept asking me, obviously trying to flirt and get a kiss. And he just kept asking and it was super fluffing annoying.

If it was a friend or someone I was comfortable with, I wouldn't mind talking with them about it, it can be fun to talk about, also if they reciprocated it.
I find it interesting to see how I come across from others. Especially because a big part of my life I've been so nervous and shy I couldn't focus on anything but the nerves and how I felt and tried to hold a conversation.

[Kayla45]

Every once in a while it's fine, but certainly not all the time. Then it just gets repetitive and overly annoying. You just have to find the right balance between it, don't ask too often but don't flat out not say it either..

[Kayla45]

It's great to keep friendships in check, otherwise how would you know if you're still good by the other person's standards?

[Still-alive]

Well I never ask constantly. Once maybe twice after a longer period of tome talking to them

[Kayla45]

Thanks for most helpful girl 💖

[Still-alive]

you calling me a girl? :P

jk lol you're welcome

[NathanDavis]

when people ask me ~What do I think about them~ it doesn't bother me and it doesn't annoy me...

I guess that if the same person asked me that over and over, it could be strange but that has never happened to me... they just usually ask once

and then I will answer the best I can and always with honesty, because sometimes... you don't that person very well yet, so I am careful to word out my perception of them as an impression, as an idea that is not fully there yet... or if I know them better, if I know them well then it's a lot easier to give them something

also, I always make sure to find out why they ask and why they want to know about that... these kind of questions always lead to interesting conversations, and it should be conversations and not just a one question thing... lol

[dustybiker]

When asked it comes across as the person is insecure, so I click into protective mode.
On the other hand..
Growing up with male friends I was used to getting open and blunt opinions without ever having to ask for them. lol

[Still-alive]

Why protective mode?

[NathanDavis]

@dustybiker you only get better in my ancient book...

[dustybiker]

@Still-alive That is someone open emotionally. That is someone at the most venerable. It triggers protection in me, so they aren’t hurt.

@NathanDavis lol Thanks.

[Still-alive]

Gotcha. Do you agree with anything i said in my details?

[dustybiker]

* vulnerable (damn spell check)

[dustybiker]

@Still-alive No. I think it's dangerous to live your life off of other people opinions, as there are too many of them. It would stop you from living by feeding that illogical voice and creating a pattern. We need to find our own paths. Learn to like ourselves.

[Still-alive]

Hmm i agree that constantly asking does mean what you say. But i still like to say be open to criticism. And i feel asking a person once or twice clues me into that criticism more directly. If it’s something im hearing constantly i may reevaluate that thing they have criticism of. And this is usually after awhile of getting to know them by the way.

I dont really view it as living my life by what they tell me. Im living it how i see fit but i just dont want to become to full of myself.

[dustybiker]

@Still-alive I can see your point of view too.

[Cherry234]

It depends on who is asking. Also if someone is constantly asking then I do find it very annoying. I don't ask people what they think of me.

[Still-alive]

So what do you find annoying about it?

[Cherry234]

Because if someone is constantly asking then it tells me that person is insecure. It's frustrating having to always reassure someone.

[Still-alive]

Yes I understand. So just once or twice is fine?

[Cherry234]

Yeah that's fine.

[Still-alive]

Do you agree with anything i wrote in my details?

[Cherry234]

Yes, the third paragraph where you mentioned asking people because of some bad trait they say about you.

[Still-alive]

Yes you get me then. :)

Cause i dont want to be that person who thinks way too highly of themselves, i want to be the best version of me.

[Cherry234]

I understand. I feel that way too. 😊

[normalice]

It is kind of annoying as it presumes I think of them at all, which is usually not the case, but even for those who I do think about I think in a sort of mush of memorized summaries or abstract emotional images and being asked to put them into words on the spot is a strain.

[KellyKOO]

Context matters when and how you're asking. If a person asks directly, they aren't gonna get a honest answer , because no one wants to be mean or hurtful to a friend who may have flaws. Granted , we all have flaws , but hearing it hurts.

[Still-alive]

I disagree cause I always preface it by telling them to be honest and promising i won't be upset

[KellyKOO]

That doesn't mean they are going to be honest. In fact they'll probably be kind because it can come of as being insecure.

My comment wasn't directed at you by the way. It was a general view. Your situation could be different tho.

[Still-alive]

Eh i just dont see it that way tbh

[KellyKOO]

Okay 😊

[Apulu_3]

It isn't annoying unless asked more than 5 times. What do you think of me? lol

[Still-alive]

Cute, smart, seem like a bright young lady :)

[Apulu_3]

Thank you haha I thought you will ignore this lol.

[Still-alive]

Nah i pay attention sometimes :)

[anon171999]

Yes. If someone asks that I'm flat out telling them that their opinion of themselves should be the only one that matters, not mine.

[menina]

I don't think it's annoying at all. In fact what you said makes all sense to me. It's not something I ask other people but it's nice to know.

[XXblack88]

It's only annoying when it's constantly being asked.

[Mysterreverything]

I think it's totally not annoying because they're letting me know that they are curious to know my opinions and maybe change themselves accordingly.

[Yumix]

Not necessarily annoying, but not a question I like answering

[douride2]

I find that question very annoying.

[Still-alive]

why? and even if just once?

[douride2]

What do you think of me is just like the How do I look topic here on GAG. I have that blocked.

[Still-alive]

hmm i don't really see the correlation there. but ok.

[ChiTown33]

I don't get why someone would ask such a question.

[Still-alive]

I explain it in my details

[ChiTown33]

I guess what I'm saying is it's kind of like a survey. Anyone who has taken psychology knows that when your test subject knows your motives behind asking a question. The answer changes. I would never ask such a question because I know you cannot get an honest answer. The very nature of asking the question changes the answer.

[Still-alive]

Eh i dont get it. How wouldn't they not give you an honest answer?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't find it annoying

[DaveToo]

It comes across as insecurity, to me anyway.

[llorando]

Only if its constantly asked.

[moonpie89]

I actually dont mind answering that question lol

[Msputiton]

Not annoying.

[lottiebannotie]

Only if I'm unsure